Anilingus - also known colloquially as rimjob or anus licking - can be a very intense experience, but requires more preparation than many other practices. Trust, hygiene and a clear agreement between you are crucial. This guide will show you how you can make anilingus safe, conscious and pleasurable for both of you.
- 1 What does anilingus mean?
- 2 Anilingus - intense stimulation for all genders
- 3 Tongue games around the anus
- 4 Preparing for anal sex with anilingus
- 5 Aids for anilingus
- 6 Cleanliness and safer sex aspects of anilingus
- 7 Tips for all levels - anilingus step by step
- 8 Role play step by step - depending on the level
- 9 Conclusion: Enjoy anilingus consciously and safely
What does anilingus mean?
Anilingus is the oral stimulation of the anus. Common terms are rimjob, rimming, anal kissing or anal licking. It always means the same thing: the anus is stimulated with lips and tongue.
The anus is heavily supplied with nerves in all people and can react very sensitively to touch. Anilingus is therefore interesting for all genders - regardless of who is licking and who is receiving.
Anilingus - intense stimulation for all genders
Anal licking is not tied to a specific gender. Anyone can give or receive anilingus. The anus is an erogenous zone where many nerves lie just under the skin. Light touches can therefore trigger strong reactions.
So that both of you can relax, you should talk openly beforehand about your wishes, boundaries and also about possible risks such as bacterial transmission. Only when you feel safe and informed should you start.
Talk openly about hygiene, positions and a stop signal beforehand. The clearer the agreements, the easier it will be for you to let yourselves go.
Tongue games around the anus
Anilingus doesn't have to be complicated. Many people find even gentle licking around the anus very intense. You don't have to be a "tongue acrobat" - it's more important that you react attentively and take your time.
- Around the anus: Use the tip of your tongue or a flat tongue to stroke in a circle around the anus.
- From the coccyx downwards: With a pointed tongue, start at the top of the butt crease and slowly move down to the anus.
- Flat tongue: Place the tongue flat on the anus and move it with light pressure.
- Combination with other zones: For women, anilingus can be combined with classic oral sex - but always ensure the correct sequence (see hygiene).
Many receptive people can reach orgasm through anilingus alone, others need additional stimulation. Both are normal - there is no "obligatory reaction".
Preparing for anal sex with anilingus
Anilingus can be a good introduction to further anal play or anal intercourse. The tongue can be used to stimulate and relax the area in very fine doses.
- Start off slowly: first just lick and circle the outside.
- Increase carefully: If it is pleasant, the tongue can penetrate the anus minimally - just a few millimetres.
- Combine with fingers or toys: Later, fingers or small Anal plugs can be added to slowly increase the stretching.
It is important to give the receiving part time. The body decides the pace - not the head.
Aids for anilingus
If you like it more hygienic or protected, you can use aids:
- Dental dams: Thin cloths that are placed between the mouth and anus and protect against direct contact with bodily fluids.
- Flavored lubricant: Special flavored lubricants can make the smell and taste more pleasant.
- Anal toys: Vibrators or plugs for the anal region can provide additional stimulation and intensify the experience.
Cleanliness and safer sex aspects of anilingus
The anus is naturally an area with lots of bacteria. Hygiene is therefore particularly important during anilingus - for both comfort and health reasons.
- Preparation: Shower or bathe together, clean the anal area thoroughly.
- Optional anal shower: A gentle anal shower can increase the feeling of well-being, but is not a must.
- No switching from anus to vulva/penis without protection: Never switch directly from the anal area to the vulva or penis without cleaning - this can promote infections.
- Use lick wipes: Highly recommended for additional protection against germs and when changing partners.
Anyone with pre-existing conditions, a weakened immune system or uncertainties about the risk of infection should seek medical advice beforehand. This guide does not replace medical advice.
Tips for all levels - anilingus step by step
Level 1 - Beginners
- Only start with a trusted partner.
- Shower together and clear agreement in advance.
- Initially only external touches around the anus.
- Be able to stop at any time - agree a safeword if necessary.
Level 2 - Advanced
- Include licking cloths, flavored lubricant or anal toys.
- Combination with other erogenous zones (e.g. e.g. penis, breast, vulva).
- Try light penetration with the tongue if desired.
Level 3 - Experienced
- Use anilingus specifically as preparation for anal intercourse.
- Combine with plug or finger training.
- More complex scenarios or longer sessions - with breaks, feedback and clear safer sex rules.
Role play step by step - depending on the level
Level 1 - Beginner
Simple scenes: one of us spoils, the other lets himself go passively. Clear instructions on when to start and when to stop.
Level 2 - Advanced
Incorporate roles such as "service", "reward" or "special attention". Anilingus can be linked to certain conditions (e.g. e.g. as a reward after a task).
Level 3 - Experienced
Integrate anilingus into more complex BDSM or power play scenarios, e.g. e.g. as a fixed ritual or part of a session structure - always with clear boundaries and a safeword.
Conclusion: Enjoy anilingus consciously and safely
Anilingus can be very intense and varied - provided that hygiene, trust and open communication are right. If you take time for preparation, safe sex and clear agreements, you can integrate anal pleasure into your sex life in a relaxed and responsible way.
Ekelhafter Gedanke
Schon allein der Gedanke, an einem Arschloch zu lecken, schreckt mich ab. Ekelt mich regelrecht an. Warum macht man denn so was? Also ja, ich hab das schon verstanden, was ihr hier schreibt, mit den Nervenenden und so. Aber ehrlich, es gibt so viele erogene Zonen am menschlichen Körper. Kann man denn da den After nicht einfach After sein lassen? Er dient dazu, das verdaute Essen wieder rauszulassen. Sorry, aber auch bei großer Reinlichkeit, ist das ein enormer Bakterien und Keime Herd. Jedem seins, aber an mein Hinterteil kommt niemand ran und ich mag auch weder an einem anderen schnüffeln, noch lecken.
Ich liebe den Pogeruch
Was manche als ekelhaften Gedanken sehen, finde ich widerum echt erotisch. Ich gehöre zu denen, die Anilingus echt lieben. Ich muss sagen, meine Frau ist auch eine echt gepflegte Person. Na klar hat der Hintern einen eigenen Geruch. Der lässt sich auch nie ganz wegwaschen, aber auch dass ist etwas, was mich richtig heiß macht. Der Po meiner Frau ist knackig und wohlgeformt. Der Anus sieht ästhetisch aus und verlockt regelrecht zu Küssen und Spielen mit der Zunge.
Nur für kleine Abrutscher zu haben
Also so ganz intensiv ist dieses Anilingus nichts für mich. Aber wenn die Zunge des Partners einfach mal so zwischendurch abrutscht, finde ich dass jetzt nicht so unangenehm. Okay, aber das mit den Bakterien von After in Vagina ist dann doch wieder bedenklich, bei den Abrutschern zwischendurch :/