Anal play can be incredibly intense - if you take it step by step and listen to your body. Many people experience not only arousal but also deep relaxation via the anus. The key is to start slowly, choose soft material and use plenty of lubricant. [emotion emotion_id="386" ]
In this guide, we'll show you how to get started without fear, what you should bear in mind when preparing and which toys are suitable for beginners, advanced users and curious explorers.
- 1 Anal sex preparation
- 2 Experiences with anal sex
- 3
- 4 What is anal sex?
- 5 Sex positions for anal sex
- 6 First time anal sex
- 7 How to find the right personal lubricant for anal sex
- 8 Anal sex tips for beginners
- 9 Video about the Anal training set
- 10 Anal sex stories
- 11 Anal sex guide
- 12 What does anal sex feel like?
- 13 Anal sex for men
- 14 Why anal sex?
- 15 Questions about anal sex
- 15.1 Is anal sex unhygienic?
- 15.2 Does anal sex go smoothly?
- 15.3 Is anal sex painful?
- 15.4 Isn't anal sex actually dirty and does it leave marks?
- 15.5 How can I prepare for anal sex?
- 15.6 What else should I bear in mind during anal sex?
- 15.7 Will anal sex make me incontinent?
- 15.8 Can I reach orgasm through anal sex?
- 16 Video anal sex tips
- 17 Tips for all levels - anal sex step by step
Anal sex preparation
Your sphincter muscle is not designed for penetration. But that doesn't mean that anal sex isn't possible - you just need a little practice, patience and the right approach. Let's start with the most important basics.
Preparing for anal sex: Your basic equipment
A few simple basics will help you get off to a relaxed start with anal pleasure: a small, well-shaped anal toy, sufficient Anal lubricant and reliable cleaning. This way, you stay in control and can approach the new sensation at your own pace.
- Anal plugs & butt plugs - selection for beginners & advanced users
- Anal-Lubricant - specially developed for anal play
- Cleaning & care - to keep toys hygienic
Tip: Always start with smaller diameters and lots of personal lubricant. Once your body has gotten used to it, you can slowly increase the size.
Experiences with anal sex
People of all genders and orientations enjoy anal sex: homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual, active or passive. Many love this particularly intimate and intense form of sexuality and regularly incorporate it into their love life.
If you have no previous experience, it is completely normal to be curious and want to try it out at least once. That's exactly what this guide is for - so that pleasure, safety and respect go hand in hand.
Plan your first Anal experience consciously - not as a quickie. Take a quiet evening, create a pleasant atmosphere, have lube, towels and possibly a small anal toy ready and set yourself just one goal: to feel curious, not to "function".
What is anal sex?
The definition of anal sex is simple: during anal sex, the penis or a similar sex toy is inserted into the anus of the passive partner and moved around. It sounds unspectacular, but for many it can feel extremely intense and fulfilling.
There are several reasons for this. Firstly, trust plays a huge role. The passive partner must be able to let go and relax for anal sex to feel good. The active part usually enjoys the tightness and intense friction.
Many active men describe anal sex as much more intense than vaginal sex. Women like to take the active part and penetrate their partner anal with strap-on dildos. Even if they are not physically stimulated directly, the dominant feeling and visible pleasure can be extremely arousing for the other person.
The passive part - whether man or woman - can experience anal sex particularly intensely. There are an extremely large number of nerve endings around the anus. Irritation and penetration can therefore trigger very strong feelings of pleasure. In men, the prostate can also be stimulated via the anus - so an orgasm is possible even without direct stimulation of the penis.
Sex positions for anal sex
There are some positions that are particularly suitable for anal sex. They ensure that the anus is easily accessible and give you a lot of control over penetration depth and speed.
The classic doggy position is very popular. The passive partner stretches their bottom upwards and can comfortably lay their upper body down. The sphincter is easy to reach, you can apply plenty of lube and start slowly.
The riding position also works well for anal sex and offers maximum control, especially for the passive partner. You decide how deep and how fast you want to penetrate. The spooning position is also ideal: you have close body contact, can relax and start penetration gently.
Combine positions. For example, start in the spoon position to get things off to a calm start, then switch to the riding position for maximum control and finish in the doggy position when everything is well stretched and relaxed. This way you can increase the intensity and feeling of dominance step by step.
First time anal sex
Before having anal sex for the first time, you should talk openly with each other. Honest communication is more important here than with many other types of play. Both of you should really want to do it - "just for your partner's sake" rarely leads to good experiences.
Many people have reservations at first: Fear of pain, uncertainty about hygiene or simply an unfamiliar feeling. This is completely normal.
That's why it's worth taking your time to inform yourself and prepare. With practice, fun and curiosity, even your first anal sex can be a real highlight - for both the active and passive parts.
First time anal sex as a couple: get off to a relaxed start
If you want to discover anal sex together, a few well-chosen basics will help you. This will keep the focus on trust, communication and a good body sensation.
- Anal-Personal lubricant for couples - for more lubrication and less friction
- Small Anal plugs - to slowly get your body used to the stretching sensation
- Intimate cleansing - for an additional safe and clean feeling
Tip: Decide beforehand what is okay for you, use a safeword and stop as soon as something no longer feels good.
How to find the right personal lubricant for anal sex
Anal sex is one of the most intense forms of mutual pleasure. In addition to trust and relaxation, the ability to stretch the passive part also plays a major role. In order to enjoy anal sex properly and in a relaxed manner, you should use a high-quality Anal lubricant.
Only if the back door is sufficiently supple can both of you fully enjoy the pleasure.
Anal-Gleitgel Flasche" data-src="media/image/Fisting-Gleitgel.jpg">
A good personal lubricant is worth its weight in gold
Whether man on woman, woman on man, man on man or woman on woman: anal sex is a very intimate and intense way to feel your partner in every constellation. The better the personal lubricant suits you and your area of use, the easier and more enjoyable the actual act will be.
In principle, you can also use normal personal lubricant, but products for anal sex are usually better suited to this in terms of consistency and durability.
What properties are important for personal lubricant?
If you are looking for a good personal lubricant for anal sex, you should know this: Many water-based personal lubricants dry out relatively quickly and then lose their good properties. If this happens in the middle of the act, it can become uncomfortable or even painful.
Modern water-silicone-based combinations are often more suitable and provide good lubrication for longer. Many people swear by particularly viscous Anal lubricants because they are easier to apply and last longer.
Gentle on toys and condoms
Good personal lubricants for anal sex are also gentle on toys and condoms. Regardless of the safety issue, it is worth using a condom during anal sex - this supports hygiene and lubrication.
Make sure that the personal lubricant you choose is suitable for use with condoms. That way, you don't have to worry about tears or damage.
Personal lubricants for beginners and professionals
The large selection of personal lubricants makes it easier for you to find the right product. Some personal lubricants and lubricant sprays have side effects such as cooling or slight relaxation - this can make it easier to get started, but is not suitable for everyone.
Special relax sprays and relax creams can also improve your ability to stretch. They are more suitable for advanced users who specifically want more stretching. For normal anal sex, practice, time and slow pre-stretching are completely sufficient.
In the end, it's up to your taste: some prefer liquid personal lubricants, others love compact, viscous variants. Simply try out different types and find the gel that makes you feel safest and most comfortable.
Personal lubricant for anal sex: which type is right for you?
Not sure which personal lubricant to start with? A rough guide will help you find the right consistency for your anal sex experience.
- For beginners: more liquid Anal lubes that are easy to spread
- For longer sessions: viscous gels with particularly long-lasting lubrication
- For more comfort: cooling or slightly relaxing variants for a gentle introduction
- All Anal lubricants from Steeltoyz at a glance
Tip: Try out two different types and stick with the lube that makes you feel the most relaxed.
Anal sex tips for beginners
Pre-stretching is important
To really enjoy anal sex, you should slowly get your sphincter muscle used to the new stimuli. Especially at the beginning, it makes sense to gain experience on your own before involving your partner.
A warm bath is ideal for such games. The water helps you to relax. With a little lubricant, you can gently play around the sphincter and penetrate carefully with a finger. This will help you get to know your own sensations and find out what speed is comfortable for you.
Later, you can incorporate anal play into your foreplay or the actual act. Finger games or toys can help to link the positive feeling of anal stimulation with your pleasure.
Anal training & warm-up: training for your sphincter muscle
If finger exercises feel good, you can take the next step and work with anal training sets. This allows you to increase the size and pressure in a controlled manner - always at your own pace.
- Anal plug-Training sets - several sizes for your gradual build-up
- Butt plugs for targeted stretching - for those who like a slightly firmer pressure
Tip: Start with the smallest size, only wear the plug for a short time and slowly increase the duration. Your body will give you feedback.
Video about the Anal training set
Analplug Training Set kaufen" href="/analtoys/analplug/">Anal plug Buy training set
Tip: anal beads to get used to them
Anal beads are a great way to get used to the stretching sensation. The balls are arranged in a chain and usually get bigger the further you insert them. This allows you to slowly increase the size and even wear the chain during the act. Many find it extremely intense when the balls are slowly pulled out during climax.
Tip: Use butt plugs for targeted stretching
Butt plugs are specially developed for anal use. They are easy to insert and, thanks to their shape, can be worn securely without slipping. The permanent, gentle stretching allows your sphincter to get used to the feeling - which makes anal sex much easier later on.
[emotion emotion_id="389" ]
If you are already familiar with anal sex, you can experiment with larger plugs, longer wearing times or alternating between vaginal and anal stimulation. Pay particular attention to your body's signals, plan breaks and treat yourself to conscious aftercare - both physically and emotionally.
Anal sex stories
In our anal sex stories category you will find erotic Anal stories with a focus on anal sex. They can give you inspiration and help you discover your own fantasies.
Anal sex guide
There are no universal instructions for anal sex, but a few basic rules will help you a lot. It is important that the receiving partner is relaxed and ready. Take your time, stretch the anus beforehand and use plenty of lubricant, as the anus itself does not produce any moisture.
It has proven to be a good idea to first place the penis or toy against the sphincter from the outside and gently build up pressure without penetrating immediately. This allows the passive part to get used to the sensation and consciously relax.
When the sphincter opens, the tip can penetrate slowly. Take your time, take breaks and only gradually increase the depth. Only when you have penetrated completely behind both sphincters should you start moving carefully.
What does anal sex feel like?
Feelings are difficult to put into words, but one thing is certain: for many, anal sex is something very special. Especially the first time, the feeling is unfamiliar because something firm is penetrating an area that has never experienced this before. Some experience a slight feeling of pressure at first, reminiscent of the urge to urinate or defecate - this usually subsides when you relax and get used to the stimulus.
The anus is equipped with an extremely large number of nerve endings. If you are well prepared, use plenty of lubricant and take your time, anal sex can become a real highlight. In men, the prostate can also be stimulated via the rectum, which makes very intense orgasms possible. Many people report that they can climax through anal stimulation alone.
Anal sex for men
Many men enjoy anal sex not only as an active but also as a passive part. This has nothing to do with sexual orientation, but with the fact that the prostate - often referred to as the male G-spot - is particularly easy to reach via the rectum.
This is why many couples use strap-on dildos and strap-ons so that the woman can take on the active part. The passive man enjoys the stimulation of the nerve endings around the anus as well as the stimulation of the prostate. This allows you to discover completely new qualities of pleasure.
Why anal sex?
There are many reasons why couples try out anal sex or integrate it into their love life. Firstly, the sensation is very different from vaginal sex. The anus is tighter and encloses the penis or toy more intensely, which many find extremely pleasurable.
Secondly, anal sex is always a special sign of trust. You have to be considerate of each other, communicate and pay attention to each other. Many people also report an exciting mix of power, devotion and intense pleasure when reversing roles - for example with an active woman and a passive man.
If you approach the topic without reservations, but with sufficient preparation and respect, you can both benefit from the sensations of anal sex.
Questions about anal sex
Is anal sex unhygienic?
No. For anal sex, it is usually enough if you clean the area around the anus carefully. The rectum itself is normally a clean place. About two to three hours after your last visit to the toilet, the bowel in this area is usually free of residue, so you can relax and play. The rectum is only full if you feel the urge to defecate - then you should refrain from anal sex.
Tip: If you want to be on the safe side, you can clean the rectum with a small enema or an intimate douche. Many people use this before anal play to feel more comfortable. It's easy to use and you'll be ready to go in just a few minutes.
Does anal sex go smoothly?
This varies from person to person. There are people for whom anal sex works relatively spontaneously. However, most people have to slowly get used to the new feeling and stretch their anus step by step before a penis or a larger dildo can be inserted.
It is important to understand that your sphincter consists of two parts. The external sphincter can be voluntarily tightened and relaxed. The inner sphincter reacts more unconsciously. Above all, you need time, rest and positive experiences so that it gradually opens by itself.
Is anal sex painful?
It doesn't have to be painful. It usually occurs when you work too fast, too dry or without pre-stretching. Two things are crucial: good preparation, including pre-stretching and relaxation - and sufficient lubricant.
The anus does not produce its own moisture. That's why you can be generous with the lube. It's better to use a little too much than too little, otherwise friction and unpleasant sensations will occur. If you like, you can also try lubricants with a scent or flavor. Some people find this additionally relaxing and stimulating.
Isn't anal sex actually dirty and does it leave marks?
The idea that the rectum is full of residue is a persistent one, but in most situations it is wrong. The area that is stimulated during anal sex is more of a passage. If there is something there, you will normally feel the urge to go to the toilet. If you don't, the rectum is usually free.
Many people feel safer if they cleanse with a micro-enema or an intimate douche beforehand. This is uncomplicated and only takes a few minutes.
How can I prepare for anal sex?
You can train your sphincter just like any other muscle. Start slowly, caress the area around the anus, work with a finger that glides well and insert it carefully. This will help you get to know your own body sensation.
A Buttplug" href="/analplugs/analplug-aus-edelstahl/" target="_blank">Anal plug for stretching can help you to slowly get used to the pressure. You can choose between different sizes and increase step by step.
What else should I bear in mind during anal sex?
Lubricate your anus well and use a suitable anal lubricant. It should not be too runny and should glide for a long time. Don't skimp on lube - your bottom, penis or toy should be generously lubricated to make penetration easier and more enjoyable.
The active partner should take their time and not use pressure. If you are unsure, the passive partner can also take the lead and slowly sit on the penis or toy. This way you can intuitively determine the depth of penetration and speed according to how your body feels.
Will anal sex make me incontinent?
This rumor comes up again and again, but it is unfounded. On the contrary: as the sphincter muscle is consciously tensed and relaxed during anal sex, its control can improve. Regular, well-prepared anal sex will not cause you to "leak".
Can I reach orgasm through anal sex?
Yes, it is possible - but it doesn't have to be the case for everyone. Some people can reach orgasm through anal stimulation alone, others combine anal sex with clitoral or penile stimulation. Due to the many nerve endings in the anal area, there is definitely a lot of potential.
You are free to stimulate yourself during anal sex or leave this to your partner.
Video anal sex tips
Tips for all levels - anal sex step by step
- Only use finger play and very small plugs.
- Lots of lube, warm environment, no hurry.
- Get to know your own limits, be allowed to stop at any time.
- No goal of "penetrative intercourse", just pure exploration.
- Larger plugs, first attempts with small dildos or penis.
- Test anal sex in quiet positions (spooning, riding).
- Use intimate douche or enema if it gives you more security.
- Establish safeword, agree on clear signs for "slow down" or "stop".
- Longer Anal sessions, changing positions and combining with other practices (e.g. prostate play, Pegging, bondage).
- Consciously play with head cinema, dominance & devotion - but always pay attention to body reactions.
- After intensive sessions, ensure good aftercare: Cuddling, warmth, conversation, possibly soothing care products.
If you approach anal sex with attention, respect and curiosity, it can become a deep, pleasurable and surprisingly loving part of your sexuality - alone or as a couple.
Stresst euch nicht, ist auch nur Sex
Netter Ratgeber, aber ich finde so, wie es hier beschrieben wird, klingt das nach wahnsinnig viel Arbeit. Ich denke bei der ganzen Vorbereitung, die da wohl für nötig gehalten wird, geht der Spaß flöten. Wenn die Frau richtig feucht ist, lässt sich der Saft auch gut auf die Analregion verteilen. Auch der Mann kann vor Geilheit feucht werden und dann flutscht das alles schon von ganz alleine. Das Einzige wo ich immer drauf achte ist, dass ich wirklich keinen Druck im Enddarm verspüre. Also ich gehe sicher, dass ich nicht bald mal zum Klo muss. Macht euch einfach nicht so viel Druck, Analsex ist auch nur Sex :)
Bislang nur mit Vibrator
Erfordert der Analverkehr wirklich so viel Vorbereitung? Ich habe noch keinen Analverkehr gehabt. Also jedenfalls nicht so richtig. Nur mit einem Vibrator und mit mir alleine, sozusagen. Aber ich habe bei dem Vibrator nichts weiter gebraucht, außer etwas Gleitmittel. Ich habe nichts vorher gespült, massiert oder Ähnliches. Macht es so einen großen Unterschied, ob man mit einem Mann Analverkehr hat oder "nur" mit einem Sexspielzeug? Derzeit bin ich ohne Partner, aber mit meinem nächsten Freund, werde ich mich mal an die Analregion herantasten.
Sehr unhygienisch
Also ich finde Analsex sehr unhygienisch. Erstmal möchte ich mir natürlich nicht unbedingt vorab irgendeine Spülung im Hintern verpassen. Also alleine das finde ich schon echt eklig. Ich kann doch nicht zu meinem Partner sagen: "Ey Stop mal, ich geh mal erst n Einlauf machen." Zumal auch dann der Darm niemals ganz sauber ist. Welcher Mann findet es denn bitte schön, hinterher Fäkalien am Piesel zu haben? Und dann damit womöglich noch in den Mund der Frau ... Nein, danke!
Ein ausgezeichneter Leitfaden für alle, die sich für Analsex interessieren und nicht wissen, wo sie anfangen sollen. Die ausführliche Erklärung der Vorbereitung, einschließlich der Auswahl des richtigen Gleitmittels und der Verwendung von Sexspielzeugen, ist besonders hilfreich. Es ist wichtig, sich daran zu erinnern, dass Analsex, wie jede andere sexuelle Aktivität, auf Zustimmung, Vertrauen und Kommunikation basieren sollte.
Die Betonung auf die Bedeutung der Entspannung und Geduld ist ein wichtiger Aspekt, der oft übersehen wird. Analsex sollte niemals schmerzhaft sein, und dieser Artikel macht einen großartigen Job, indem er dieses Missverständnis aufklärt.
Es ist auch bemerkenswert, dass der Artikel die häufig gestellten Fragen rund um das Thema Analsex anspricht. Dies zeigt, dass es kein Tabuthema sein sollte, sondern eine normale und gesunde sexuelle Aktivität, über die offen gesprochen werden kann.
Insgesamt ist dieser Artikel ein umfassender Ratgeber für Analsex-Einsteiger, der alle notwendigen Informationen liefert, um ein sicheres und angenehmes Erlebnis zu gewährleisten.