BDSM punishments are varied and almost limitless. In many D/s and BDSM relationships, punishments are part of everyday life. It is an ongoing power game between the dom and sub: if a rule is broken, a punishment follows - sometimes playful, sometimes very intense.
The dominant partner can always develop new punishment ideas or draw inspiration from historical and modern SM practices. Both psychological and physical BDSM punishments are possible. The psyche in particular can be strongly influenced - targeted humiliation or deprivation are often harsher than any lash with a whip.
Implement BDSM punishments safely - the right accessories
With the right BDSM toys, you can make punishments controlled, safe and very intense:
- Bondage ropes - for restraints ranging from simple fixation to decorative shibari bondage.
- Whips & crops - ideal for classic spanking punishments with variable intensity.
- Paddles & spanking instruments - for controlled pain on buttocks, thighs & more.
- Chastity cages & chastity devices - perfect for orgasm prohibition & pleasurable frustration.
- Electro sex toys - stimulation current for finely dosed punishment and intense sensations.
Tip: Increase the intensity slowly, use a safeword and always pay attention to consensuality and aftercare.
Punishment via the psyche
Psychological BDSM punishments can be extremely effective. They play with attention, control and the sub's emotional attachment.
One possibility is targeted verbal abuse and belittling within the agreed framework. You can shout at your sub, humiliate them and "belittle" them with harsh words. For many, however, this is more of a short-term S&M punishment.
Ignoring can be much more lasting: You ignore your sub, don't respond to their efforts and treat them as if they were invisible. A submissive who wants to do everything they can to please you will experience this as a painful punishment. The message is that he is not allowed to serve you - and that is exactly what affects him emotionally.
Physical punishment
Corporal punishment offers a huge playground. Online forums, fetish communities and guides provide countless ideas - but in the end it's your imagination and your mutual agreement that counts.
Important: Boundaries, taboos and a safeword should be clarified before any punishment. Pain is part of the game, but should never cause real injury or damage to health.
Restraints
Shackling is one of the classic BDSM punishments. The sub's freedom of movement is restricted and he is therefore at the mercy of the dom's control. There are countless bondage methods - from simple cuffs to complex rope bondage techniques.
You can tie elaborate patterns with bondage ropes, use chains or work with gags, collars and leashes. Some bondage techniques give the sub a little freedom of movement, others are extremely restrictive and painful.
A long leash, for example, is exciting: The sub can move, but is always stopped short of the desired target. Tight restraints in particular can cause pain - but here you need to regularly check the blood flow and nerves (numbness, tingling).
Blows
Spankings are often the first association with BDSM punishments - and remain a classic. They can be gentle, playful or very severe.
Possible tools:
- the flat of the hand
- Paddle or claps
- multi-tailed whip or crop
- Cane or rod
Typical target areas are buttocks, thighs and back. Some also like hits on the soles of the feet - an old method of torture that can be very painful. Other areas such as the kidneys, spine, joints or head should be taboo, as they can quickly cause serious injuries.
Pain from electrical stimulation
Stimulation current is a particularly fine and easily dosed form of punishment. Depending on the intensity, the sensation varies between tingling, pressure and sharp pain.
There are adhesive pads that can be applied almost anywhere on the body, as well as Nippelklemmen, cockring or Anal plugs with an electric function. Stimulation current can be perfectly combined with restraints: The sub is restrained - and every impulse hits him completely at his mercy.
Makesure you only use BDSM-appropriate e-stim devices, never apply current to the heart, head or neck and follow all the manufacturer's safety instructions.
Pain through natural products
It's not just percussion instruments or electricity that cause punishment - natural products can also "burn".
Chili peppers: You can let your sub eat spicy food, for example - within limits that you discuss beforehand, of course. Extreme varieties or medical problems (stomach, intestines) should be a clear no-no.
Ginger ("figging"): Peeled ginger can be cut and inserted in the form of an "anal plug". The essential oils produce an intense burning sensation in the anal area, which many find very punishing.
Safety: No experiments with unknown spiciness, no use on open wounds or sensitive mucous membranes without experience, always clarify allergies and state of health beforehand.
Compulsion to act
BDSM punishments don't always have to be physical - "forcing the sub to act" can also be very effective. The sub has to do things that make them uncomfortable, humiliate them or stretch their comfort zone - within the scope of your agreement, of course.
Historically, "ass licking" was part of humiliating punishments; today, a rimjob can be used as a deliberate humiliation in a BDSM context. It is important that such practices are clearly discussed beforehand and are desired by both parties.
No matter which SM punishment you choose: Always make sure that your sub remains physically and mentally stable. It's a game with clear rules, not real violence.
Aftereach session: aftercare, closeness, cuddling, talking - this allows the sub to process what they have experienced and your trust grows.
SM punishments - let the games begin
There are countless ways to practise punishment in the field of SM. Many practices are not only "punishment", but also pleasurable play. Initial stalling or withdrawal games can later be combined with harsher means - for example with essential oils, chastity or tasks.
The orgasm ban
Playing with male pleasure is particularly exciting for keyholders, mistresses and dominatrices. An orgasm ban can be one of the most intense punishments for many subs.
Popular aids are Chastity cages and chastity belts. The sub is kept chaste for days or weeks, is allowed to be aroused, but does not have an orgasm. Your body, your show - but the climax remains forbidden.
Women can also be involved with chastity belts or clear rules (no orgasm without release). The game thrives on tease & denial: tease, build up, withdraw.
Held like a pet
Pet play is a mixture of role play and punishment. The sub is treated like a pet - as a dog, cat or other animal. He wears a collar, lead and possibly a muzzle or animal mask.
Anal plugs the role is reinforced with an animal tail. They are fed from the floor, from a bowl, not from the table. For many submissives, this is an intense experience of humiliation, surrender and pleasurable loss of control.
Playing with essential oils
Essential oils can make punishments particularly treacherous: At first, everything seems like a sensual massage - but little by little, the oil unfolds its effects.
Some oils cool, others warm the skin, while others produce a noticeable burning sensation. Anyone working with hot ingredients (e.g. chili extract) should only do so in diluted form, very carefully and never on mucous membranes.
It can be exciting to make the sub believe they are receiving a reward - only to then put on the Chastity cage as soon as the desire increases. Or a seemingly soothing massage that suddenly turns into a burning sensation.
Giving tasks
Tasks can also be SM punishments - sometimes erotic, sometimes quite mundane. The Dom can order household chores, care tasks or services as a duty.
The sub cleans, cooks, shops while the mistress relaxes in the bathtub. He may later have to wash her, apply cream, massage her - slowly, thoroughly, without being allowed to come himself.
Countless methods can be used to educate a sub - and they don't always have to be explicitly sexual. SM punishments can be imaginative, erotic, painful, tender or simply practical. The decisive factors are: Consensuality, clear rules, safewords and good aftercare.
Oh klasse! Habe hier schon schöne neue Ideen für Bestrafungen meines Partner gefunden. Das mit dem Ingwer finde ich sehr spannend. Chili ... ja auch nicht schlecht! Netter Beitrag, vielen Dank für die Inspiration.