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            <title type="text">Der Ratgeber zur perfekten Keuschhaltung</title>
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                                            Die Keuschhaltung ist eine beliebte Spielart im Bereich BDSM und wird sowohl von Frauen als auch von Männern sehr geschätzt. Es sind allerdings vor allem die Männer, welche durch diese Form der Behandlung zu einem besseren und erfüllteren Sexualleben gelangen und eine geringer...
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                  Chastity  is a popular form of BDSM and is highly appreciated by both men and women. However, it is mainly men who achieve a better and more fulfilling sex life through this form of treatment and achieve less fixation on the actual orgasm. 
 However, this requires external control by the so-called keyholder, i.e. the leading lady who controls the key for the Chastity cage. 
 Even if a man has a strong desire for a chaste life, it can be extremely difficult to put this into practice, especially in the beginning. 
  Clear statements &amp;amp; open discussions  
 The decision for or against chastity must be made jointly by the partners. In any case, it is important not to make such a decision for the sake of your partner, but to position yourself clearly with your own wishes and ideas. 
 Even if both partners are certain that chastity via Chastity cage or Chastity cage is desired, this desire may change over time. 
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 Open and clear communication plays an important role in keeping the man chaste. First of all, both partners should be aware of the effects of chastity. 
 For example, it can help to read through chastity stories to get an idea of chastity in men in the first place. Once both partners are convinced of the benefits of male chastity, the experiment can begin. 
 It is important to note that it usually takes between six and ten weeks for the man to get used to chastity and wearing the chastity cage and to be able to wear it regularly and permanently. 
 This period of chastity in men should be seen as an experiment in which the desires of both men and women can increase or decrease. 
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  All beginnings are difficult  
 When the Chastity cage arrives, you should take a closer look at it together and assemble it. The penis cage can only be fitted if the penis is not erect. Even a slight erection can make it impossible to fit the penis cage. 
 Using ice cubes and lubricant or Vaseline can make the initial fitting much easier. Once the Chastity cage is in place, the keyholder should close it immediately and take the key. This way, the game of pleasure can begin from the very first moment. Each time the penis cage is removed, the penis and surrounding tissue should be checked for pressure points or sore spots. 
 Bepanthene and Vaseline help with healing. The cage should not be put on again until these have healed. The first few weeks are solely for acclimatization to the Chastity cage, so that no permanent control by the keyholder should be sought here. 
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  The first one to three weeks  
 In this phase, you should get used to the feeling of the chastity cage. The keyholder should always be responsible for putting on and taking off the cage. You can wear the Chastity cage after work and in the evening, for example, and get used to the new feeling. During this time, try to wear the cage for at least four hours at a time so that it becomes almost an everyday occurrence for you. 
  Important: You should always have your own key for the cage within reach. For better control by the keyholder, this can be kept in a sealed envelope, for example.   
  This way, you can free yourself at any time, but you also have to answer to your keyholder why you had to open the cage. This means that the keyholder can continue to monitor you.  
 During the first two weeks, you can extend the time you wear the chastity cage. However, don&#039;t demand too much of yourself, but rather increase the duration slowly and continuously. Your sexual desire will often increase rapidly during this time. 
  Try not to masturbate and stay away from porn and sex.  
 The aim is to put your own orgasm out of your mind for the time being. You can also have sex with the keyholder, but she should deny you an orgasm. This is often difficult, so concentrate primarily on physical closeness. At the end of this familiarization period, you should be able to wear the cage all day long. 
 The keyholder can put the cage on in the morning and take it off again in the evening when you go to bed. You are welcome to try sleeping with the Chastity cage, but you will rarely be able to do this during this phase. 
 Important: The Chastity cage should always be cleaned thoroughly immediately after putting it on. This way, there is no stress when putting it on and the Chastity cage can be used hygienically clean. 
 Once you have got through this initial phase, you should talk to the keyholder again about the decision to keep chastity. Are you both still convinced now that you have gained a deeper insight into such a life? If so, then nothing stands in the way of further development. 
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  The next two weeks  
 You have now become so accustomed to the Chastity cage that you can wear it every day during the week from morning to night. At the weekend, you should ideally wear the Chastity cage around the clock. Now, however, the keyholder is also in demand, because your physical and mental arousal is at its peak. 
 Intimate hygiene and shaving, for example, should only be done under supervision to prevent you from masturbating in secret. Over the course of the two weeks, you can now increase the daily wearing time. 
 By the end of the period, you should be able to wear the Chastity cage for several days without interruption. 
 The cage should only be removed by the keyholder in the morning and evening for cleaning and personal hygiene. Now you are under control for longer and longer periods of time: an important step towards chastity. 
     
  Important:  Tease &amp;amp; denial   
 The keyholder must and should still manage to maintain your sexual desire. In this phase, you can start with targeted stimulation. The only thing that can and should still be withheld from you is a fulfilling orgasm. 
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 You will find that over time you will lose your fixation on your own orgasm and find your own fulfillment in pure stimulation. Touching the keyholder also takes on a whole new quality and will open up new avenues in your sexuality. 
  The final spurt - the rewards beckon  
 After this time, it&#039;s finally done. The actual chastity begins. You can wear the Chastity cage for several days without any problems and are in the hands of the keyholder. 
 In this phase, which also represents the hoped-for final state, the keyholder can allow you to have an orgasm in between, just as she wishes. This will feel new and unfamiliar to you. 
 You no longer get the same excitement from an orgasm as you did before. It is still a nice feeling, but it is dominated by the dominance of the keyholder. 
 She alone retains control over your outpourings and can grant and deny them. This permanent feeling of &quot;being at her mercy&quot; and a constant tease &amp;amp; denial will now accompany you regularly and enrich your sex life. 
   
 For the keyholders: 
 If you take on this kind of responsibility, you should take complete control, especially at first. This is the only way to prevent your partner from satisfying themselves in secret. When putting on and taking off the chastity cage, you should also always check your partner for pressure points or sore areas. 
 This is important because a prolonged period of forced wear can ruin the effect of chastity. In this case, you would almost have to start all over again. 
 FAQ 
  What is chastity?  Chastity refers to the practical or symbolic control over a person&#039;s sexual activity. This can be agreed for a specific period of time and can apply to both men and women. 
  Why do people practice chastity?  The reasons for chastity can be varied, including sexual fantasies or role play, spiritual or religious beliefs, self-discipline and control over sexual urges, or as part of a BDSM relationship. 
  What are the different types of chastity devices?  There are different types of chastity devices, including: Chastity belts Chastity cages   Chastity sheaths Chastity cages with lock and key. 
   Is chastity safe?  As with any sexual practice, chastity should be practiced with caution and responsibility. It is important that the equipment is fitted and used properly and that regular checks are carried out to check for any health problems or discomfort. 
  What should I consider when buying a chastity device?  When buying a chastity device, it is important to choose high quality and safe material. It is also advisable to check the sizing and fit to ensure that the device fits comfortably and securely. 
  Can I wear a chastity device for everyday use?  Whether a chastity device is suitable for everyday use depends on various factors, such as the type of device, wearing comfort and personal preference. It is important that the device is comfortable and safe to wear and that it can be easily removed if necessary. 
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            <title type="text">Chastity belt - A guide</title>
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                                            You might have heard about chastity belts in the context of BDSM, but don&#039;t know exactly what they are and how they are used? In this guide we will look into exactly what chastity belts are, how they are used and how to use them safely and ethically.
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                 You might have heard about chastity belts in the context of BDSM, but don&#039;t know exactly what they are and how they are used? In this guide, we&#039;re going to look into exactly what chastity belts are, how they&#039;re used, and how to use them safely and ethically. 
 What is a chastity belt? 
 A chastity belt is a device used to restrict a person&#039;s sexual activity. It is usually worn around the waist or penis and prevents the person from having an erection or orgasm. Chastity belts are often used in the context of BDSM to increase the feeling of control and submission. 
 How are chastity belts used? 
 Chastity belts can be used in a variety of ways. They can be worn by a person who wants to restrict themselves, or by another person who is in control. They can also be used in role-playing games where a person plays the role of a prisoner or slave. 
 It is important to emphasize that the use of chastity belts should always be voluntary and that all parties involved should agree to it. 
 How do you use chastity belts safely and ethically? 
 As with any form of BDSM, it is important to act safely and ethically when using chastity belts. Here are some tips on how to safely and ethically use chastity belts: 
 
 Set clear boundaries: Before you start using chastity belts, set clear boundaries and make sure everyone involved is okay with it. 
 
 
 
 Communicate during use. 
 
 
 Use a safe word: A safe word is a code word that is agreed upon to indicate that the use of the chastity belt should stop immediately. It is important that all parties know the safe word and use it if necessary. 
 
 
 Use only safe belts: It is important to make sure that the chastity belt you are using is safe and that all parties involved can control it. Do not use belts that can cause actual harm. 
 
 
 Respect others&#039; boundaries: always respect others&#039; boundaries and stop when someone says he or she doesn&#039;t want to continue. 
 Conclusion 
 Chastity belts are an important part of the BDSM lifestyle, they are a way to restrict a person&#039;s sexual activity. It is important to act safely and ethically by setting clear boundaries, communicating, using safe word and using only safe belts. Always respect others&#039; boundaries and stop when someone says he or she doesn&#039;t want to continue. 
 
 
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            <title type="text">What is Cum Control?</title>
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  Cum control  describes the pleasurable and consensual control of the male orgasm - an intense BDSM practice in which dominance, surrender, tension and conscious discharge are intertwined. The term is made up of &quot;cum&quot; (ejaculation) and &quot;control&quot;. The dominant person decides when - or whether - the sub is allowed to come. For many couples, it is a game of power, trust and ever-increasing arousal. 
 
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 Why orgasm control is so intense 
 Physiologically, men usually only experience one orgasm before a resting phase sets in. If this one moment is delayed or controlled, the tension in the entire body increases.  Targeted control intensifies both pleasure and surrender  - and can even enable several orgasms in quick succession if consciously guided and played with sensitivity. 
 At the same time, the focus shifts: instead of seeking a quick release of pressure, the sub learns to enjoy pleasure without cumming immediately. The dominant person becomes the center of the experience - they decide when it becomes &quot;too much&quot;, when they have to stop just before climax and when they can finally let go. 
 How cum control is played 
 A dominatrix or the dominant partner usually takes the lead. She stimulates the man through touch, pleasure pain or different types of stimulation - but  always stops just before orgasm . Whether with the hand, mouth, a toy or during intercourse: the decisive factor is stopping at the perfect moment. 
 The game can only last a few minutes, but can also develop into a long session - or continue for days by using a  chastity cage . In this way, control remains permanently in the hands of the dominant person. 
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  Cum control increases pleasure and devotion enormously  - but should always be practiced responsibly. Some men feel a pulling sensation in their testicles after prolonged restraint. This is a sign that a lot of tension has built up. If the man is now led to orgasm and stimulated further, so-called &quot;multiple orgasms&quot; are possible - short, violent discharges one after the other. 
 The art of orgasm control 
 As the dominant person, you decide when the man is allowed to come - or whether he comes at all. Cum control is a tool for making exciting decisions: delaying, forbidding or deliberately ruining. With each round, the emotional focus on your power and the depth of his devotion grows. 
 
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 How to recognize that his orgasm is imminent 
 To find the perfect moment to stop, it&#039;s worth observing his body language closely. Many men show very clear signals when orgasm is imminent: 
 
 Breathing becomes intermittent, faster or squeezed. 
 Body tension visibly increases, muscles harden. 
 The penis begins to twitch rhythmically. 
 
 To feel this twitching, you can hold the penis tightly or place a finger on the perineum. Alternatively, you can feel the tension directly on the prostate - carefully inserted fingers allow you to perceive his arousal even more precisely. 
 The better you know his signals, the more playfully you can play with the limits - bring him close, take him back, build him up again... until he no longer knows whether he should hope or fear that you will finally let him come. 
 Delaying the orgasm - game ideas 
 Repeatedly stopping just before climax often drives men crazy with lust. Many become restless, begging, demanding - a state of deep surrender. Various methods can help to delay orgasm: 
 
 a gentle but firm pinch to the testicles, 
 firm pressure on the glans or just below the glans, 
 controlled pleasure pain that briefly reduces arousal. 
 
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  Concrete play ideas (level 2 - medium intensity):  
 
  Gagged countdown session:  you make him kneel on the bed, perhaps blindfolded. He is allowed to touch himself while you count backwards from 30 out loud. He has to stop at &quot;10&quot; - you only circle his glans with your fingertips until he calms down again. Then a new round begins. 
  Handjob with commands:  You hold his penis in your hand and determine the speed and pressure. He has to tell you when he is at &quot;8 out of 10&quot; - you stop immediately, take a short break and only allow movement again on your command. 
  Rider tease:  You sit on him, use friction and closeness, but don&#039;t allow full penetration. Whenever he is on the verge, he must hold still while you move slowly without giving him the decisive stimulus. 
 
 You can repeat these sequences several times until you decide when the game ends. With each round, the tension increases a little more - and his willingness to completely surrender to you. 
 Forbid him to orgasm - with and without chastity 
 Advanced couples go one step further. Here, orgasm is completely denied - even if the man feels everything inside him that is crying out for release. As soon as the twitching starts, you stop the stimulation and prevent him from doing it himself. 
 This is particularly reliable with a  Chastity cage . After an intense Edging session, you can put the cage on him, close it and clearly announce how long he will now remain chaste. Every look at the cage reminds him that his pleasure belongs to you. 
 
  Related categories:    Chastity    Ballstretcher  
 
  Game ideas for orgasm prohibition (Level 2):  
 
  &quot;It&#039;s tease only tonight&quot;:  you announce to him in advance that he&#039;s not allowed to come that evening. You make each other hot anyway - caressing, kissing, maybe oral sex until just before the climax. Every time he begs, you just smile and say &quot;no&quot;. 
  Chastity weekend:  After an intense Edging session, you put a Chastity cage on him and explain that the entire weekend will be orgasm-free. You can tease him - e.g. with light touches, cheeky messages or provocative clothing - but he stays in the cage. 
  Postpone the reward:  You allow him to have to &quot;earn&quot; being allowed to come on a certain day - for example by being obedient, doing chores in everyday life or indulging your pleasure. He knows that only when you are satisfied will he even consider it. 
 
 The ruined orgasm 
 A &quot;ruined orgasm&quot; is an extreme variant that should only be used in well-established, trusting relationships. The man reaches the point where orgasm is inevitable - but the dominant person changes the process so that the discharge is unsatisfactory, short and frustrating. 
 Typically, the stimulus is removed or altered at the decisive moment: He does come, but not in the way his body expects. The feeling afterwards is often a mixture of relief, frustration, pleasure and an even stronger fixation on your control. 
  Important:  Pressure on the perineum or targeted manipulation of the urethra are techniques that should only be used by experienced partners and always consensually. Safety, hygiene and open communication are paramount. 
 Safety, communication &amp;amp; aftercare 
 As playful as cum control may seem - the basis is always  mutual trust . Talk in advance about how far you want to go, what forms of orgasm control are suitable for you and what taboos there are. 
 
 Use a safeword or traffic light system (red / yellow / green). 
 Pay attention to physical signs: pain, overexertion, discomfort. 
 Plan time for attention and rest after intensive sessions. 
 
 Aftercare can be particularly important with Cum Control: The sub is often emotionally very open, perhaps exhausted or upset. Closeness, loving words, cuddling or a quiet conversation help to integrate the experience and deepen trust. 
 Tips for all levels - cum control step by step 
 Depending on your experience, confidence and desire, you can vary the intensity of Cum Control. This overview will help you to find the right level and gradually increase. 
 Level 1 - for beginners 
 
 Only individual Edging rounds, stop a maximum of 2-3 times shortly before orgasm. 
 Clear agreement: He may come at the end of the session. 
 No aids necessary, just hands and clear communication. 
 After the game, talk briefly about feelings, intensity and desires. 
 
 Level 2 - medium intensity 
 
 Longer Edging sessions with several stops, as described above. 
 Deliberate phases with &quot;No orgasm today&quot; - but lots of teasing. 
 Use of toys such as  cock rings  or Ballstretcher to intensify. 
 Chastity cage in phases (e.g. for an evening or a weekend). 
 
 Level 3 - for experienced users 
 
 Long-term chastity over several days or weeks. 
 Orgasm only as a rare reward - completely in your hands. 
 Experiment with ruined orgasms, but only with a lot of experience. 
 Rituals and rules (e.g. fixed days on which Edging is allowed at all). 
 
 No matter what level you play at: Cum control is particularly enjoyable when both parties feel seen, respected and desired. The power over his orgasm is not an end in itself, but a gift that you accept and use responsibly. 
 Conclusion: He suffers - and loves it anyway 
 Cum control is an intensely erotic and at the same time psychologically exciting BDSM practice. The man &quot;suffers&quot; in the moment of restraint - but it is precisely this mixture of being tormented, devotion and lust that makes it so incredibly appealing for many. 
 Even couples without much BDSM experience are increasingly discovering the power of orgasm control. If you treat each other with respect, clearly define boundaries and pay attention to each other, cum control can change your sex life forever - and take trust, closeness and dominance to a whole new level. 
 
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