Anal sex is described by most as very intense and especially beautiful. It is one of the dirtiest types of sex (because of bacteria and co.) but, also a very intimate and trusting way of bonding. In order to have anal sex, you must be willing to fully relax.
The sphincter is a particularly strong muscle that protects us from accidentally defecating. The muscle is always in use and always tense. So before anal sex, you need to learn to relax the muscle. Prepare for anal stretching and proceed gently.
For beginners: Anal Always start stretching gently
You should always start the Anal stretch very gently. Especially for beginners it helps if a nice massage precedes the whole thing. This should not only take place on the buttocks, but on the whole body. Enjoy the touch, feel how all the muscles relax.
Use a massage oil, which can also be used as a lubricant. Also Anal lubricants can be used for massages. However, make sure that you do not use a lubricant with a numbing effect. These should only be applied to the area that is intended for anal sex.
Massages are an ideal way to prepare for anal sex. You will learn to relax your body, and fully engage in everything. The Anal training can be done bit by bit. At first, small massages with gentle pressure should be applied to the anal region. If necessary, you can then increase the pressure.
Test with a finger how willingly the muscles can be opened. If it is already quite problem-free with one finger, you can increase and add another finger. It is important that you have short cut fingernails, so that no injuries are inflicted.
Anal Training for single people
Anal training is also possible for single women and men. Here, the most important thing is to find the most comfortable position. You need to position yourself in a way that is comfortable for you and you still get good access to your anus. Try it out. Test what works best for you and then start massaging your anus with a good quality lubricant.
Proceed with gentle pressure and only when it goes without force or great effort, you can penetrate a little with your finger. Just a little and then gently increase. A good tool could also be a vibrator, a small plug, as well as beginner dildos.
Advanced anal stretching: when the toys come into play
If fingering is already working well and you can relax your anal region without much effort, you can dare to use sex toys with a clear conscience. There are already very, very small aids, which are not much thicker than a finger. Such beginner models are perfect to find out how a foreign body feels in your butt.
However, if you are already an advanced fan of anal pleasures, then go ahead and buy plugs of different sizes and venture into large dildos.
It is important that you always gently pre-stretch even when using toys. Use a good lubricant and always start with gentle pressure. Even if you are more advanced, the muscle will always tighten, otherwise there would be a serious muscle disorder. So even if you are used to it and have regular anal intercourse, you should approach the matter with gentleness and consideration.
Useful aids
Particularly useful aids are Anal lubricants. These should always be with you. Only in this way can you get nice and slippery and enjoy anal fun without pain. Lubricants with a special effect are especially interesting for beginners. There are anal lubricants with numbing effect as well as with cooling or warming effect.
Toys are also useful for Anal training. You can use them to stretch yourself bit by bit. Always start small and then increase. Plugs and dildos are available in different sizes and shapes. This way you can test what works and what you are not fit enough for yet.
Inserting the Anal plug and then holding out is also a very special thing that needs to be practiced. Test yourself to see how long you can stand it with the foreign body in your butt. How does it feel? Inserting the dildo also needs to be practiced. This is because it is not simply left in the butt like a plug, but also moved. You should do this continuously until you are so excited that you reach your climax.
Previous anal showers can be useful to maintain hygiene a little. The bottom is unclean and full of bacteria, no matter how well you wash. But it will be a little cleaner if you perform a colonic irrigation with an anal douche beforehand.
The aids work great? Then you're ready for really hot anal sex!
Things you should never do!
Never start penetrating your butt directly with a big toy, the stretching must always be done slowly and smoothly. Start small and then increase.
Never penetrate without lubricant! Dry penetration can cause painful injuries. With toys, only the part that is penetrated will notice. If it is anal intercourse, both parties can suffer injuries. This is because a penis is also very sensitive and should not penetrate "tight spaces" when dry.
For anal play between a woman and a man, never go from the buttocks to the vagina! The other way around is always possible. However, from butt to vagina is dangerous, because it can cause bad infections. No matter how cleanly washed the butt may be, there are always bacteria present. The bottom is ALWAYS an unclean thing.
You don't trust your partner? Then don't engage in anal stretching of any kind. It is a sexual preference that really requires intimate affection and deep trust.
