From Partner to Dom: Developing Dominance Together Dominance is not created by a title alone. Build leadership, trust, rules and erotic tension together and consciously.
Not everyone discovers their own sexual preferences at a young age, but these also grow and change over time. We talked to a young lady who found her way to BDSM quite late and who shared her experiences with us.
So you can experience how even a normal relationship can change into a BDSM relationship. The young woman in this case is called Sarah and is almost 30 years old.
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From the first inspiration to the individual head cinema
As with many other people, the book 50 Shades of Grey in particular revealed the first points of contact with the topic of BDSM. Unlike other people, however, the book had a much more intense effect on Sarah.
Even if many points in the book were exaggerated and did not correspond to her imagination, Sarah developed a certain curiosity about these practices and began to read more books with BDSM context. Little by little her imagination grew and in her mind Sarah could try many of the practices herself.
The mental cinema was so present that she not only masturbated to such imaginations, but these thoughts also flashed up again and again during sex with her boyfriend.
Information and a clarifying conversation
Sarah now began to search for information on the subject of BDSM on a wide variety of sites and to become increasingly clear about her own desires. For her, especially the power imbalance played an important role, less the pure S&M area.
In her fantasy she wanted to be controlled and dominated. The pain of the various punishments was always only a means to an end and not itself the trigger of her lust. But so far she had experienced all these things only in your head and in her thoughts.
To turn these dreams into reality, it was necessary to involve her own partner. Sarah took heart and revealed herself to her boyfriend.
The first BDSM sex for two
Fortunately for Sarah, he didn't find the idea too far-fetched and started to inform himself. He learned and, without Sarah knowing, got himself some suitable sex toys for the future games.
Even though Sarah doesn't want to say exactly how the first joint BDSM sex went and what exact practices were tried, she at least gave us some hints. She was carefully and gently hand spanked by her boyfriend and had to wear a butt plug during the process.
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A toy that she had actually refused so far, but which was commanded to her by her boyfriend / Dom in the game. The humiliation and control by the partner made this game a very special experience.
Even today, the two are still a couple and live out in their sex life every now and then the different fantasies. There is still the tender sex with each other, but this is occasionally supplemented by some games in the BDSM environment.
However, these games have not had a direct influence on their relationship and everyday togetherness. Overall, Sarah is glad that she has revealed herself to her partner and enjoys being dominated by him on occasion.
