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            <title type="text">Rimjob and Rimming: Technique, Hygiene and Pleasure</title>
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                                            Rimming can be intense and intimate. Preparation, hygiene, clear consent and a technique both enjoy are essential.
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                  Rimjob and Rimming: Technique, Hygiene and Pleasure  Rimming can be intense and intimate. Preparation, hygiene, clear consent and a technique both enjoy are essential. 
 Rimjob, i.e. stimulation of the anus with the tongue, is a very popular practice among both women and men. Nevertheless, many people are disgusted and have hygienic concerns, which are absolutely unnecessary with the appropriate measures. 
 It is important to pay attention to hygiene  and also to take special care during stimulation, because rimming is experienced as very intense. 
 What is a rimming job? 
  Rimming  or the rimming job is a special sexual preference. It is a fetish that involves the human posterior. The technical term for rimming is anilingus. 
 It involves licking the butt hole with the tongue. It is a particularly intimate way to make love. Not everyone likes it, but now more and more couples practice it. 
 Just try it 
 If you haven&#039;t had any experience with  butt licking , you shouldn&#039;t judge too hastily. Maybe it is something very pleasant after all. Man, like woman can enjoy and practice the rimjob. 
 The anus 
   The anus is a pure nerve center, to these erogenous zones our body responds directly. Feelings will definitely not be absent here.  
 All you need is trust and a little bit of overcoming. Often men can enjoy getting a  rimjob  more than giving one. 
 This is because men not only have a nerve center in the anus, but also the prostate. This is located directly behind the anus and can be well stimulated with the tongue. 
   
 But also the woman can come to orgasm. She also has many nerve endings in and around the anus. If the clitoris is also massaged a little, there is no stopping the ladies. So what&#039;s stopping you from giving it a try? 
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 A clean thing 
 You don&#039;t dare to go for it because the butt is considered dirty? Well, that&#039;s not entirely untrue. It&#039;s already a body part full of bacteria. And a butt is never completely odorless. 
 But if you and your partner are clean people, the risk of infection is very low. And who knows, maybe you will find the scent of the butt quite beguiling. Kiss my ass or can sometimes not only be a saying, but also an invitation. 
   
 Go on a hike 
 If you are still a bit shy about the rimjob, you can slowly go on a hike. The lady may be spoiled orally beforehand, so around and in the vagina. Then the tongue may like to wander into the anal area. 
 But please always keep in mind that the buttocks are a source of bacteria. Never go from butt to vagina, otherwise there is a risk of infection. But the other way around always works. 
 [Emotion emotion_id=&quot;390&quot; ]  As a woman you can switch from blowjob to rimjob with the man. Start nicely with the glans and let your tongue move further and further down and then back. Also a gentle penetration into the anus with the tongue is not excluded. 
 
 A rimjob does not have to be dirty 
Even though a person&#039;s rear end is not completely odorless, it is not necessarily dirty. Still, of course, it&#039;s not the cleanest body part you&#039;ll choose to lick, either. The anus has entire colonies of bacteria. If you don&#039;t want to expose yourself to these, reach for appropriate tools.
 Use licking cloths 
If you want to keep the rimjob a clean affair, use lick wipes. These are thin sheets that are used to protect against infection. The foils are kept extra thin so that your partner&#039;s tongue can still be felt very clearly. 
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 So a lick cloth takes nothing away from the authenticity of the rimjob. Rimjob / anilingus has the meaning to explore and stimulate the anus region of the partner. Nevertheless, licking cloths can also be used for the vaginal area. 
 Questions and answers: 
 1. Can vagina and anus be licked at the same time? 
Switching from vagina to butt is not a problem. However, the other way around is absolutely taboo! So you must not switch back and forth under any circumstances. First spoil your wife&#039;s vagina and then move to the rear region. The other way around you can cause bad infections in the vagina. 
 2. Are lick wipes flavored? 
Lickcloths are usually not flavored, as they are not meant to spoil the authenticity of anilingus. They don&#039;t let through quite as much of the body odor, but they don&#039;t completely mask it either. You can add flavor by perhaps combining a flavored lubricant with the lick cloth. 
 3. Is there any way to cover up the typical butt smell/taste? 
It will never be possible to completely cover up the butt smell. However, there are flavored lubricants that give off pleasant scents and tastes. Especially for beginners it makes the rimjob a little easier. 
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            <title type="text">Cunnilingus: Techniques for Pleasurable Oral Sex</title>
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                                            Cunnilingus depends on attention, rhythm and response. Learn techniques for clitoral stimulation, pace and variety.
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                  Cunnilingus: Techniques for Pleasurable Oral Sex  Cunnilingus depends on attention, rhythm and response. Learn techniques for clitoral stimulation, pace and variety. 
 Some women do not like    during oral sex   . What is meant here is that they do not like to be licked. No wonder, because  not everyone can lick properly . Women lick women better than a man will ever get. Myth or yet a bit of truth?     For a woman to enjoy  cunnilingus , she must not only have a good  &quot;pussy licker&quot;  but also love herself. Only those who don&#039;t feel icky down below can really let themselves go and enjoy the special caresses of their partner. 
 The sexual part does not have to look beautiful, it has to work. You have your own body taste, even down there and also a body scent. 
 If you are a normally clean person, your partner will definitely love your smell and taste and not find it repulsive. So stop thinking about such things and just let yourself go. 
 What is cunnilingus actually? 
   Cunnilingus means oral sex.  What is oral sex you ask yourself now? Good question! Everyone probably knows the basics. But only a few know what the whole thing is. Oral sex does not mean to just go ahead and lick. 
 Oral sex for the woman is only nice if the man makes some effort.  It is not ice cream  that you lick here and also nothing that you have to suck out with your mouth. Cunnilingus depends on a lot of sensitivity. 
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 Sensitivity,  a skillful tongue  and at the same time always paying attention to your partner&#039;s reaction. If you have these things on it, you can lick pussy properly! 
   
 With caution and attention the woman comes 
 Approach the woman&#039;s intimate zone with a careful tongue. Also, always be attentive so that you do not miss what she likes and what not. You can experiment with your tongue and  change the rhythm . Your fingers should also come into play. 
  When we talk about using your fingers , we are by no means talking about wildly &quot;poking around&quot; in the woman. What is meant here is rather the gentle stroking of the back, breasts or groin.  Treat the lady&#039;s clitoris with care.  Be tender so that you don&#039;t hurt her. 
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    Cunnilingus techniques    
 When your best part is bitten, it hurts. It&#039;s the same with a woman&#039;s clit. It is very sensitive. Don&#039;t scrub it with your tongue, don&#039;t suck it too hard and don&#039;t bite it. Play around the little pearl gently with a skillful tongue. She will thank you for it. 
 Every woman is different 
 The problem for many men is that women are often very different in their private parts and also in the desired form of stimulation. 
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 A technique that reliably brought one woman to climax may be uncomfortable for another woman or may not stimulate her at all. For this reason, there is no patent remedy to ensure a satisfactory climax during cunnilingus, but always just suggestions. 
 If you can vary your clit licking technique and are willing to learn new things, you can bring almost any woman to climax with your mouth. 
 Licking properly means paying attention to reactions 
 So there is no manual to lick a woman properly. But there are techniques and advice that will help you get better at licking a vagina and using your tongue, lips and possibly your teeth. The most important thing is the reactions of your partner. 
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 If you pay attention to her reactions, you can find out much faster which touches she particularly likes and which technique is not likely to be successful. The better your feeling for your partner&#039;s reactions, the better your cunnilingus performance will be. 
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 It&#039;s a lot of fun to try out the different techniques and find out how you can bring your partner to climax with your mouth. Just remember that there are many different ways and you just have to find the right one. 
    Cunnilingus Tips    
 Even if you are already a real cunnilingus expert and manage to bring your partner to climax with your mouth, you will still find some tips and advice on these pages that you might not have known before. Why not just try something new. 
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 Maybe you&#039;ll find exactly the form of stimulation that makes your performance even better and ensures even more intense climaxes. After all, everyone can improve. In addition, it is also nice for your partner when new elements are brought into play every now and then. 
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            <title type="text">Oral Sex: Cunnilingus, Fellatio and Pleasurable Techniques</title>
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                                            An inclusive oral-sex guide to cunnilingus and fellatio, action-specific consent, comfortable positions, barriers, hygiene and clear stop signals.
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 Oral sex can include contact with a vulva, clitoris, penis, testicles, perineum or anus. Bodies and roles do not determine gender, and nobody has to enjoy the same kind of touch. Attention, comfort and specific consent matter more than performing a script. 
 This guide covers cunnilingus, fellatio, positions, pleasure, barriers and hygiene without setting goals for depth, duration, orgasm or swallowing. The giving partner must be able to breathe, move their head and stop immediately throughout. 
  Stop immediately:  pain, panic, nausea, difficulty breathing, dizziness, jaw or neck strain, bleeding, a strong unwanted gag response, freezing or any uncertain consent mean release, create space and check in. Do not push or hold a head in place. 
 What oral sex means — without fixed roles 
 Cunnilingus usually means oral stimulation of a vulva and clitoris; fellatio usually means oral stimulation of a penis. Mouth, lips, tongue and, if wanted, hands or a toy can be combined. These terms describe an activity, not a person’s gender, orientation or anatomy as a whole. 
 There is no universal technique. Some people prefer broad contact around the vulva, others indirect clitoral touch, attention to the glans or frenulum, or little to no suction. Ask rather than infer from appearance, arousal or a previous encounter. 
 Consent is specific to each action 
 Agreement to oral sex does not automatically include deepthroat, facesitting, holding the head, hair pulling, teeth, anal contact, ejaculation in the mouth or on the face, or swallowing. Discuss these separately and keep the answer changeable. The  consent and safer-meeting guide  offers a broader conversation framework. 
 
 Say what you want, what is off limits and what needs a check-in. 
 Choose a clear verbal stop and a non-verbal stop signal if speech may be difficult. 
 Silence, freezing, lack of resistance, arousal or orgasm is not consent. 
 Consent can be withdrawn at any time, without having to justify it. 
 
 Comfort, communication and preparation 
 Choose a stable position and support knees, hips, shoulders or neck with cushions. The giver should not have to hold an awkward angle. A hand can bridge distance during fellatio and reduce jaw effort; side-lying positions can reduce strain for both people. 
 Simple check-ins work well: “same, softer or stop?”, “directly or around it?” and “may I use my hand?” The person receiving oral stimulation can indicate direction with words or their own hand, but the person whose mouth and throat are involved controls depth, pace and withdrawal. Plan how to pause before intensity rises. 
 Cunnilingus: build from broad to precise contact 
 Begin with wanted touch around the thighs, mons or outer vulva and let arousal develop. Broad, slow tongue contact may feel gentler than immediate pressure on the clitoral glans. When a rhythm feels good, consistency is often more useful than constant changes. 
 Increase pressure or speed in small steps and ask before adding fingers or a toy. Use clean, smooth hands and compatible lubricant when friction develops. Vaginal penetration is optional; external stimulation alone can be complete and satisfying. 
 Reading feedback without guessing 
 Breathing and movement can offer clues but are not a substitute for words. Arousal responses are involuntary. Confirm the preferred location, pressure and rhythm, especially after changing position or adding another sensation. 
 Fellatio, gag reflex and deepthroat 
 The penis does not need to go deeply into the mouth. Lips and tongue around the glans, frenulum and upper shaft can be combined with a lubricated hand on the rest of the shaft. This keeps depth under the giver’s control and can reduce jaw fatigue. 
 Deepthroat is optional and never a measure of skill. The giver controls depth, pace and withdrawal. Nasal breathing is not a safety guarantee: congestion, position, pressure or panic can still obstruct breathing. Stop immediately for an unwanted gag response, nausea, pain, panic or air hunger. 
 Head and neck stay free 
 Do not push, thrust into or hold the giver’s head or neck. If any guiding touch has been explicitly requested, it must remain light, instantly releasable and subordinate to the giver’s movement. Neck compression and breath restriction do not belong in oral sex. 
 Positions and facesitting with clear airways 
 Lying, side-lying, sitting at the edge of a bed or kneeling with padding can all work. Adjust height instead of forcing the neck. In a 69 position, either person may pause their own stimulation to focus on breathing or communication. 
 Facesitting requires separate consent. The person above supports their weight and allows immediate head movement and space around nose and mouth. Agree a hand signal and an instant lift-away response. Do not place uncontrolled weight on the face, throat or neck. 
 Hands, toys and lubricant 
 Hands and small body-safe toys can add variety when each addition is agreed. Check nails and jewellery, clean toys according to the manufacturer and use a fresh compatible barrier when sharing or changing person or body opening. The local  toy-cleaner category  can help with material-appropriate care. 
 An oral-compatible  lubricant  can reduce friction, but the label must also match condoms, dental dams and toys. Oil can weaken latex. Avoid numbing sprays: they can hide pain, irritation and excessive pressure. 
 STIs, barriers and testing without false certainty 
 Many sexually transmitted infections can pass during oral sex, sometimes without symptoms. Risk varies by infection, body site, sores, fluids and activity. Oral sex is not zero-risk, and looking healthy or having one recent result does not prove that no infection is present. 
 A correctly used condom for fellatio or a dental dam for vulval or anal contact can reduce exposure but cannot remove every risk. Use a new barrier each time and change it between people and body openings.  Condom options  must be checked for fit, material and compatible lubricant. A sexual-health service can advise on testing and vaccination for the actual activities involved. 
 Hygiene without shame or harsh routines 
 Normal external washing with water and a mild, tolerated product is usually enough. Natural scent, moisture and variation are not signs of poor hygiene. Avoid internal douching, strong disinfectants, perfumed intimate products and abrasive scrubbing because they can irritate tissue. 
 There is no need to brush or floss aggressively immediately before oral sex; bleeding gums and mouth injuries can increase exposure. Pause with active sores, unexplained lesions, bleeding or acute infection and seek clinical advice when needed. Medical professionals can discuss sexual health without moral judgement. 
 Feedback, ejaculation choices and aftercare 
 Ask before ejaculation and agree the location separately. Ejaculation in the mouth, on the face and swallowing are three distinct choices. Nobody owes any of them. If one answer changes, pause and confirm which other contact is still wanted; do not assume. 
 Afterwards, offer water, a comfortable rest and a calm check-in. Jaw, neck or knee discomfort is a reason to change future positioning, not evidence of effort or success. Discuss what to repeat and what to avoid without grading anyone’s performance. 
 
 Frequently asked questions about oral sex 
 How long should oral sex last? 
 There is no correct duration. Comfort, desire and the ability to stop matter more than a clock. Change position or pause before jaw, neck or knee strain develops. 
 Is lubricant useful for oral sex? 
 It can reduce friction if it is labelled for oral use and compatible with the barrier and toy material. Stop if it stings or irritates. 
 Do condoms or dental dams remove all STI risk? 
 No. Correct barriers can reduce exposure, but no method makes oral sex risk-free. Change the barrier between people and body openings. 
 Does consent to oral sex include deepthroat or facesitting? 
 No. Deepthroat, facesitting, head holding and breath-affecting positions each need their own current, reversible agreement. 
 Does the giver have to swallow? 
 No. Ejaculation in the mouth, ejaculation on the face and swallowing are separate decisions. None is implied by consent to oral sex. 
 What should happen after gagging or jaw pain? 
 Stop, create space, breathe normally and reassess. Persistent pain, breathing difficulty, injury or concerning symptoms need medical advice. 
 
 Conclusion: attention matters more than performance 
 Enjoyable oral sex is built from specific, reversible consent, comfortable positioning, open airways and responsive technique. Depth, time, orgasm and swallowing are never requirements. Clear feedback lets pleasure develop without turning anyone’s body into a task. 
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            <title type="text">Facesitting: Positions, Control and Safer Signals</title>
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  A safety-led facesitting guide covering consent, free airways, supported weight, lift-off signals, comfortable positions, hygiene and aftercare.  
 Safety and consent 
 The upper partner supports and controls their own weight with knees, hands, a headboard or stable furniture. Nose and mouth remain free, and there is no uncontrolled pressure on the face, throat or neck. Never treat restricted breathing as an automatic part of facesitting. 
 Agree a nonverbal signal such as three firm taps. The signal, silence, panic or reduced response means immediate lift-off with no delay or discussion. The lower partner must not be restrained in a way that prevents signalling or moving away. 
 
  Facesitting Guide: In-depth insights into history, techniques and safety  
 Facesitting is probably one of the most intimate forms of oral sex: sensual, physically very direct and - depending on the dynamic - with a clear note of dominance and devotion. In this guide, we will look together at the history, positions, BDSM elements, safety and specific role-play ideas at different levels so that you can enjoy this practice responsibly and with pleasure. 
  The history and origins of Facesitting  
 Facesitting is not a modern invention. Many cultures have depictions and stories in which a person literally sits &quot;on top&quot;, expressing power, worship or devotion. What was once often seen as a symbol of dominance is now, for many couples, primarily one thing: an intense, playful form of oral sex that focuses on closeness, trust and sensual control. 
  Facesitting as a sexual practice  
 At Facesitting, one person - often the vulva-bearing partner - sits or kneels on the face of the partner below. The partner pleasures them with their mouth while they control the intensity, position and duration. For many, it is precisely this mixture of oral sex, physical contact and power imbalance that makes Facesitting so exciting. 
 Depending on the role dynamics, Facesitting can be : 
 
 be very tender and cuddly 
 be experienced in a playful and dominant way 
 Be part of a BDSM dynamic with a clear distribution of power 
 
 The important thing is always:  consensual, safe and respectful . 
  Popular positions and variations Facesitting  
 There are many ways in which you can sit on your partner. Try them out slowly and pay attention to what is comfortable and pleasurable for you. 
  Classic Facesitting : You sit frontally on your partner&#039;s face. Your thighs frame their head and you can support yourself with your hands or knees. The focus is on intense oral stimulation and closeness. 
  Reverse Facesitting : You sit with your back to your partner&#039;s face, looking down at their feet. Many find this perspective particularly erotic because you can look at his body &quot;from above&quot;. 
  Sideways Facesitting : You sit sideways on his face or neck area. This can be more comfortable and often allows you finer weight control and more freedom of movement. 
  Kneeling Facesitting:  You kneel over his face without giving up all of your weight. Ideal if you want to be very careful with your partner&#039;s breathing because you can quickly move out of the way or brace yourself. 
   Jeanssitting  a dressed, relatively &quot;harmless&quot; variation. You sit on his face with jeans or other items of clothing. For some, this is more of a fetish and mindgame - your partner feels your weight and closeness, but no direct skin contact. 
   Reverse (naked)  you are naked, sit backwards on his face and pretty much decide exactly how you want to be pampered. Ideal to play with control, looks and small movements. 
   Fullweight  the appeal here lies in using (almost) all of your weight.  This is only for experienced couples with very clear agreements  and a good feeling for body weight, breathing and signals. If in doubt, support yourself more and be more careful - safety first. 
   Asphyx elements  some couples fantasize about reducing their breathing. For safety reasons, you should be extremely careful here:  no breathing games without a lot of experience, a clear safety signal and constant presence . If you are unsure, it is better to leave this area out - there are plenty of pleasurable alternatives without risk. 
   Bound  : Here Facesitting is combined with bondage. The lower part is fixed and has to surrender completely to the situation. This can be very intense psychologically - that&#039;s why safewords, trust and good bondage knowledge are an absolute must. 
  Important:  You often read about extreme variations such as Facesitting under water (&quot;drowning&quot;).  This is strongly discouraged for safety reasons.  Breath reduction plus water is a highly risky combination - it does not fit in with responsible BDSM and can be life-threatening. 
 
  More inspiration about oral sex &amp;amp; BDSM:  Oral sex guide &amp;amp; tips BDSM guide &amp;amp; inspiration Bondage &amp;amp; restraint 
 
  Risks &amp;amp; precautions during Facesitting  
 Facesitting is intense - both physically and emotionally. This makes a few clear safety rules all the more important. 
  Breathing control &amp;amp; safety:  The biggest risk is the restricted breathing of the partner lying on the bottom. 
 
 Support yourself with your hands or knees instead of putting your full weight on their face. 
 Pay attention to body reactions: Restlessness, palpitations, tension or feelings of panic are immediate stop signals. 
 Agree on a clear safety signal that also works without speech - e.g. tapping your leg three times. 
 Stay focused: Facesitting is not a moment for &quot;switching off&quot;, but for being alert. 
 
  Hygiene:  The proximity of your mouth and genitals makes hygiene particularly important. 
 
 Take a shower beforehand or freshen up together - this can already be part of foreplay. 
 Pay attention to clean hands, oral hygiene and well-groomed intimate areas. 
 Dental dams or other barriers can be useful for sensitive health or changing partners. 
 
  Communication &amp;amp; consent:  Facesitting only works well if both partners feel safe. 
 
 Talk about fantasies, no-gos and possible fears in advance. 
 If breath control or BDSM elements are involved, safewords are mandatory. 
 No one is &quot;persuaded&quot; to do anything - pleasure comes from voluntary action, not from pressure. 
 
  Facesitting &amp;amp; BDSM - when power plays a role  
 Facesitting can be wonderfully integrated into a D/s or BDSM dynamic. The person on top often takes on the dominant role, while the person on the bottom experiences surrender, being at the mercy of others and service with their mouth. 
  Clear roles &amp;amp; agreements:  Talk about how you feel: 
 
 Do you want to show power as a top/dominatrix - or rather playfully seduce? 
 Does your sub want to be used, worshipped or &quot;used and praised&quot;? 
 How harsh can the tone of voice be - rather loving or rather strict? 
 
  Safewords &amp;amp; signals:  Especially when your mouth is busy, you need non-verbal emergency brakes. An agreed knocking signal, a small object that the sub can drop - all of these can contribute to a safe framework. 
  Respect boundaries:  Humiliation, verbal play, bondage - all of these can be incredibly arousing for some, but too much for others. Don&#039;t make BDSM the standard, make it your playground  together . 
  Aftercare:  Intense Facesitting - especially with elements of power, bondage or breathing - can resonate emotionally. Plan time afterwards to cuddle, talk, drink water and ground yourselves again. 
  Hygiene &amp;amp; feel-good factors during Facesitting  
 Cleanliness is not only a health factor, but also contributes enormously to relaxation. If you feel fresh, you can allow closeness much better. 
 
  Body hygiene:  A quick shower, fresh towels and possibly an intimate wash gel without aggressive fragrances are usually enough. 
  Oral hygiene:  Brushing your teeth, mouthwash or chewing gum beforehand can work wonders. 
  Clean environment:  Fresh bed linen, a clean sheet or blanket create a pleasant setting. 
  Health:  Open wounds, infections or severe irritation in the mouth or genital area are a good reason to postpone the game. 
 
  Experiences &amp;amp; feelings around Facesitting  
 Many people who love Facesitting describe it as a mixture of pleasure, power, closeness and sometimes a little loss of control - on both sides. 
  The person on top often experiences  
 
 a feeling of control and self-confidence 
 strong arousal due to the focus on their pleasure 
 the sensual knowledge that their partner is &quot;at their mercy&quot; 
 
  The person on the bottom often experiences  
 
 intense closeness to the partner&#039;s smell, taste and warmth 
 Devotion, service, perhaps also the feeling of being used - in a positive, consensual way 
 very direct access to fantasies of dominance and submission 
 
 Just as important:  not everyone has to like Facesitting.  If you notice that the situation is stressing you out rather than arousing you, take the pressure off. It&#039;s just one type of play among many, not a &quot;must&quot; for fulfilling sex. 
  Role play ideas with Facesitting - level 1 to 3  
 Facesitting can range from gentle lovemaking to a very dominant BDSM ritual, depending on the intensity. These role-play ideas will give you an idea of how you can play at different levels - always with safety and consent as the basis. 
  Level 1 - gentle, curious, playful  
 
  &quot;Spoil me very slowly&quot;:  You start with cuddling and a mountain of pillows. He lies comfortably, you just kneel loosely over his face, support yourself a lot and let him catch his breath in between. The focus is on closeness, laughter and trying things out - not on perfection. 
  &quot;You can stop at any time&quot;:  You agree on a simple knocking signal in advance. You only sit on his face for a short time, keep taking your weight off and quietly ask: &quot;Is that so nice?&quot; - ideal for losing your initial fear of contact. 
  Oral sex with facial proximity:  You sit next to his face at first and he pampers you with his tongue while you slowly move closer and occasionally bring a thigh or your hip a little closer to his mouth. 
 
  Level 2 - clear focus on dominance  
 
  &quot;Your place is under me&quot;:  He lies down on his back, you sit frontally or reverse over his face and give clear instructions - for example, how intensely he should lick or when he should take a break. A slightly strict tone can be very appealing here, as long as you respect your boundaries. 
  Reward &amp;amp; service:  You let him do something for you first (massage, household chores, small task). His &quot;reward&quot; is to spoil you with his mouth while you are enthroned above him. You decide how long - and whether he even reaches orgasm himself. 
  Jeans or underwearFacesitting:  You remain partially clothed (e.g. in underwear or jeans) and use Facesitting more as a gesture of power and closeness. He feels your weight, your warmth and your control, while you playfully determine when he gets more intense contact. 
 
  Level 3 - intense &amp;amp; BDSM-oriented (for the experienced)  
 
  Bound Facesitting : He is secured with soft restraints (e.g. hands on the bed), you have defined safe signals and clear boundaries. You consciously and confidently sit on his face, but remain alert to his signals at all times. Being tied up reinforces the feeling of being at his mercy - therefore only with a lot of trust. 
  Ritualized &quot;throne&quot;:  You set up a little ritual: He kneels, kisses your thighs or bottom before you sit on his face. Certain words, positions or gestures mark the beginning and end of the scene for you - this deepens the D/s dynamic. 
  Combination with other kinks:  He might wear a collar, you use a light gag (as long as breathing and safe signal are clearly regulated) or blindfold him. Facesitting thus becomes part of a larger BDSM setting - with the clear rule: If something becomes too much, the safe signal applies without discussion. 
 
  Instructions &amp;amp; tips for your first (or next) Facesitting  
 1. Talk before you start  Talk about fantasies, boundaries, taboos and health issues (e.g. breathing problems, panic tendencies, neck problems). Agree on a safety signal and clarify who will take on which role. 
 2. Start slowly  You don&#039;t have to start with intensive variations straight away. Start kneeling over your face, for example, with lots of support and breaks. You can stop at any time, laugh, start again - sexuality can be playful. 
 3. Find the right position  Experiment with pillows under your head or hips, different angles and support points. Comfort is not a luxury, but a prerequisite for pleasure. 
 4. Keep an eye on your breathing  Consciously look down from time to time: Does your partner seem relaxed? Are they breathing calmly? If not, take some weight off or take a break. It&#039;s always okay to take a breath. 
 5. Use feedback &amp;amp; small signals  A gentle squeeze, a lick, a twitch - these are all feedback. Ask calmly: &quot;That okay?&quot;, &quot;More?&quot;, &quot;Too intense?&quot; - Communication is sexy. 
 6. Plan for aftercare  When you&#039;re done, take your time. Cuddle, laugh, talk briefly about what you liked and what you want to do differently next time. This builds trust - and the desire to repeat the experience. 
  Conclusion: Is Facesitting something for you?  
 Facesitting can be an incredibly intense, sensual and powerful form of oral sex - if you communicate openly with each other, respect each other and take your boundaries seriously. Maybe it&#039;s exactly the ritual that deepens your eroticism, maybe it&#039;s just an exciting thought that doesn&#039;t necessarily have to be put into practice. 
 The important thing is:  You decide together.  If you both feel safe, seen and desired, Facesitting can become a very special highlight of your sexuality - somewhere between tenderness, dominance and lots of physical closeness. 
 
 Related sex guides 
 
  Doggy Style: Angles, Variations and Comfort  
  Sex in a Car: Preparation, Positions and Privacy  
  Handjob Techniques: Pressure, Rhythm and Variety  
  Blowjob Tips: Technique, Comfort and Communication  
 
 
 Frequently asked questions 
 How should weight be managed during facesitting? 
 The upper partner should support and control their own weight using knees, hands or stable furniture rather than resting fully on the face or neck. 
 How do we keep the airway free? 
 Keep the nose and mouth unobstructed, choose an angle with visible breathing space and lift off immediately if breathing or signalling changes. 
 What nonverbal stop signal works? 
 Three firm taps on a thigh or hip is easy to recognise. Practise it first and agree that it always triggers immediate lift-off. 
 Can the lower partner be restrained? 
 Not in a way that blocks signalling, head movement or escape. Airway access and an immediate exit must remain available. 
 Which positions give more control? 
 Hovering on supported knees or facing the partner often gives the upper person better weight control and lets both monitor breathing and reactions. 
 When should facesitting stop? 
 Stop for breathing difficulty, panic, neck or jaw pain, numbness, dizziness, weak signalling or any uncertainty about consent. 
 
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  A consent-led blowjob guide covering comfortable technique, hands and tongue, depth, gag reflex, STI barriers, feedback and personal limits.  
  Contents 
 
  1. Safety and consent  
  2. What is a blowjob?  
  3. 5 myths about the blowjob - sex tips  
  4. Problems with a blowjob  
  5. The best blowjob of his life!  
  6. Blowjob Video Guide  
  7. Related sex guides  
 
 
 Safety and consent 
 Consent applies to every act and can be withdrawn at any time. Nobody should force depth, hold or push another person’s head, demand swallowing, or treat gagging as something to endure. The giving partner controls how far and how long they continue. 
 Stop for breathing difficulty, persistent gagging, jaw or neck pain, panic, bleeding or numbness. Condoms and other barriers can reduce STI risk; testing and honest discussion help too, but no method makes oral sex risk-free. 
 The dream of many men is the blowjob. To be spoiled orally simply by the partner or even the partner and to surrender completely to the touches of tongue and lips is enormously pleasurable. Many men call the blowjob as an absolute favorite sexual practice and would not like to do without it. 
 But a perfect blowjob needs some preparation and practice by the active partner. We show you in our blowjob guide, what a blowjob is, what you should pay special attention to during the blowjob and how you can offer your partner a perfect blowjob. 
  What is a blowjob?  
 A blowjob is the stimulation of the penis through the mouth of the partner. During the blowjob, the lips, the tongue, the teeth and the entire oral cavity can be used to bring the partner to climax. The blowjob is also colloquially called &quot;blowing&quot;, even though the activity has much more to do with sucking. 
  Classic blowjob  
 In the classic blowjob, the man remains passive and allows his partner to pleasure him with his mouth until he climaxes. The blowjob is also called French sex and can be enhanced with a variety of tools. Thus, condoms with flavor are particularly popular with many couples. 
 But also lubricant with aroma can give the blowjob a whole new quality and make it even more pleasant for the active part. With our blowjob guide you will be able to experience the perfect blowjob.   [emotion emotion_id=&quot;391&quot; ] 
   5 myths about the blowjob - sex tips  
 Around the blowjob are some myths, which can hardly be eradicated. So that you do not also fall for these myths and possibly use the wrong technique during the blowjob, we show you in our guide the most popular myths and explain to you where the mistakes lie with these. 
  Blowjob is a form of safe sex  
 This myth is completely wrong. Because even during an unprotected blowjob, a wide variety of diseases and infections can be transmitted. Whether HIV, syphilis or gonorrhea: all these diseases can be transmitted easily through oral sex. 
 So if you haven&#039;t known each other for a long time and don&#039;t have any tests yet, you should use a condom in any case. Condoms with aroma, such as the Fun Factory Color Moments, are especially pleasant for the blowjob, but the aroma masks the taste of the condom clearly. 
  Deeper is always better  
 It is repeatedly claimed that the depth of penetration also plays an important role in the blowjob. At the latest since the movie &quot;Deep Throat&quot; this myth is enormously widespread. While such a deep throat may feel great for the man, as the throat of the active part provides additional tightness, this technique is not easy to learn and achieve. 
  Gag reflex  
 This is because the suppository in the throat normally triggers a gag reflex. And let&#039;s face it, the feeling is neither particularly sexy nor particularly desirable. Moreover, since most of the nerve endings in the penis are located at the glans, the stimulation from such a deep blowjob is rather low. 
 Stimulating the glans with lips, tongue and (carefully) teeth is much more effective and can stimulate and excite the man&#039;s pleasure much more. 
  Swallowing is mandatory  
 Many men love it when their partner swallows the sperm after the blowjob. But this has nothing to do with the actual pleasure gain. Because seriously, once the sperm is in the mouth, the man has long since reached the peak of pleasure. Whether you swallow the sperm or simply spit it out into a cloth, it doesn&#039;t really matter anymore for the man&#039;s pleasure. 
 It is much more important that you continue to stimulate the man during the climax and thus guide him to a perfect climax, without you hastily jerking back. Because this is rather a real abortionist and for many men the reason why they prefer swallowing. 
 Because a woman who claims to swallow will keep the penis in her mouth until the end and thus also stimulate it. 
  The teeth must not be used during the blowjob  
 This myth arises mainly from the male fear for their best piece. Because the teeth can quickly cause enormous injuries during a bad blowjob. But gentle nibbling or a light scratching of the teeth on the glans can be enormously stimulating. 
 Just try it yourself and pay attention to the man&#039;s reaction. Such careful stimulation with the teeth can even massively enrich the blowjob. 
  Blowjobs are a sign of oppression  
 We owe this myth mainly to the porn industry, which has shaped it through various positions and by treating the woman as a willing piece of meat. In fact, the blowjob in and of itself is simply a sign of affection and love that you want to give to your partner. 
 Finally, the pleasure is based on reciprocity and also the man will want to return this affection to the woman manifold. So it is a give and take, which can be lived out through different practices and different preferences. By the way, approximately 30 percent of women feel pleasure themselves when they spoil their partner with a blowjob, because this blowjob can trigger a certain feeling of power. 
 After all, at this moment the ladies are masters of their partner&#039;s pleasure and arousal. 
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  Problems with a blowjob  
 Anyone who has ever tried a blowjob will be familiar with many of the problems listed here. Of course, not all of the problems from our blowjob guide will apply to you, but some of the problems will have you nodding your head in knowledge. 
 
 Long hair can quickly become a problem during a blowjob. If there is no hair elastic within reach, the blowjob often becomes an artistic torture. 
 The pubic hair of the man can also become a problem. Pubic hair between the teeth, on the tongue or even in the throat is a real turn-off. 
 Even the best blowjob can drag on. After a few minutes of oral gymnastics, a distinct and severe pain in the jaw joint sets in, which gets worse by the minute. 
 The tongue also suffers from a prolonged blowjob. The licking and sucking is exhausting work and makes you long for the end of the blowjob. 
 One twitch of his pelvis and the tip of his penis pushes dangerously close to your uvula. The following gag reflex is neither sexy nor nice. 
 If the man is particularly persistent, the blowjob quickly becomes boring for the woman. Because at some point all techniques are exhausted and you&#039;re just waiting for HE to finally finish. 
 A blowjob is nice when we offer him from us. However, if your partner loves blowjobs, this gift can often become a chore. Not a nice thought. 
 Swallow or spit is a question that you should better ask yourself before the blowjob begins. Because letting the penis slide out of your mouth just before orgasm is often like a cold shower for the man. 
 
   The best blowjob of his life!  
 If you want to really spoil your partner, a blowjob is often the method of choice. Your partner can relax and completely devote himself to his feelings, while you take care of his best piece. With a little preparation and our blowjob guide, you can give your partner your full attention and direct and guide his desire at will. 
 Start the blowjob best with a joint shower or with a relaxing bath for your partner. This not only ensures relaxation, but also the cleanliness of his best piece. After all, you should also have your fun and not be disgusted by him. 
 If you shower together, you can even start the blowjob in the shower and give him a taste. In any case, he will not get any cleaner. However, if you feel like a spontaneous blowjob, you can simply put a&amp;nbsp;condom&amp;nbsp;on your partner. 
 Especially&amp;nbsp;condoms with aroma&amp;nbsp;offer you a good possibility to cover the taste of the rubber and to increase the fun factor for you. 
  A comfortable position is important  
 A blowjob is especially hard on the muscles of the jaw and neck. If your partner lies on his back and you spoil him from above, this will put a lot of strain on your neck muscles in the long run. In any case, it is more relaxed if you kneel in front of your partner and thus spoil him with the blowjob. 
 Find a pleasantly soft cushion for your knees so that they are not put under additional strain in this position. Now you can take care of his best piece in peace. Try different positions to find the best solution for you. 
 Whether the man stands, sits or lies down can significantly influence the angle and the possibilities during the blowjob. 
  Take your time and vary your technique  
 Even if many women hardly believe it: men also appreciate a certain amount of foreplay. So take your time with the blowjob and do not start directly at his best piece. For example, slowly work your way down his body and cover it with kisses. 
 Stroke his skin, run your fingertips over his body and circle his pleasure muscle. This foreplay does not have to last extremely long, but it can significantly increase the man&#039;s sexual tension and thus also significantly shorten the duration of the blowjob. 
 Once you have reached his best piece, you should vary your techniques and tease him in different ways. Especially the glans and the frenulum - the ligament at the back of the glans - are particularly sensitive and often react to the lightest touches. 
 With your lips and tongue, you can already trigger enormously intense feelings here without taking him directly into your mouth. 
  Use your hands for more feeling  
 When you take the penis into your mouth for the blowjob, the depth of penetration is often not really important. Because the main stimulation comes from the play of your tongue and the sucking effect that you trigger. However, it is helpful to gently embrace the penis shaft with your hand and thus support the movements of your head. 
 For the man it feels more intense, because he has the feeling to penetrate deeper into you. But even without the hand on the member, you should not let your hands become idle during the blowjob. There are many erogenous zones in the intimate area of the man, which you can pamper with your fingers and hands during the blowjob. 
  Gently stroke his testicles , slide your fingertips over the insides of his thighs or caress his buttocks. If you and your partner want to, you can also stimulate the man&#039;s prostate with a finger or a suitable prostate stimulator during the blowjob. However, make sure to  use plenty of lubricant . Many men talk about an enormously intense orgasm when the prostate massage is rounded off with a blowjob. 
  Blowjob and the use of teeth  
 Teeth and blowjob are a delicate combination. Many men are afraid of hurting themselves when they feel their partner&#039;s teeth during the blowjob. When you take the man deep in your mouth and suck on the penis and move your head, you should protect the teeth with your lips. Because here the use of the teeth is rather unsuitable. 
 When gently pampering the glans of the shaft with lips and tongue, on the other hand, you can gently use your teeth to intensify the stimulation even more. Just pay attention to your partner&#039;s reactions and adjust your technique accordingly. Deep throat, on the other hand, is a technique that requires a lot of practice. 
 Because you have to learn to suppress the gag reflex so that the man can practically push into your throat. If you want to do this and the technique excites you and your partner, you can practice with a cucumber or a sex toy, for example, and approach it slowly. In this way, you will become less sensitive to the gag reflex over time and can spoil your partner especially deeply and intensively. 
  Swallow or spit: The Gretchen question  
 Sperm is not particularly tasty, but rather salty and slightly bitter. Therefore, you should consider beforehand whether you want to swallow or spit out the sperm. A handkerchief can help you to get rid of the sperm quickly. Important for the man is not necessarily whether you swallow, but that you pull the blowjob through to the end. 
 Because to let the penis slide out of the mouth before the orgasm or when it is reached is a real option only in porn movies. For the man, this rather means that he is not stimulated any further at the exact moment of his climax and the orgasm is therefore much less intense than he would have expected from the blowjob. 
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 Related sex guides 
 
  Doggy Style: Angles, Variations and Comfort  
  Sex in a Car: Preparation, Positions and Privacy  
  Handjob Techniques: Pressure, Rhythm and Variety  
  Facesitting: Positions, Control and Safer Signals  
 
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