BDSM Guides & Inspiration: Knowledge, Safety & Ideas

Explore BDSM with clear guides on consent, safety, relationships, toys and different types of play. Whether you are a beginner, part of a couple or looking for fresh ideas, this section helps you approach BDSM consciously and at your own pace.

Explore BDSM with clear guides on consent, safety, relationships, toys and different types of play. Whether you are a beginner, part of a couple or looking for fresh ideas, this section helps you approach BDSM consciously and at your own pace.

BDSM Games: Tips for beginners

Do you want to expand your sexual horizons and explore the world of BDSM? Our guide will give you all the tips and tricks you need as a beginner to enjoy BDSM and SM games safely and responsibly. Let us take you on a journey of sexual discovery!
Tags: BDSM, BDSM Spiele

The first visit to a dominatrix - procedure and preparation

Not everyone can or wants to live out their BDSM inclinations in their own private environment. A visit to an appropriate studio can offer you the opportunity to live out your inclinations and turn the experiences in your head into reality. We'll show you how to best prepare for your first visit to the studio.

BDSM photography & movies - how to produce them

Are you interested in BDSM photography and movies, but don't know where to start? Don't worry, our guide will show you how to start your own project and make it a success. Learn all about equipment, models, safe environment and more!

BDSM safety rules and how to follow them

Want to make your BDSM adventures safer and healthier? Our guide to BDSM safety shows you the most important rules and practices so you can protect yourself and your partners from injuries and unwanted risks. Learn how to recognize and avoid dangerous situations, how to build trust and communication, and how to choose the right tools and materials. Whether you are a beginner or experienced, this guide is a must for every BDSM player.

BDSM Toys: What you need for your first BDSM experiences

BDSM can be an exciting and fulfilling experience, but it's important to have the right equipment to make the session safe and enjoyable.

Differences between BDSM and abuse

BDSM can be an exciting and fulfilling sexual practice, but there are also risks, especially when it comes to abuse. In this guide, you'll learn how to tell the difference between BDSM and abuse and how to make sure BDSM practices are consensual. Learn the characteristics of abuse and find out what you can do if you suspect abuse. At Steeltoyz, you'll also find the right accessories and other resources on BDSM.

Everything You Need to Know About BDSM - A Comprehensive Guide

Here you will find everything you need to know about this fascinating world. Whether you are curious or already an experienced BDSM enthusiast, we hope you will get all your questions answered here.

The ultimate breast tying: A guide for beginners

Discover the exciting and erotic experience of BDSM breast binding. Our comprehensive guide for beginners offers tips and tricks on the right technique and choice of material as well as possible risks. Experience a new feeling of control and submission and strengthen the bond with your partner.

BDSM session: From the appointment to the follow-up

If you're curious about what happens in a BDSM session but don't know where to start, you've come to the right place. In this guide, we explain how a session works, what activities are possible and why clear communication and trust are so important. Discover the world of BDSM and find out if it's for you.

Bondage Tape - A Beginner's Guide

Bondage tape, also known as bondage tape or BDSM tape, is a flexible and versatile way to tie someone up as part of a BDSM session. It is easy to apply and can be removed quickly and easily, making it a popular choice for beginners and experienced BDSM enthusiasts alike.

Bondage with cotton ropes - tips for safe bondage

For many people, tying up is part of the exciting part of BDSM games. But not every rope is suitable for this purpose. In this guide we want to show you why cotton ropes are the best choice for safe bondage and how to use them properly.
Sensory deprivation is one of the most exciting practices in the field of BDSM and kink. It involves deliberately restricting or even completely eliminating a person's senses, thereby enabling an even more intense experience.

Hand and foot cuffs: The ultimate guide

For many people, the idea of being tied up is exciting and erotic. Bondage can be a great way to freshen up sexuality and bring adventure into the bedroom. However, there are some things to keep in mind when playing with bondage. In this guide, we'll look at how to tie up safely and erotically.

Topping in BDSM: Tips and tricks for a successful start

Topping in BDSM means taking the dominant role in a scene. It's an exciting and fulfilling experience, but it can also be a bit scary when you first start out. In this blog post, we'll discuss tips and tricks to help you get started in the world of topping.

LARP in BDSM: What you need to know

LARP (Live Action Role Play) is a form of role play in which participants express their roles through costumes, props and re-enacting scenes. It is often used in BDSM to act out various scenarios and fantasies that one would otherwise not be able to live out in reality.
Objectification means that a person is made into an object. In BDSM, this is usually practiced in an erotic or sexual context. The dominant partner considers and treats the submissive partner as an object to be used for his pleasure or satisfaction.

Fearplay in BDSM - A Guidebook

You may have heard of Fearplay in the context of BDSM, but don't know exactly what it means and how it fits into the scene? In this guide we will look into exactly what it means and explain to you what Fearplay means in BDSM and how it can be practiced safely and ethically.

What is a dominatrix or dominus?

You have often heard of dominas or dominus, but do not know exactly what they do? In this blog post we would like to give you an insight into the world of BDSM domination and explain what a dominatrix or dominus does.
Tags: Domina, Dominus

What is subspace and how do I reach it?

You may have heard of subspace, but what exactly is it? Subspace is a state that a sub (short for submissive) is in during a BDSM session. It is a state of deep relaxation and trance where pain and humiliation are pleasurable and where the lines between pain and pleasure are blurred.

Chemsex and Intox Play: What You Need to Know

Intox Play is a term used to describe the use of drugs such as alcohol or drugs during BDSM sessions. This can lead to lowering inhibitions and feeling braver to try certain practices.

Enjoying life as a cuckquean

Explore the erotic adventure as a cuckquean and experience the pleasure of seeing your partner with other women. This is not about cheating, but about a threesome relationship with your partner and a house mate. Discover the world of cuckqueaning and find out more about the role of the hotman, the game with the house mate and the special pleasure.

But this is by no means the case. Cuckqueaning is not quite that simple after all. Yes, the partner has sex with others, but not in a low-level frenemy way.
Tags: Dreier, Cuckquean

Edgeplay - dangerous borderline experiences

Edgeplay is probably one of the most exciting types of play in BDSM. This is partly because it is very dangerous for body and soul to "play" in such a way.

Edge means edge, boundary or also edge. So if you dare to play edgeplay, you are playing dangerous, borderline games that can involve real injuries.

Degradee - humiliation for pleasure

The degradee is the submissive part in all respects. This is a person who feels pleasure when he is humiliated or degraded. This is about humiliation for pleasure. Because exposing, insulting or similar, usually leads to sexual pleasure gain, which can be increased to the almost immeasurable.

Brat tamer - the game between power and rebelliousness

The Brat tamer translation is easy to explain. Brat comes from English and means something like cheeky or defiant. In English, it is also referred to as bratty. The term tamer means tamer and of course also comes from English. So a brat tamer is a tamer of rebellious people. A "brat tamer" so to speak. Brat tamer in BDSM therefore means a game between power and rebelliousness.

Cuckold stories: My First Time - Being a Cuckold Makes You Horny!

For quite some time we have been looking for a new kick in our sex life. It should not be boring. We try out a lot in the SM and also in the BDSM area. Only a few weeks ago Bianca stretched me a Chastity cage against. Chastity was the order of the day. It didn't last long, I only lasted a few days. But the redemption was really the hammer!

Testicle torture - the pain that brings pleasure

Do you want to give your sex life a new lease of life and take control in the bedroom? Discover the world of testicle torture in BDSM and redefine your slave's pain threshold. Whether it's light slaps, stretching the urethra or ball crushing: we'll show you how to perfect cock and ball torture and send your partner into ecstatic pain. But be careful: if you want to subject yourself to testicle torture, you can't be a wimp!

BDSM Stories: Kidnapped and used

I got out of the now cold bathtub, wrapped myself in my cozy soft bath towel and let myself sink with it on my nicely heated waterbed. For a moment I closed my eyes and enjoyed the peace and quiet. I worked at a way too busy airport every day and had constant noise in my ears. So my home was my oasis of well-being. That's how comfortable I felt within my self-created four walls. Actually, I was supposed to get dressed and leave for my night shift. Instead, however, I opened my towel, stayed on the gently bobbing waterbed and let my hands wander

Petplay Stories: I always wanted to have a pony

Who hasn't wanted their own pony at some point? I was definitely one of those guys who wanted to have a pony so I could ride it properly. Do you know what I mean? I'm not talking about an animal, I'm talking about a hot chick. I mean a hot ponygirl!

BDSM branding - always approach the matter with great care

Find out everything about BDSM branding in our guide. Whether painful devotion or jewelry for eternity, we explain! From the history of branding as body jewelry to performing branding on the sub - including instructions and aftercare. Discover the different types of branding and find out whether it's right for you and your sub.

Being a wank slave: rules and humiliations in BDSM

Experience a world of pleasure and pain in BDSM as a wanking slave. Your mistress decides when and how you are allowed to jerk off, what types of play you will experience and what humiliations await you. Find out everything about the rules, types of play and humiliation in BDSM here.

As the mistress of the keys, I alone have your cock at my disposal. You are a chastity! That means I lock your penis away. I can do this with a Chastity cage or a chastity belt. The key becomes my property. What will you do to make me release your best piece?
The closer it got to flower sex, the more bored I was. My girlfriends always raved about their great sex experiences and I then asked myself what exactly I was missing. An orgasm was a real rarity for me.

Blackmailing - pay or I'll show you!

Find out more about the blackmail fetish in BDSM and discover how money, objects and actions serve as a power game. Get to know the risks and opportunities for the submissive part and what safeguards the blackmail contract offers. Set boundaries and discover a new dimension of BDSM.

BDSM Switcher a special role reversal

Switch means to change. If you are a switcher in BDSM, it means that you like to switch roles. Short and sweetly explained, switch means to be sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive. Yes, this can actually be possible and exerts a very special charm. You don't have to commit yourself at all. Also in BDSM you can always be what you want. So be a BDSM switcher full of lust and passion!

Aftercare - nothing is more important than aftercare

Aftercare is one of the most important things when it comes to BDSM. No, we're not talking about some sex practice that's possibly more outlandish than anything you know. This is about much more important things, namely the aftercare! This is necessary for body and soul after every BDSM session and should never be dismissed as unimportant.

Bdsm Mistress: The Mistress is in charge!

Mistress sounds polite and nice, but the truth behind the term is a dominance that scares some and fascinates others. Learn what it means to be a dominatrix, how you can use your charms and tools and what BDSM play is all about. Find out if you are suitable as a dominatrix and become more self-confident and stronger with the help of trained dominas.

Bdsm punishments from bondage to chili peppers

Experience the varied possibilities of BDSM punishments and immerse yourself in a world full of psychological and physical torture methods. Discover new ways to make your lovemaking more exciting and intense. Be inspired by the variety and find out which punishments suit you and your partner best. With our tips and tricks, you can give yourself and your partner almost limitless pleasure and take your lust to a new level.

Ruined orgasm - coming without satisfaction

Discover the special kick of the ruined orgasm in the BDSM scene. Find out how it is achieved and what happens during it. Despite the orgasm, the pleasure remains, but the satisfaction is missing. Be creative and try out different methods to experience this special orgasm.

The beginner's guide to the cleaning slave

Being a cleaning slave to fulfill the wishes and needs of your Dom or Domina can be an exciting experience. But how do you get started as a beginner and what should you look out for? In this beginner's guide, you'll learn everything you need to know to fill your new role as a cleaning slave in the best way possible. From basic tasks to expert tips that will help you feel comfortable and grow in your new role. Become the perfect cleaning slave and let yourself be taken into the world of BDSM!
Are you curious about the world of BDSM needle play? Find out what it feels like and what there is to consider. Discover why some BDSM lovers find this type of play so arousing and how you can prepare yourself for aftercare. But be careful: the risk of injury is high and the application requires trust, hygiene and caution!

CNC Kink - a special fetish

The CNC kink is already one of the most extreme preferences that can be found in the BDSM field. The meaning of CNC is not so easy to explain. Pronounced / written out it means "consensual non consent". This means as much as agree to something that you do not agree
Find out everything about the role of the sub in BDSM in this guide. From submissiveness in bed to the clear separation of sex life and everyday life - we explain it all! Whether male or female, the sub can have many facets. Read more now and discover the world of BDSM!

This is how you become a toilet slave?

What is a slave in the BDSM field, knows everyone who has a little idea about this scene. It is a submissive part that goes through a lot to please his Dom. But not all slaves are the same. There are differences

Clinic sex - the game with white eroticism

Welcome to the secret world of white eroticism! Clinic sex or doctor games are an exciting role-playing game between doctor and patient that is becoming increasingly popular, and not just in the BDSM sector.
Whether gentle examinations or realistic simulations - white eroticism offers countless opportunities to live out your lust and fantasies. In this guide, you will find out which practices are available, who plays which role in this game and what you need to pay attention to in order to minimize risks.
If you like SM games, you will love the Dungeon. Dungeon means cellar or dungeon in German. Clearly, it comes from the sadomasochistic world. It is, so to speak, a location for all kinds of sex games.
Tags: BDSM, Cruel Reell

BDSM Stories: In the apprenticeship of a dominatrix

I'm young and need the money, I like to answer when I'm asked why I'm learning this profession of all things. What I do? I am in the apprenticeship of a dominatrix.

Cuckold story: Cuckolding - the best relationship you can have

The shackles are put on
Lisanne had just turned 21 when her life was to change decisively. She had self-confidence and finally the courage to say what she really wanted. She had been together with her boyfriend Jan for almost three years now. The relationship was going quite well, but Lisanne had other intentions than that the relationship could continue like this. Quite secretly, she decided to make a Cucki out of her Jan.

Cane stories: A marriage with cane

Hey you, have you ever wondered what it's like to have a marriage with a cane? I live in a special relationship full of pleasure and pain and would like to share my personal story with you. In this guide you will learn more about the world of cane stories and how you can experience pleasure and pain in a special relationship. Let my stories inspire you and immerse yourself in a world full of new adventures. Experience the cane with me and discover a new side to your sexuality!
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What is BDSM and bondage?

BDSM is the abbreviation for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission and Sadism & Masochism. Bondage refers to a person being tied up or restrained, while Discipline stands for punishment.

Dominance refers to a person being in control, while submission means that someone submits. Sadism refers to the pleasure of pain and masochism to the pleasure of submission and sensations of pain.

Together, these aspects form a world that is exciting and fulfilling for many people. However, it is important that everyone involved respects their boundaries and that everything happens voluntarily and with pleasure.

Tips and inspiration for beginners

Set your boundaries:

Before you get involved in the world of BDSM and bondage, it is important that you know your boundaries and communicate them. You can do this, for example, by agreeing a 'safeword' that you will use if you become uncomfortable.
Use the right equipment: Invest in high-quality restraints, whips, etc. to avoid injuries. Find out beforehand exactly which equipment is suitable for which practices.

Use condoms:

When trying out sexual practices, you should always use condoms to avoid STI's.

Practice:

Especially with more complex practices, it is important that you approach them slowly and carefully. Practice with gentle versions first and then gradually increase.

Respect the rules of BDSM:

There are certain rules and etiquette that should be followed in the BDSM community. Find out about these and make sure you adhere to them.

Use safewords:

As mentioned earlier, it's important that you agree on a safeword to let each other know if you become uncomfortable or want to end the session.

Enjoy the experience:

Remember that BDSM and bondage are a way to live out and explore your sexuality. Have fun and enjoy the experience!

Communicate with your partner:

The be-all and end-all in the BDSM world. Make sure you talk to your partner about your desires, preferences and boundaries to ensure an enjoyable and safe experience.