In the BDSM segment, there are many types of play that seem unusual at first glance - and are fascinating for this very reason. One of these is ponygirl role play: a mixture of elegant staging, clear dominance, playful dressage and a very physical presence. If you enjoy role play, costumes and rituals, it's worth paying attention to this fetish.
- 1 What is a ponygirl anyway?
- 2 It all depends on the right equipment
- 3 Ponygirl games often require space
- 4 Ponygirls in the great outdoors - the special game of dominance
- 5 Safety, communication & consent
- 6 Tips for beginners, advanced and experienced users
- 7 Tips for all levels - Ponygirl step by step
- 8 Role play step by step - depending on the level
- 9 Conclusion: Ponygirl - playful elegance with depth
What is a ponygirl anyway?
A ponygirl is a person - often a woman - who dresses up as a 'pony' as part of a BDSM game and moves and behaves accordingly. The dominant part takes on the role of rider, trainer or owner. The power imbalance between the ponygirl and the active part is thus visually, physically and atmospherically visible.
Elements of dressage are typical: the ponygirl can jump over hurdles, pull a cart, walk certain steps or be led on the lunge. Very individual fantasies can be lived out through the type of adornment, clothing and equipment - from a noble show horse to a robust working mare. Ponygirls are anything but stereotypical: each pair defines their own role, intensity and style.
It all depends on the right equipment
The most important part of ponygirl games is the costume. It helps both sides to slip into their roles and combine the mental cinema with the physical experience.
Particularly popular are:
- Leather & tight-fitting clothes: corsages, bodysuits or harnesses emphasize body shapes and reinforce the feeling of being "decked out".
- Boots: Long, skin-tight boots - preferably with heels - give the ponygirl an upright, powerful silhouette and create that characteristic sound reminiscent of hoofbeats with every step.
- Masks & head harnesses: They slightly depersonalize the wearer, allow the ponygirl to sink more visibly into the role and support the focus on body language instead of facial expressions.
- Tail & plug: Many ponygirls love to wear a horse tail. This is often connected to a Buttplug and stays securely in place - good workmanship, the right size and plenty of lubricant are important here.
How the active part imagines their ponygirl depends on their wishes: playful and delicate, strict and sporty or pompous and glamorous. The important thing is to find out together what feels right, safe and beautiful for everyone involved.
Ponygirl games often require space
Even if ponygirls look impressive standing up, the full harmony of the game only unfolds when they are in motion. Many ponygirls enjoy not only looking like a pony, but also walking like one, being led and completing tasks.
Larger rooms or halls are therefore ideal: Here, ponygirls can practise step sequences, jump over small hurdles or run in circles. Echoing rooms amplify the sound of the boots - the clacking can feel like the clatter of hooves and add to the illusion.
Always think about safety: clear walking paths, no tripping hazards, stable hurdles and a good assessment of your physical strength. A ponygirl who jumps on high heels needs time to practise and someone to secure her attentively.
Ponygirls in the great outdoors - the special game of dominance
Ponygirl games are particularly impressive when they take place in a protected outdoor area (e.g. private property, suitable events). In the great outdoors, elegance, body awareness and the dynamic between dominance and devotion are shown to even greater advantage.
From running over soft ground to small jumps over obstacles, many things are possible. Some even set up small "courses": slalom around pylons, step sequences, being led on the lunge or - where safely possible - pulling small carts or single horses.
Perfectly coordinated movements, decorative harnesses and joint immersion in the fantasy world combine dominance and submission in a very sensual way. At the same time:
- Pay attention to privacy - no involuntary spectators, no public places.
- Protect the ponygirl from overexertion (heat, ground conditions, risk of tripping).
- Never overstrain or involve real animals - ponyplay is about people in roles, not real animals.
Safety, communication & consent
As with all BDSM games, the following applies: Safe, Sane, Consensual or RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). Ponygirl role play in particular involves movement, the risk of tripping, possible outdoor elements and sensory restrictions - making clear agreements all the more important.
- Establish safewords or hand signals if the ponygirl is unable to speak.
- Check physical limits beforehand (knees, back, fitness).
- Increase intensity slowly - from a decorative outfit to light dressage, then to longer scenes.
- Don't forget aftercare: get out of the role, get off the "high" and into closeness, warmth and loving affirmation.
Tips for beginners, advanced and experienced users
Tips for all levels - Ponygirl step by step
Level 1 - Beginners:
- Discuss fantasies together: What kind of pony? Elegant, playful, cheeky?
- Develop a little ritual: e.g. brushing hair, putting on a collar, a certain phrase to start with.
- Short sessions of 10-20 minutes with lots of feedback afterwards.
Level 2 - Advanced:
- Incorporate light dressage elements: Trotting on, stopping, changing direction, small hurdles.
- Keep a "training log": Which exercises work well, what would you like to improve?
- A clear difference between everyday life and pony time (clothing, language, title).
Level 3 - Experienced:
- Storylines: competitions, demonstrations, tests with points and rewards.
- Complex equipment, longer courses, perhaps own events or private play parties.
- Finely tuned dominance: strict commands, targeted breaks, intensive praise - always with room for safewords.
Role play step by step - depending on the level
Level 1 - beginners:
- Before the game: talk briefly about mood, daily form, boundaries.
- During the game: Simple commands, slow movements, focus on contact and breathing.
- After the game: Carefully put down the ponygear, lots of physical contact, discuss what was particularly nice.
Level 2 - Advanced:
- Before the game: Define the setting: Stable, arena or forest path? Adjust music & light.
- During the game: Combination of dressage, leading on the lead, possibly light use of whip (only in safe zones).
- After the game: Joint "conclusion": water, blanket, debriefing, possibly grooming rituals such as massaging feet or removing boots.
Level 3 - Experienced:
- Before the game: plan longer session, realistically assess physical exertion, define emergency plan (e.g. change shoes, interruption signs).
- In the game: Complete immersion in the role, ritualized commands, possibly "tests" with assessment, but always alert for signs of overload.
- After the game: Intensive aftercare with lots of closeness, emotional check-in and time to wind down. If necessary, talk about the experience again a day or two later.
Conclusion: Ponygirl - playful elegance with depth
The ponygirl is much more than just a flashy costume: it is a BDSM game in its own right that combines movement, body awareness, dominance, submission and extensive rituals. With the right equipment, lots of communication and a conscious eye for safety, you can use this imaginative form of play to deepen your dynamic - sometimes wild, sometimes elegant, always consensual.
