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            <title type="text"> Enjoying life as a cuckquean</title>
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                                            Explore the erotic adventure as a cuckquean and experience the pleasure of seeing your partner with other women. This is not about cheating, but about a threesome relationship with your partner and a house mate. Discover the world of cuckqueaning and find out more about the ro...
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                 Life as a  cuckquean  can be incredibly intense, pleasurable and exciting - if everyone knows what they&#039;re doing and feels safe. Does the thought of seeing your partner with another woman not only make you feel jealous, but also tingles in your stomach and between your legs? Then a cuckquean dynamic could be just the fetish for you, in which head, heart and lust interact in their very own way. 
 The important thing to remember is that this is not just about cheating, but about a  consciously agreed form of open, usually BDSM-tinged relationship . Rules, transparency, communication and mutual respect are paramount. Only then can the game with the &quot;other woman&quot; become a pleasure that you can experience wholeheartedly as a cuckquean. 
 What is a cuckquean? 
 You describe yourself as a cuckquean if you find it arousing to watch your partner having sex with another woman - or if you at least imagine very intensely what it would be like. Maybe you do it to yourself, maybe you join in along the way, maybe you simply enjoy the role of observing the first woman. 
 Many cuckqueans are  bisexual or bi-curious  and feel attracted to both their partner and the &quot;other woman&quot;. This often makes the situation easier: not only are you jealous, but you find her attractive, desirable and exciting yourself. You can develop a  threesome dynamic  in which feelings, closeness and lust flow between all three of you. 
 Important: In many cuckquean constellations, this &quot;other woman&quot; is not just any old affair, but rather a  house friend  - someone who regularly becomes part of your game without jeopardizing your position as the main partner. 
 The house friend - more than just the &quot;other woman&quot; 
 The  house friend  is often an integral part of the dynamic in a cuckquean relationship. She knows her role: she can be desired, enjoy, have sex with you - but she doesn&#039;t replace you. Ideally, you both like each other: as a cuckquean, you find her sexy and likeable, while your partner feels attracted to her. 
 Typical for this constellation: 
 
 The  three of  you have  lovely moments together  - cuddling, playing, experimenting. 
 Your partner can also disappear into bed alone with your domestic partner - if it has been agreed. 
 Your domestic partner knows her limits: She makes no  demands in terms of time, status or relationship . 
 
 As a cuckquean, you  always  remain  in first place . If you feel that your girlfriend is attacking your role, you can and should address this openly. If you no longer feel comfortable, it is legitimate and important to change or end the constellation. 
 The hotman - desired, played with and yet belonging to you 
 In classic cuckold scenarios, the man is often submissive, disempowered and humiliated. In the cuckquean dynamic, things often work differently: your partner becomes a  hotman  - a coveted stud who is allowed to sexually exploit you and your girlfriend and is the center of erotic attention. 
 You decide how you experience this role: 
 
 as a  proud, pleasurable partner  who shares her hotman and gains pleasure in the process 
 as a spectator who becomes intoxicated by the sight of him and the reactions of her girlfriend 
 or as a woman who  deliberately plays with humiliation  - for example, if you find it arousing to feel laughed at or sexually upstaged 
 
 Very important:  Everything that has to do with humiliation, being laughed at or &quot;being pushed away&quot; is part of an agreed, consensual role play.  In reality, you must never feel permanently and unintentionally left behind or emotionally disregarded. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with fantasies and conversations. Imagine situations in words first before you bring a domestic partner into the game for real.  Tip for advanced players:  Start with clearly limited meetings (e.g. once a month) and fixed debriefing sessions for three or two.  Tip for experienced players:  Work with rituals (e.g. fixed greetings, outfits, roles) to keep the difference between play and everyday life clear - this creates security. 
 Jealousy, feelings &amp;amp; security in the cuckquean relationship 
 As titillating as the idea is,  jealousy, insecurity and fear are completely normal feelings  when it comes to a cuckquean dynamic. The trick is to deal with these emotions consciously - instead of suppressing them. 
 Helpful questions for you and your partner: 
 
 What exactly turns you on about the cuckquean situation? 
 What would be a clear  no-go  for you (emotionally &amp;amp; physically)? 
 How do you want to deal with moments of jealousy? Do you talk immediately or later in peace? 
 Is there a  safeword or signal  that you can use to stop the game? 
 
 A healthy cuckquean relationship is characterized by the fact that  all three participants are allowed to say no at any time  - without consequences, without recriminations. The game ends immediately if it is no longer good for one person. Afterwards, you can reflect in peace or fundamentally change the constellation. 
  Tips for all levels - Cuckquean life step by step    Level 1 - Beginners:  - Fantasies and words first: color scenes without acting them out. - Porn, stories or role play in the bedroom as a &quot;rehearsal&quot;.  - Formulate common rules: What is okay, what is not?   Level 2 - Advanced:  - First real domestic partner: choose carefully, get to know slowly. - Short, clearly limited meetings with clear follow-up discussions. - All sexual acts only within defined boundaries (e.g. no sleepovers).   Level 3 - Experienced:  - Fixed threesome dynamic with rituals and regular meetings. - Conscious play with power, jealousy, voyeurism and humiliation if necessary. - Regular &quot;relationship check-ins&quot; in which all needs are reassessed. 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginner:  - Role play in the bedroom without a real girlfriend: you pretend that there is &quot;another&quot;. - The hotman describes how he touches, kisses and takes this imaginary woman - you listen, ask questions, set the pace. - Agree on a safeword and then cuddle and talk about the experience.   Level 2 - Advanced:  - A real girlfriend is invited, initially for harmless scenes (cuddling, kissing, caressing together). - You decide where you want to sit: close, at the head end, on a chair as a spectator. - The hotman waits for your permission before going a step further (&quot;Can I lick her now?&quot;, &quot;Can I penetrate her?&quot;).   Level 3 - Experienced:  - More complex scenarios: The house mate seduces your hotman &quot;in front of your eyes&quot; - everything still remains subject to your rules. - You can change roles: sometimes the sovereign queen, sometimes the deliberately &quot;humiliated&quot; spectator - always agreed. - After the game: clear ending ritual (e.g. he showers first, then comes to you, you have exclusive time) so that your position as the main partner is emotionally strengthened. 
  Inspiration for sensual games:   Masks &amp;amp; role-playing accessories  -  Erotic games &amp;amp; dice  
 When the game should end 
 As seductive as cuckqueaning can be -  there are clear moments when the game has to end  or at least needs a break: 
 
 You feel permanently insecure, sad or replaced. 
 Your domestic partner starts to want more than you agreed. 
 Your partner doesn&#039;t respect your boundaries or your safeword. 
 One of you is simply no longer in the mood. 
 
 Then it&#039;s time to downsize the trio: the housemate can leave or the setting is paused until you feel stable again. Sometimes this also means that it&#039;s just the two of you again for a while - just you and your hotman. Your relationship and your well-being always come before the fetish. 
  You are and remain his number 1.  A good cuckquean dynamic ensures that you feel this position not only in the rules, but also in your heart - and that the game becomes really enjoyable. 
  Conclusion:  Living as a cuckquean means consciously exploring lust and jealousy. With clear rules, honest communication, safe boundaries and a reliable partner, this fetish can become an intense, unique form of relationship in which you can feel both desired and loved. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-22T16:15:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> Raising a cuckold - how to do it right</title>
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                                            If you&#039;re planning to train your partner to be a cuckold, you need to get it right from the start. If mistakes creep in, your plan can fail. There are certain points, like a kind of guide, that you can follow to get everything right, just read on, learn and then practice dilig...
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                 If you want to lead your partner step by step into the role of cuckold, you should proceed in a structured and deliberate manner from the outset. Without a plan, mistakes can quickly creep in, which can put a strain on trust and the relationship. With a clear approach, honest communication and mutually agreed rules, cuckolding can deepen your relationship and enrich it sexually. 
 Gather information on the topic of cuckolds 
 Before you start &quot;cuckolding education&quot;, knowledge is your most important foundation. What exactly does cuckold mean? What dynamics are possible? What boundaries are important? And is this form of relationship really what you both want? 
 You can find lots of information online and, of course, in our cuckold guides. Take your time to read up, save important articles and build your own personal guide. You don&#039;t have to memorize anything - but a basic understanding of the roles, patterns and risks will help you enormously in guiding your partner safely towards cuckoldry. 
 What is cuckold actually? 
  At its core, cuckolding describes a constellation in which you as a woman live sexual freedom while your partner takes on an observing, serving or submissive role.  Voyeurism, orgasm control, humiliation and conscious renunciation often play a role - always on the basis of consent and clear agreements. 
 Instead of being at the center of the action, your partner experiences pleasure by watching you, sharing you, enduring controlled frustration or serving you. There are countless variations: from gentle cuckolding with a focus on fantasies to intense live scenes with other partners. It is always important that you set the pace, limits and intensity together. 
 
 
 Suitable products for your cuckold dynamic 
 With the right accessories, you can specifically increase dominance, control and arousal in your cuckold relationship: 
 
  Chastity guide  - basics on orgasm control, keyholder role and long-term chastity. 
  Chastity &amp;amp; Chastity cages  - support orgasm renunciation and clear distribution of power. 
  Nippelklemmen &amp;amp; nipple toys  - ideal for gentle to intense punishment scenarios. 
  Ball gag &amp;amp; gags  - reinforce helplessness and submission in cuckold sessions. 
 
 Consciously choose what suits you both - you determine the level of control, pain and pleasure. 
 
 
 Let&#039;s get started with the cuckold education 
 Step 1: Use the man&#039;s lust - but with responsibility 
 Your partner also has fantasies that he rarely talks about openly. They often revolve around threesomes, partner swapping or group sex. Cuckolding can be a very special variant here: he&#039;s there, but he&#039;s not the center of attention. 
  The right moment to talk about fantasies is crucial.  Many women use intimate situations in which there is already a strong arousal and closeness. You can hint that the thought of swinging, partner swapping or open sexuality appeals to you - without revealing the whole concept straight away. 
 Always talk gently about the topic instead of attacking him head-on. Let him tell you whether he could imagine watching you have sex with others, what would appeal to him and what his limits are. This will gradually create a shared fantasy space in which the topic of cuckold can develop naturally. 
 Step 2: First rules - gentle but clear 
 Once your fantasies are out in the open, it&#039;s time to define the direction.  Important: As a hotwife, you want to keep your focus - it&#039;s not about &quot;everyone can do everything with everyone&quot;.  
 Gently set rules that steer your dynamic towards cuckolding without overwhelming your partner. Examples could be: 
 
 More focus on your pleasure (e.g. regular oral satisfaction that focuses on your well-being). 
 Joint masturbation rituals: look yes, only touch yourself. 
 Porn consumption only together - ideal for exploring cuckold videos or femdom scenarios together. 
 Light orgasm control: pauses, delays, &quot;don&#039;t come every time&quot;. 
 
 In the beginning, it&#039;s not about punishing him hard, but about gentle control. You set the framework - he senses that something is shifting without being pushed directly into an extreme role. 
 Step 3: Control &amp;amp; consciously frustrate orgasms 
 Orgasm control is a central element of many cuckold dynamics.  Ruined or delayed orgasms  can be a very powerful tool to keep him focused on you and tie his pleasure more closely to your decisions. 
 If he breaks rules or doesn&#039;t stick to agreements, you don&#039;t have to punish him harshly right away. It is often enough to delay, interrupt or deliberately not complete his orgasm. This teaches him that fulfilling climaxes are something special - and are strongly linked to your goodwill. 
 Used correctly, this won&#039;t make him frustrated with you, but will make him focus even more on you and your decisions - in bed and in everyday life. 
 Step 4: Introduce punishments - consciously and consensually 
 If orgasm control works well and you feel comfortable with the new dynamic, you can introduce real punishments. These should always be discussed in advance and clearly limited. The aim is to educate, not hurt. 
 Possible measures could be 
 
 Extended periods without orgasm (e.g. from a few days to a week or more). 
 Increased licking and pampering of your body - your well-being is always the focus. 
 BDSM elements such as Nippelklemmen, gentle electro toys or bondage, if you have experience with these. 
 Use of chastity cages or penis bondage to support self-control through physical control. 
 
 The more consistently you implement your rules, the clearer his role will become. Over time, his focus shifts more and more towards &quot;her pleasure first&quot; - and this is the core of many cuckold settings. 
 Stage 5: Bringing foreign lovers into the game 
 Once your base is stable and you feel confident in your cuckold dynamic, you can think about involving other people. This is a big step and should never be done out of pressure, but only out of a clear decision on both sides. 
 Your partner can just watch the first time, be partially involved or initially only be introduced to this scenario through fantasy, chat, videos and stories. It is important that: 
 
 Safer sex and boundaries are clearly defined. 
 All participants are of age, informed and consenting. 
 You have space for evaluation, feelings and aftercare afterwards. 
 
 Stage 6: Live your role as a hotwife visibly 
 Over time, you will grow more and more into your role as a self-confident hotwife. Clothing, appearance and accessories can support this role: Lingerie, leather looks, eye-catching outfits or a discreet anklet that only those in the know will associate with the scene. 
 Toys are now also more a part of your everyday life: powerful dildos, vibrators or machines that you consciously incorporate into your play. This clearly signals that your pleasure is the focus - and your cuckold learns to see this not as a threat, but as an integral part of your dynamic. 
 Stage 7: Dirty talk &amp;amp; constant mental arousal 
 A trained cuckold is not only in character in the bedroom. You can keep him in constant tension throughout the day with words, messages and small tasks. Dirty talk, fantasy descriptions, photos (in a safe setting) or tasks will always make him aware of your role as a hotwife. 
 Important: Reward and frustration should alternate. Only denial dulls, only reward bores. Your creativity and dominance keep the dynamic alive. 
 Conclusion: Raising a cuckold takes time, trust &amp;amp; clarity 
  Raising a cuckold is not a sprint, but a process.  It can take months to establish a stable dynamic that works for you. During this time, you will learn to lead clearly - and your partner to consciously follow. 
 The most important foundations are: 
 
 An already stable, trusting relationship. 
 Open communication about fantasies, fears and boundaries. 
 Mutually agreed rules that you adapt when feelings change. 
 Your willingness to not just play at dominance, but to really live it. 
 
 If you keep all this in mind, cuckolding can be more than just a kink, it can become an intense, imaginative extension of your sexuality together. 
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                            <updated>2021-12-12T16:15:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">The Hotwife: The Cuckold and his Cuckoldress</title>
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                                            Cuckolding is a somewhat different, unusual type of love relationship between a man and a woman. However, these are often the strongest relationships, as there are simply no secrets and no taboos. In a cuckold relationship, the woman in particular is allowed to live out her se...
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 Cuckolding describes a special form of open relationship in which sexual freedom, dominance and control play a central role. Many couples experience more intense trust because there are no more secret desires, taboos or hidden fantasies. 
 The focus is often on the  hotwife  - a woman who is allowed to develop freely sexually and is consciously supported by her partner. In this dynamic, the man takes on the role of the  cuckold . Instead of being the center of attention, he experiences pleasure through control, renunciation, humiliation or servitude - depending on the mutual agreement. 
 What makes a hotwife? 
 A hotwife - often also called a  cuckoldress  - takes the active part. She decides who she has sex with, what rules apply and what boundaries exist. She is self-confident, curious and lives out fantasies that often remain unspoken in traditional relationships. 
  The decisive factor:  She doesn&#039;t just enjoy sexual freedom. She enjoys the status of being desired, making decisions and consciously acting in her role of power. 
 The partner - the cuckold - gives up this control voluntarily. He experiences pleasure not primarily through his own orgasm, but through the process: watching, serving, giving up, enduring. This dynamic can be emotional, psychological or sexual - but always in mutual agreement. 
 Recommended accessories &amp;amp; products for cuckold couples 
 
 Hotwife &amp;amp; cuckold starter set 
 Use these tools to increase control, testing and dominance: 
 
  Chastity guide  - mental &amp;amp; physical control, orgasm withdrawal, keyholder roll. 
  Cockstrap with spikes  - stimulation &amp;amp; discipline for your cucki. 
  Leather cockstrap with chains  - dominant look, clear guidance &amp;amp; harder erections. 
 
 Build up the set slowly - depending on your dominance, experience and limits. 
 
 Show your dominance 
 As a hotwife, you are the one who sets the tone. Rules, boundaries and consequences are clearly communicated - and adhered to. A cuckold thrives on a framework, not chaos. 
 Dominance does not mean pure toughness. It can be playful, elegant, psychological or physical. More important than any punishment is that  you follow your rules, not his exceptions . 
 Tools such as Chastity cages, restraints, penis chains or impact toys support the dynamic. They are not compulsory - but they are powerful reinforcers if your partner cannot hold the role or is deliberately challenged. 
 The cuckoldress and her lover (&quot;bulls&quot;) 
 Another key aspect is the choice of lovers, the so-called bulls. The hotwife decides when, how often and with whom she is intimate. This freedom is the emotional core of the dynamic: the cuckold experiences pleasure not through possession, but through loss. 
 A bull is not automatically &quot;better&quot;. For many couples, it is the feeling of superiority, the physical dominance, the different kind of energy that counts. Some dynamics get by with a fixed Bull - others with changing partners. 
 In some constellations, there is an  Alpha Bull  - someone who is particularly present, lives the role more intensely or appears physically superior. This is not a must - but part of a production that is based on your fantasies. 
 This appeals to many hotwives 
 The attraction doesn&#039;t just come from sex. Many hotwives enjoy the attention, the freedom, the feeling of being desired - and the contrast between independence and dominance in everyday life. 
 Toys are often added to this: lifelike dildos, vibrators, strapons - or devices that can be used to increase the dynamics. Not to hurt, but to push boundaries or slowly build up tension. 
 Harmony instead of chaos - why cuckolding can work 
 Couples who successfully practice cuckolding are not working against their relationship, but  for a new honesty . There are no hidden desires or secret porn fantasies. Everything is transparent, agreed and communicated. 
 The cuckold takes responsibility for everyday life, takes care of his partner, supports her - not as a victim, but as a conscious part of the dynamic. A hotwife is not a &quot;cuckold concept&quot;. She is an active power role. 
 The role of the cuckold 
 The cuckold is not just a spectator. He is the servant, the supporter - whether in bed, in everyday life or in emotional scenes. For many, it is a switch from ego to devotion. 
 Some dynamics allow him occasional rewards or self-stimulation, others only under control. The important thing to remember is that  the rules are for your pleasure - not revenge . 
 Dominance remains the key 
 A hotwife who hesitates loses structure. Dominance means attitude, not toughness. You decide what is allowed - even if your lover physically dominates you. 
 The power is yours. You set the boundaries. You set the conditions. And that&#039;s exactly what makes cuckolding so intense for many couples. 
 
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                            <updated>2021-12-01T16:15:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Distribution of roles between Hotwife, Cuckold, Bulls and Lover</title>
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                                            When it comes to cuckolding, there are always several parts involved. Everyone has a fixed role. In the cuckolding scene, there is the hotwife and her cuckold. They are in a fixed relationship. Then there are the Bulls, whereby there is always an Alpha Bull. Last but not least...
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                 Cuckolding is an erotic role-playing game based on clear roles, trust and intensive communication. Each person involved takes on a defined role - playfully, consensually and with a dynamic that combines pleasure, control and fantasy. The four central roles are  Hotwife ,  Cuckold ,  Bulls  and  Lover . This guide shows how these roles work and why they are so exciting for many couples. 
 The Hotwife 
 The Hotwife is the central figure in cuckold role play. She decides how the game is structured, which fantasies are realized and how intensively power is distributed. Within the play setting, she takes on a dominant or sovereign-free role: she enjoys being desired, controlling boundaries and confidently taking the lead. 
 Depending on the agreed  cuckold classification (C1, C2, C3) , her dominance can relate exclusively to sexual scenes or also include elements of everyday life. However, the following always applies: everything happens on the basis of  consent, pleasure and mutual respect . 
 The hotwife decides if and when her partner - the cuckold - is sexually involved. While Bulls and Lover serve her sexually in role play, she remains emotionally connected to her partner. This mixture of power, freedom and devotion creates her special appeal. 
 The cuckold 
 The cuckold is the hotwife&#039;s permanent partner - emotionally close, loyal and deeply connected. In play, he takes on a submissive or voyeuristic role, enjoys the deprivation of power, fulfillment of tasks, servitude or the thrill of experiencing his partner with other men. 
 In everyday life, the role can be gentle or pronounced: from a supportive, loving partner to a consciously submissive part who takes care of the household, well-being and ritual moments. The cuckold is never devalued - he fulfills a  desired fantasy  and experiences the situation as a pleasurable challenge. 
 In sexual scenes, he can observe, assist, pamper or take on &quot;aftercare services&quot; after the game - such as massages, cuddling or cleaning scenes, provided this suits his and her consent. Punishments, if agreed, are playful elements such as sex deprivation, light acts of dominance or controlled tasks. 
 It is important to note that the cuckold is  not an inferior man  - he is an equal relationship partner who voluntarily plays a submissive role because it fulfills him sexually and emotionally. 
 The Bulls 
 Bulls are playfully dominant sexual partners who are often portrayed in fantasies as particularly passionate, powerful or self-confident. They take an active role in the sexual action with the hotwife, but without touching the couple&#039;s emotional relationship. 
 Whether a Bull is more gentle, powerful, playful or serious depends on the prior agreement. The idea of an  Alpha Bull  - a particularly intense or favored Bull - is also a role-playing scenario and not a real hierarchical pressure. 
 Bulls act respectfully, follow the Hotwife&#039;s rules and respect the boundaries of the entire constellation. Shopping trips, toy selection or erotic preparation are part of the flair of the game for some couples - but this also remains voluntary and consensual. 
 Lovers accept bulls in the setting because they fulfill other roles - not because of real value, but because of the imaginative game framework. 
 The Lovers 
 Lovers are temporary play partners of the Hotwife. They do not have to fulfill any particular body shape, performance or role - they are merely part of the erotic scenario. Lovers can be involved once or occasionally. 
 In many cuckold scenarios, they serve to add variety, surprise or pleasure. Their encounters with the hotwife are usually short, passionate and not designed for emotional closeness. Meetings are usually arranged discreetly and take place exclusively within the agreed play framework. 
 For the cuckold, this role of lover can bring erotic added value - for example through voyeurism, cumming fantasies or service elements, provided both partners find this pleasurable. 
 Tips for beginners, advanced and experienced players 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with fantasy conversations. Define clear boundaries, safe words and wishes. Start with a single role, e.g. hotwife &amp;amp; cuckold without bulls. 
  Tip for advanced players:  Integrate bulls or lovers at agreed intervals. Introduce ritual moments, e.g. preparation of the Hotwife, voyeuristic observation or light acts of service. 
  Tip for experienced players:  Develop more complex scenarios such as alpha-bull settings, power shifts or permanent C1-C3 structures. Use clear communication check-ins before, during and after each scene. 
 Tips for all levels - cuckold roles step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginners:  
 
 Define role play verbally first 
 Hotwife &amp;amp; Cuckold test first distribution of power 
 No third parties: Focus on trust 
 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  
 
 Integrate bulls or lovers (individual meetings) 
 Clear rules: What is the cuckold allowed to do, what not? 
 Rituals such as greetings, tasks, aftercare 
 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  
 
 Negotiation of complex rules (C1-C3) 
 Permanent roles, multiple participants 
 Psychological depth of the game: building up expectations, power shifts, taboo dynamics 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - beginners:  
 
 Simple scenarios such as &quot;Hotwife prepares, cuckold assists&quot; 
 Safewords &amp;amp; clear stop signals 
 Short sessions, slow build-up 
 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  
 
 First encounters with a bull 
 Cuckold chooses his position: observer, helper, ritual servant 
 More variation in language, attitude and leadership 
 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  
 
 Multiple roles simultaneously: Hotwife, Alpha Bull, Lover 
 Deep emotional and psychological control 
 Ritualized processes, tasks, handovers 
 
  Discover suitable categories:    Masks &amp;amp; role play    Handcuffs    Spanking paddles    Erotic games  
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                            <updated>2021-12-01T16:15:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Cuckold - How do I tell my wife?</title>
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                                            You dream of being a real cuckold and your wife has no idea? Then tell her! Really don&#039;t make a secret of it! Most women secretly dream of having sex with strange men and suppressing their own partner. However, only very few women would say so. Of course there are ladies who d...
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                 You dream of confessing to your partner that you want to be a cuckold - your heart is racing, your head is full of images, but you don&#039;t know how to start? This is exactly where this guide comes in. It will help you to understand your fantasies, communicate them respectfully and work out together with your wife whether and how you would like to integrate cuckolding into your relationship - in a consensual, safe and emotionally healthy way. 
 What does cuckolding actually mean? 
 Cuckolding describes a consensual role play or relationship concept in which your partner (often referred to as a  hotwife  or  cuckqueen  ) enjoys sexual freedom with other men while you consciously take on a more passive, observant or submissive role. You can watch, hear about it, find out details later or feel their power and freedom of choice - depending on your mutual boundaries. 
 Important: Cuckolding is not a &quot;trick&quot; to legitimize infidelity, but a clearly agreed, consciously designed game with power, jealousy, voyeurism and devotion. 
 Before you talk to her: Understand what you want 
 Before you take your woman into your confidence, it is important that you yourself are very clear: What exactly excites you? Voyeurism? Her lust? Giving up control? Humiliation? Emotional intensity? How do you want to feel - small, submissive, proud of your freedom, aroused by the taboo? 
 Also think about what boundaries apply to you: Fantasy only? Virtual contact? Real meetings? Only certain people? This reflection will protect you from being overwhelmed later on. 
  Tip for beginners:  Write down your fantasy in bullet points - without shame, just for yourself. That way you can explain it more clearly later.    Tip for advanced users:  Make a conscious distinction between &quot;fantasy&quot; and &quot;actually wanting to live&quot; - not everything that excites you in your head will fit into your everyday life.    Tip for the experienced:  Regularly check whether your desires still fit in with your agreed boundaries - fantasies can develop or shift. 
 How do I tell my wife - honestly instead of manipulatively 
 The most important step is to have an honest, respectful conversation. No &quot;accidental&quot; dropping, no hidden tests, no pressure. Your partner is not a tool to fulfill your fantasy, but an equal human being with her own desires. 
 Choose a quiet moment without stress. Tell her that you want to trust her with something intimate and that it means a lot of courage for you. Explain that it&#039;s a fantasy that excites you and that you want to share it with her - without expecting her to agree enthusiastically straight away. 
 Approach gently - without running her over 
 Many people need time to understand new fetishes. You can slowly steer your conversations towards fantasies and role play, talk about what you both like and what you can imagine. If you watch erotic content together anyway or talk about sex, scenes can be a conversation starter - but always openly, never as a &quot;trap&quot;. 
 Ask her: &quot;How would you feel if...?&quot; instead of: &quot;You should definitely...&quot;. This creates a dialog, not a monologue. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with sentences like: &quot;I have a fantasy that focuses on you - would you like to hear about it?&quot;    Tip for advanced users:  If she is curious, you can read articles or guides on cuckolding together and talk about what appeals to you and what doesn&#039;t.    Tip for the experienced:  Have conscious meta conversations: How does cuckolding change your relationship, your emotions, your boundaries? 
 Find out together and plan your first steps 
 Once her curiosity has been aroused, you can gather information together. Talk about what appeals to you and what is definitely out of the question. Cuckolding can take place on many levels - from purely verbal fantasies to staged role play to real encounters with other partners. 
 You can also agree on &quot;soft&quot; forms, for example: 
 
 She deliberately flirts more - but without sex with others. 
 You just imagine situations and act them out in bed. 
 She increasingly takes control of your sexual experience (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. when you are allowed to come). 
 
  Suitable categories for playful elements:    CBT &amp;amp; Toys for him    Spanking &amp;amp; punishment toys    Handcuffs &amp;amp; bondage  
 Cuckolding in stages - not all at once 
 Many couples find it helpful to approach it in stages - instead of jumping straight into extreme scenarios. Sometimes we talk about C1, C2 and C3: from fantasy and light power dynamics to very deep, everyday cuckold relationships. You can define your very own levels - and row back at any time. 
 Bulls and lovers - only if it really suits you 
 Involving real third parties is a big step. It&#039;s not a &quot;must&quot;, but an option that needs to be carefully considered. If you eventually get to the point where real lovers or bulls are also interesting, the following basic principles apply: 
 
 Everyone involved knows what is being played and agrees. 
 Safer sex and health have priority. 
 You set clear boundaries: What is the bull allowed to do? What is only allowed between the two of you? 
 You can also say &quot;no&quot; - and so can she. 
 
 If you notice that jealousy, insecurity or stress are taking over, it&#039;s perfectly okay to take a step back and focus on fantasies or less intense forms. 
 Redesigning everyday life - power, trust &amp;amp; closeness 
 Some couples integrate elements of cuckoldry into their everyday life: she takes more of the lead, decides on your pleasure life, on small or larger freedoms. You show through your actions that you accept her power - for example, by taking on tasks, giving her special attention or adhering to certain rules. 
 It remains important: Cuckolding is a chosen play and relationship concept. It should strengthen your partnership, but never destroy it. Both of you must feel respected, seen and loved - even in the inequality that you playfully experience. 
 Tips for all levels - cuckolding step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginner: 
 
 Fantasies and conversations only, no real third parties. 
 She is the center of attention: you praise, admire and desire her. 
 Little power games, like she decides when you can come. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Staged scenes: she writes messages to fictitious lovers or talks about imaginary dates. 
 You watch as she pleasures herself with toys and follow her instructions. 
 Optional use of bondage, toys, chastity - always agreed. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Real lovers or bulls - only with a stable relationship and intensive communication. 
 Clear agreements on frequency, contact, information, boundaries. 
 Regular check-ins: How is everyone doing emotionally? What needs to be adjusted? 
 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - beginners: 
 
 Simple scenes in the bedroom: she teases you with hints about other men. 
 You play the one who only looks, listens and begs - but everything stays between you. 
 Safeword and the option to get out of the role at any time. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Structured evenings: fixed roles, e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. &quot;Hotwife &amp;amp; devoted property&quot;. 
 Scenes with rules: you are not allowed to touch her until she allows it. 
 Integration of symbols (collar, anklet, special underwear) that emphasize her role. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Longer role plays that also extend into everyday life (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. a whole &quot;hotwife day&quot;). 
 Rituals such as consciously recounting her experiences while you serve or care for her. 
 Combination with other BDSM elements: spanking, bondage, CBT - always within your mutual comfort zone. 
 
 
 When she says no - and what that means 
 As tempting as the fantasy may be, it&#039;s possible that your partner doesn&#039;t want to live out cuckolding - now or later. This is not a devaluation of you, but an expression of her own boundaries. In this case, you can look for other power games or fantasies together that give you both pleasure - or you can live cuckold scenarios purely in your head, with erotica and masturbation. 
 Conclusion 
 The most important step to cuckolding doesn&#039;t start in the bedroom, but in the heart and in conversation. Inviting your wife into your fantasy with honesty, respect and patience will create space for real closeness - whether you end up using cuckolding as a mind game or actually integrating it into your everyday life. Communication, consent and trust are the basis. An erotic power game can grow on these, making your relationship more exciting, deeper and more lively - as long as you both find yourselves in it. 
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            <title type="text">A real cuckold swallows sperm! - Swallow your own sperm!</title>
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                 As good as every man it goes through the head, as probably the own sperm tastes. Once the desire is really there, often the urge to taste sperm is also there. Often, however, this will disappears again very quickly. 
 At the latest when the load is squirted. The sex drive is gone, the man is fully satisfied and the sperm is then indifferent to him. Sometimes even a kind of disgust or shyness arises before the own love juice. But there are ways to lose this. 
    Swallowing your own sperm    can also a beginner 
 First of all, you should know that anyone can swallow sperm. Even if you are a total beginner in this direction, you can get over yourself, approach and learn to love your sperm and become downright hot for it. The important thing is that you don&#039;t rush right into it. 
  Take your time and match the best possible mental phase of your self.  Only if you really like yourself, you can love a juice. And then you should also slowly get used to the idea. 
 Pictures and videos help you 
 Pictures and videos showing sperm are great helpers to get you used to the idea. You like watching porn? Well, then you have already created the perfect foundation. Look for porn where men swallow sperm, whether it&#039;s their own or someone else&#039;s sperm. 
 You don&#039;t have to look for gay porn at all. Just type in cuckold videos and you&#039;ll be in the right section. But also creampie, bukkake or cumeating are perfect keywords.   Try to find diverse videos and images so that your brain can absorb many different impressions. 
 Horny videos 
 It&#039;s best to watch such videos and pictures exactly when you are really horny. Then your brain quickly connects what you have seen with a positive effect.    The most important thing your brain needs to know is that swallowing sperm has nothing to do with homosexuality and is nothing perverted. It&#039;s a part of you that you want to taste. Women also taste their own juices and do it as if it is natural. 
 Use the precum (drop of desire) 
 When you&#039;ve been hot for a little while, the so-called drop of desire usually occurs. This is the precum. It is a very slippery liquid that you can easily pick up with your fingers. It is actually a very sweet drop that you will enjoy. 
 Use it to prepare yourself for your bodily juices.  Taste it and taste it every time!  
     You can promote the precum well if you use the start-stop technique.    
 Let your penis get really hard, get mega horny and then let it subside again, Do this a few times so you can always secure the precum nicely. Besides, it&#039;s also a top preparation if you plan to become a cuckold. Because ruined orgasms are then definitely the best orgasms and very desirable.    If you enjoy the longing drop, you&#039;ve made a big step. The shyness of your own body juice is thus almost discarded. However, the actual sperm tastes different from the precum. 
 Make your own semen tasty by changing your diet 
 Semen always tastes different. Everything you eat and drink affects your semen. If you smoke a lot and consume alcohol, your semen will not look and taste good. 
 You can make sure that your love juice tastes nice and sweet and at least a little bit close to the taste of precum. Lots of fruit is the magic ingredient. Especially sweet fruits like pineapple or mango  sweeten your juice . 
 You can do this in the form of fresh fruit or juice. If you decide on juice, always take direct juice, so that there is really a lot of the selected fruit.    In order for your own sperm to be supple and, above all, properly squirtable, you need to drink at least two liters a day . It&#039;s best to drink water. Coffee and the like will ruin the taste. 
 What you should do without 
 You should avoid things like onions, garlic, asparagus and red meat. Leave the fast food and exchange it for healthy vegetables and poultry. Try this for a week at first. You will see that this is already enough to change the taste of your body juice. 
 Keep the healthy diet and your own sperm will taste good for a long time. Moreover, you will also become a bit fitter in general. Also, eat protein foods, they will increase the quality of your sperm. The good old saying &quot;Eggs are good for mommy when they eat daddy&quot;, doesn&#039;t come from somewhere ... 
 The sperm swallowing training 
 Use different ways to play with yourself, your penis, orgasm and sperm. Ruin your orgasm.  Set a specific amount of time (not too short) where you can&#039;t cum while jerking off.  Then go ahead until you&#039;re close to orgasm. 
 You&#039;ll know when you&#039;re ready. Then let go of you quickly or immediately. Do not hesitate a bit, otherwise you will cum unintentionally. You will attract the pre-sperm, the precum. Enjoy its taste! Repeat several times until you reach your time limit. 
 Repeat the training 
  You should succeed three to five times . It is important to have a  dark bowl, cup, plate  or something similar ready, because you don  &#039;t just throw away  your  sperm!  No more absorbent aids are used to collect sperm. Always use something where you can easily see and view your own semen. 
 Get familiar with your body goods, play around with them. With the ruined orgasm you increase your desire more and more, so you are then eventually  really greedy to swallow the whole thing  and no longer just the pre-juice. 
 Squirt in the mouth 
 If you want, you can also inject  yourself into your mouth . It requires a bit of agility, as you have to get your knees over, or rather next to, your head. Get into the supine position, assume the great yoga pose and then simply let your legs fold over in the direction of your head. 
 Since the desire for your own sperm usually disappears with the orgasm or at the latest afterwards,  you have to squirt directly into the mouth or for the beginning after 10 seconds at the latest . This way you don&#039;t have time to think about it and just do it. When you cum, it&#039;s already too late to change your mind, because you won&#039;t get out of this position so quickly. 
 Dominant partner 
 If you have a great partner by your side, there is a very pleasant variant to swallow your  own sperm .  She should have a certain dominance.  With this, she can make you lick her pussy clean after sex. 
 Surely you like to lick her into exstasy before sex. But now she wants to be cleaned by you. Not with a cloth, but with your tongue. With gentle coercion, she can get you to do it and you&#039;re already tasting your own juice. 
 Practice makes perfect 
 Once you&#039;ve done it, you&#039;ll be able to swallow your own sperm again and again. Use every possible opportunity to deal with your love juice and enjoy it.  After quite a short time , it will become pure habit that you eat your sperm. Who knows, maybe you&#039;ll feel like tasting someone else&#039;s sperm. And always remember, practice makes perfect. 
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            <title type="text">Cuckold: Creating a cuckolding fantasy world</title>
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                                            Cuckolding is a coveted sex practice that is on many people&#039;s minds. However, not everyone dares to practice it. It often remains a secret fantasy that not even your partner knows about. That&#039;s a shame, because living out these thoughts can be very beneficial to a relationship...
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  Cuckolding  fascinates many couples - a fantasy that glows in secret, trembling between lust, insecurity and the tingling sensation of shifting power. The thought of a woman being desired while her partner watches or serves can create deep erotic tension - as long as everything is based on trust, consent and communication. 
 Many believe that cuckolding only works with real bulls. But that&#039;s just  one  version. You can create your own  cuckold fantasy world  -  intimate, safe and completely without third parties . Everything is created between you: Words, roles, images in your head, little rituals.  [Feeling: connection in forbidden warmth]  
  Discover cuckold guide:   Cuckold relationship - Overview   Cuckold classifications C1-C3  
 Cuckolding just the two of you - your own fantasy world 
 When real participants are not an option, it all starts in the mind. Imagination is one of the strongest erotic tools - and particularly powerful in cuckolding. You can create scenes, act out dialog, test out roles, form erotic images that feel both familiar and excitingly new. 
 
 The hotwife describes what an imaginary bull would do to her - while the cuckold listens, trembling. 
 He experiences himself observing, serving, exploring - curious about his own arousal. 
 You consciously play with feelings such as jealousy or devotion - knowing that you are really there for each other. 
 
 This creates a safe space, intense, forbidden, tingling - without any real risks. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with a simple &#039;storytelling session&#039;: one speaks, one listens. No judgment, no pressure. Agree on a stop signal and then discuss which moments particularly moved you. 
 Emotional safety: communication as the foundation 
 Cuckolding touches on sensitive topics: Self-worth, being desired, fear of loss, devotion. Communication is your anchor. It turns fantasy into consensual, emotionally safe play. 
 
  Talk beforehand:  Which words arouse? Which ones trigger? Which boundaries remain firm? 
  Traffic light system:  Green = pleasant, yellow = more intense, red = stop immediately and give closeness. 
  Aftercare:  cuddling, warm words, calm touches, grounding after intense scenes. 
 
 Jealousy is not a mistake - often part of the fantasy. It is important to distinguish between real hurt and feigned insecurity.  [Feeling: Soft closeness despite challenging tension]  
 The C1 level: gentle cuckold training 
 The C1 classification is completely fantasy-based. The woman acts as a  hotwife , the man as a learning cuckold: she leads, he follows. These roles intensify power, closeness and the dynamics of devotion. 
  Orgasm control  is central: 
 
 He only comes when she allows it. 
 She indulges his arousal - but determines the climax. 
 He remains open, desirous, devoted. 
 
 This phase can last for days - or develop over weeks. Important: Regular, controlled arousal keeps the tension and bond alive. 
 If agreed rules are broken, gentle  punishment games  can follow - always consensual: 
 
 Nippelklemmen for brief &quot;moments of clarity&quot; 
 Electric stimulation for tingling tremors 
 Paddle / spanking as a dominance signal 
 Chastity cages as a visible symbol of his devotion 
 
  Suitable categories for orgasm control:   CBT &amp;amp; Cock &amp;amp; Ball Toys   Hand &amp;amp; ankle cuffs  
  Tip for advanced users:  A &quot;cuckold diary&quot; creates emotional depth: The hotwife notes releases, prohibitions and experiences. The cuckold complements a daily gratitude ritual - a powerful bond of devotion. 
 Online inspiration: nourish your imagination, protect your boundaries 
 Online content can intensify your head cinema - if you use it consciously. Watching erotic scenes together becomes an intimate ritual for many couples. 
 
 You choose content that excites you both. 
 You watch together - comment, remain silent, feel. 
 She may come; he abstains - a strong role-play moment. 
 
 Forums and chats can be inspiring as long as privacy and security are paramount. 
 
 Use pseudonyms 
 No recognizable faces 
 Share media very consciously 
 
  Tip for experienced users:  Set clear rules before interacting online: What remains fantasy? What will never be real? Put these rules in writing and regularly adjust them together. 
 Consciously integrate bodily fluids 
 Bodily fluids can have a strong symbolic effect in cuckolding: visible, sensual, emotionally charged. 
 
 The hotwife observes his reaction to her arousal. 
 He experiences how his lust flows - and what she makes of it. 
 You decide together what intensity is good for you. 
 
 Hygiene remains essential - agreements, protection, respect. 
 Ejaculation as a ritual 
 For some cuckolds, visible ejaculation is a moment of deep meaning: pleasure, submission, symbolism. 
 
 On the stomach, chest or bottom - visible and intense 
 Watching together as an afterglow 
 Ritualized cleaning as a return from the role 
 
 On the face: protect your eyes, clear consent, no pressure. 
 Toys for your cuckold fantasy world 
  Sex toys  reinforce the roles and differences of your fantasy - especially if no real bulls are involved. 
  Toys for her:  
 
 Vibrators &amp;amp; dildos for pleasure phases without him 
 larger toys as a &quot;bull symbol&quot; 
 intense clitoral or G-spot stimulators 
 
  Toys for him:  
 
 Chastity cages for clear control 
 Paddles, clamps, electric stimulation toys 
 Anal- or prostate toys - ideal for Pegging scenarios 
 
  Popular categories for cuckold games:   Vibrators for her   cockring &amp;amp; cock rings   BDSM &amp;amp; bondage toys  
 Tips for all levels - cuckolding step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginner:  Gentle fantasy talk, first roles, small moments of control. Focus: trust. 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  Fixed rituals, keeping a diary, clear rules, longer withdrawal phases, dominance in everyday life. 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  An elaborate cuckold world with symbolism, power games, deep emotional levels &amp;amp; rituals. 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginner:  - Short scenes: Hotwife describes fantasy, cuckold listens. - Safeword, traffic light system, clear follow-up conversation. - First role formulation: &quot;I tell - you hear and feel.&quot; 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  - Longer scenes with rituals (e.g. kneeling, thank you formulas). - Inclusion of small punishments or rewards. - Role dialogues: Hotwife dominates, Cuckold reacts emotionally and physically. 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  - Complex scenes with emotional depth, power psychology, symbolic actions. - Integration of toys, cage, Pegging or extended rituals. - Scenes that go on for days or weeks, with clear structure and aftercare. 
 Conclusion: Cuckolding without third parties - intense, close, consensual 
 Cuckolding doesn&#039;t have to take place in a stranger&#039;s bed. Your most intimate cuckold world is created through fantasy, trust and consciously played roles. A world in which she is desired - and he experiences lust and devotion in a new way. Deeper, more intense, more erotic than many suspect. 
 Let yourself be curious, loving and respectful - and discover a form of eroticism that connects, strengthens and fills you with fantasy. 
 
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                            <updated>2021-10-06T16:15:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> Creampie Cleanup - lick them really clean!</title>
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                                            To lick a sperm pussy properly clean, there are several methods and positions. So it will always be a new experience. It is important that the tongue is always used in full passion. Gladly it is seen by the woman if you lick her clean with the tongue so that she comes directly...
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                 With creampie-cleanup is meant that you lick a pussy clean of sperm. So really clean licks! Not only the sperm is licked away, but the vagina is licked out properly. The term Creampie comes from the English language and stands for a pastry filled with vanilla cream. 
 The cream is so liquid that it runs out and already reminds a little of sperm. So the perfect word template for the BDSM scene was created. 
 Who licks up the sperm and why? 
 For the creampie cleanup actually very many people can be inspired. At swinger parties and orgies, it&#039;s usually the women who lick the cum off each other&#039;s bodies. 
 Women also like to share the coveted love juice among themselves. By kissing, the sperm is passed from woman to woman. This is called snowballing.     But sperm can also be made palatable to men. Many men have a desire to taste their own sperm. This desire passes with the orgasm immediately again. Thus, the women then often remain stained. But especially in the cuckold scene, the man is required to clean his hotwife. 
 Not with cloths, but with his own tongue. And the man even likes to do this. He loves to lick his cuckqueen clean to the last detail. Even foreign sperm from the Bulls is not spurned by him.     Of course, it is not every man to swallow sperm. For some, it probably represents the greatest challenge to overcome. But there are good tips and tricks to make it easier. 
 At the beginning, for example, a spray dildo with artificial sperm could be used. Sperm swallowing can be learned. We offer you an extensive article in our cuckold category. 
 Enjoy different moments and methods 
 To lick a sperm pussy properly clean, there are different methods and positions. So it will always be a new experience. It is important that the tongue is always used in full passion. The woman likes it when you lick her clean with your tongue so that she comes again directly.    In order for you as a woman to get your man to lick you, you have to prove dominance. Cuddling after sex and falling asleep together is a long way off. After the fun comes the work. You have to convince him to loosen his tongue. Raise your man to be a cuckold. How this works, tells you the corresponding blog from us. 
 Licking by facesitting 
 Facesitting is a well-known and popular method of getting licked to orgasm. For the man it is an absolute highlight to have all the wetness directly in his face and also to be able to breathe only to a limited extent. 
 You should not suffocate your partner, but you may put some face on his face from time to time. He can smell and taste you. This action makes not only you hot, but also him.   However, facesitting must not be used only for this. It is also the ideal position to let the man run the sperm directly into his mouth. He only needs to open his mouth and do nothing else. 
 Once the first swing is swallowed, his tongue comes into play. Finally, the pussy should be licked properly pure. A pleasure for both parties. 
 Position 69 pleases both 
 Sex position 69 pleases both parties, of course. It is often used to satisfy each other orally. But the position can also be taken after orgasm. Because then it serves to lick each other clean. 
 The man frees the vagina of his beloved from his sperm and thus gets back his body&#039;s own good. Meanwhile, the woman can lick the cock clean and also gets tasty sperm off. Who knows, maybe it will drive both of them to climax again. 
 Aftercare perfect for cuckold sessions 
 The aftercare is perfect for cuckold sessions. The woman exposes her pussy by opening her legs wide or even stretching them upwards. So the man can spoil her with horny kisses and playful tongue and lick his own sperm, or probably more likely, the bulls sperm. In doing so, he has a full view of his partner&#039;s pussy and anus region.     Other imaginative positions can also be discovered with the help of porn. There are wonderful creampie cleanup videos to discover at hot porn sites. But also the cuckold porn can be a good assistance for the cuck and his queen. 
 Dirty, intimate and absolutely bonding 
 The creampie cleanup is a very intimate and really dirty thing. However, it is also very bonding and one of the reasons why cuckold couples have such an insanely intimate relationship with each other. The relationship is very harmonious because you share the most intimate thing ever. 
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                            <updated>2021-07-01T16:15:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">The Cuckold Classifications C1, C2, C3</title>
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                                            Cuckold is a sex practice that can be acted out in three classifications. C1, C2, C3. From relatively harmless and soft, to the complete loss of rights of the man is so much to discover. Not always all classifications must be lived out. Some couples stop at C1 or C2 to not go ...
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 Cuckold is a sex practice that can be acted out in three  classifications .  C1, C2, C3.  From relatively harmless and soft, to the complete loss of rights of the man is so much to discover. Not always all classifications must be lived out. 
  Some couples stop at C1 or C2  to not go quite so far. Extend, eventually still goes. Nevertheless, the individual classifications can also be called stages or steps to the perfect Cuckold. 
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 Cuckold classification C1 
 C1 is the most harmless variant of cuckolding. Here, the man is still really a man and often gets cross when he is suppressed. It is a nice playful sex variation where the man is the voyeur.  It is a perfect  introduction to becoming a cuckold. 
  The man enjoys seeing his partner having sex with other men . It makes him mega hot when the hotwife is alienated. 
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 At this stage, the man also still decides who his wife can and can&#039;t have sex with. It is a good connection with  wifesharing . Only that here the man is no longer active, but a good spectator must be or should be. 
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 The C1 Cucki wants to be sexually active, will be at first. He is not yet made to obey and be submissive.&amp;nbsp;This is where  education or punishment  comes  into play . Mockery is very appropriate there. 
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  The cuckold has a small penis, perfect to make fun of!  The woman may also like to whips, paddles and Co to break the strong will of the man and force him to obedience. 
   In quiet moments, the C1 Cuckold also likes to watch porn and jerk off to it. When it comes to his partner, jerking off is often not enough for him. He still wants to be actively involved and then also likes to get a blowjob while his wife is being taken through. 
 Cuckold Classification C2 
 In level C2, the cuckold is already nicely submissive and practices orgasm control. Just a very classic cuckold, without special features or extreme inclinations. The C2 level requires a lot of mutual trust.  Because from now on, the woman chooses her men herself.  
 She decides with whom she goes to bed and especially when and where.  Her own partner is not always involved.  He is no longer allowed to join in or watch all the time. On the contrary, he has important tasks to do, like running the household or preparing something nice for his hotwife. 
   The man is very reluctant, but this is only shown internally. Outwardly, he holds out. He has no other choice at all.  Sex deprivation is now part of everyday life . When he is alone, chastity of the cuckold can be ensured by means of a penis cage. He may find satisfaction only if it is permitted to him by his dominating partner.    Some people are afraid of C2, because the man always wants to be dominant and go through life as a real man. This he can also do. The submissiveness takes place only in the relationship. In professional life a determining leadership position can be a good compensation. 
 Cuckold classification C3 
 Now it has finally happened around the man, he  has lost all rights  and is strictly subject to the commandments of the woman. This now also no longer refers only to the sex life. 
  Everyday life is involved.  The Hotwife is his sanctuary, for which he does everything. The C3 Cucki has a rare sex life, as he is deprived more often and longer. 
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 The wife, on the other hand, enjoys herself all the more. It even goes so far that she flies on vacation with one of her lovers and leaves the man at home. On the part of the man, it is the greatest proof of love for the woman ever. 
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 It also happens that children are born into the cuckold relationship. These often come from the bulls (lovers), the actual partner still loves these children and, if necessary, has himself entered as the father in the birth certificate. In some cases, the beloved dominatrix now even determines the professional life of her &quot;little dog&quot;.     Cuckolding is unfortunately still a taboo subject, thereby it can be the salvation just in long-standing, sexually flagging relationships. Not everyone is comfortable living out a fetish in this direction, but trying it out is never wrong. 
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  How far the whole thing should go is ultimately up to each couple.  After all, there are great boundaries in the form of C1, C2 and C3, especially in cuckolding. 
 
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            <title type="text">Cuckold: Ruining the orgasm</title>
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                                            There are various methods to ruin an orgasm. Orgasm ruin is also called orgasm control or milking. Tease &amp; denial (getting horny and then dropping it) is also one of them. Very strong feelings of pleasure come from the ruined orgasm. This can be achieved by the man alone or by...
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                 A ruined orgasm - in BDSM and especially in cuckolding - is a unique mixture of intense pleasure, withdrawal of power and emotional control. For many men, it feels both agonizing and incredibly arousing. This game of stimulation, near-orgasm and abrupt withdrawal creates a deep ecstasy for many that goes far beyond the usual climax. 
 If the orgasm is deliberately ruined, the result is an intense state of intoxication: the body builds up pleasure, the mind lapses into devotion - and the climax is prevented at precisely the crucial moment. This form of orgasm control can be used several times in succession and often builds up to an almost trance-like arousal. 
 Different methods 
  Orgasm ruin  - also known as  orgasm control, milking  or  tease &amp;amp; denial  - comprises different techniques that all have the same goal: maximum pleasure with a simultaneous experience of power. It can be performed solo, but in a cuckold context, the partner, hotwife or dominant woman usually takes complete control. 
 Alone, it is difficult for men to stop at the point of no return. A partner, on the other hand, can often ruin the orgasm several times - sometimes up to five repetitions, depending on sensitivity and training. 
  Matching categories:    CBT &amp;amp; Cock &amp;amp; Ball    Handcuffs    Paddle  
 You need to know each other 
 For good orgasm control, the partner must be able to read the man very well. Breathing, muscle tension, the hardness of the penis, the shine of the glans - all these details reveal how close the climax is. The better you know each other, the more precise your control will be. 
 A safeword or signal system helps, especially if words are difficult. Some couples use traffic light colors, others simple words such as &quot;stop&quot;, &quot;now&quot; or neutral terms. Ideally, however, the woman will instinctively recognize when she needs to remove her hand or the stimulus. 
 He can also cum without orgasm 
 After prolonged chastity or intense arousal, it can happen that sperm flows out or even comes out like a fountain - without a real orgasm having taken place. This is normal and shows how strong the game is. The so-called precum is often abundant and particularly sensual for many couples. 
 After a ruined orgasm, play can continue immediately. The second, third or fourth run-through can leave the man completely emotionally drained. 
 From agonizing to ecstatic 
 Milking can cause both pleasure pain and complete sensory overload. The penis becomes hard, sensitive and overstimulated - often to the point of intolerability. But just before it becomes &quot;too much&quot;, something amazing happens: many men slip into an almost complete freedom from pain, into a pleasure rush that is barely aware of external stimuli. 
 In this phase, the dominant woman can extend the game: Nippelklemmen, candle wax, spanking or mild humiliation are barely consciously perceived. Now she can dive deeper into the role - whether as a controlling hotwife, dominant mistress or loving and strict partner. 
 Stimuli oriented towards anal such as strapons or prostate vibrators also support the milking and intensify the experience. 
  Other categories:    Anal plugs    Inflatable plugs    Strap-on dildos  
 What does a ruined orgasm do for a man? 
 Many men find a ruined orgasm deeply satisfying, even though it is physically unsatisfying. It plays a central role in the cuckold dynamic: the submissive man experiences control, humility, excitement, tension - and an enormous increase in his sexual energy. 
 The process strengthens stamina, arousal control and can lead to more intense, more conscious orgasms. Each interrupted wave intensifies the next - until at some point the pleasure discharges at a completely new level. 
 How does the woman benefit? 
 For the dominant woman, controlling the man&#039;s orgasm is an act of power, intimacy and erotic guidance. She decides when pleasure arises, when it is withdrawn and when the man is allowed to come. 
 Many hotwives find it tingling to make the man squirm, to see his precum or to lead him into deep devotion. The pleasure of seeing him suffer - in a controlled, consensual setting - is an essential part of their role for some. 
 Leading to a dry orgasm 
 After several ruined orgasms, it can happen that the body reacts &quot;confused&quot;: The penis remains hard, pleasure high, but the amount of semen is depleted. The woman can use this to lead the man to a so-called  dry orgasm  - an intense, often painful, but extremely satisfying experience. 
 Such an orgasm is ideal for riding positions, hand jobs or deeper control. The dominant woman determines the pace, intensity and duration of the final phase. 
 Tips for beginners, advanced and experienced users 
  Tip for beginners:  Start slowly. Talk about limits and only use light stimulation. Stop just before the climax and give yourself time to catch your breath. 
  Tip for advanced users:  Incorporate restraints, eye masks and vibrating toys. Ruin the orgasm several times in a row. Use different techniques to vary the intensity. 
  Tip for experienced users:  Combine orgasm control with power play, chastity, ritual elements or cuckold scenarios. Pay attention to aftercare and emotional closeness. 
 Tips for all levels - Orgasmusruin step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginner:  
 
 Simple tease &amp;amp; denial 
 Short stimulation phases, clear communication 
 One-off ruining to get to know each other 
 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  
 
 Incorporate multiple ruined orgasms 
 Include restraints, masks or CBT 
 Add role-play elements 
 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  
 
 Ritualized sessions with chastity 
 Prostate milking &amp;amp; strapon scenes 
 Psychological control &amp;amp; deep devotion 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginner:  
 
 Short role: &quot;You only come when I allow it.&quot; 
 Simple safeword, slow approach 
 Only one or two ruin attempts 
 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  
 
 Hotwife/cuckold scenarios 
 Restraints, masks, toys &amp;amp; multiple control 
 Emotional leadership and clear dominance 
 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  
 
 Long sessions with chastity and power withdrawal 
 Psychological games such as expectation building 
 Combination of prostate, milking, rituals 
 
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            <title type="text">Cuckolding Terms</title>
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                                            In the sex scene, there are so many insane terms with which most people can do nothing. Even with the normal sex positions, many men and women have a big question mark over their heads when they hear the terms. In the fetish scene, however, is then still properly talked shop a...
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                 In the sex scene, there are so many insane terms with which most people can do nothing. Even with the normal sex positions, many men and women have a big question mark over their heads when they hear the terms. In the fetish scene, however, is then still properly talked shop and thrown around with technical terms. 
 For the lover of the normal all words with which he can do nothing. For people from the BDSM scene but interesting and worth knowing. Also in the area of cuckolding there are many terms that are not immediately obvious and need explanation. This we want to offer you here now. 
 Cuckolding 
 The word cuckolding alone does not immediately reveal what it is. Most people know that it is a sex practice. But only a few know what exactly it is.   Cuckolding is an English term derived from the German word Kuckuck. 
 A cuckoo lays its eggs in foreign nests. The foreign birds then have to raise the chicks. In cuckolding, it is often the case that the woman has children by other men, but her own partner raises them. Of course, cuckolding does not only involve raising foreign children. 
 It is the partnership between a hotwife and a cuckold. The cucki is submissive and the woman is dominant. This runs through the sex life and also through the cohabitation. Cuckolding can be practiced in different classifications (C1, C2, C3).   You can find an extensive blog post about cuckolding and what exactly it is on our corresponding blog pages. 
 Cuckold 
 In the cuckold relationship the male submissive part is called cuckold. So the actual life partner. This has to do what the woman demands. Depending on the classification, it is limited to the sex life or the complete life together. The cuckold is also called cuck or cucki. 
 Cuckquean 
 When talking about a cuckquean, the woman is the submissive part. She lets herself be enslaved, so to speak, and the man is her master and determiner. He determines over her which form of sex she may / must have. Here, too, there are corresponding levels that decide whether she is a cuckquean only during sex or in the complete relationship. 
 Hotwife 
 If the woman calls herself a hotwife, she is the dominant, leading part of a cuckold relationship. She is also referred to as a cuckoldress. She has the fulfilling sex while the cucki is only allowed to watch and &quot;suffers&quot; from sex deprivation. 
 Bulls 
 In cuckolding, bulls are very important. They are more muscular, attractive and in every way more attractive than the cuckold. big penises and real power are what the Bulls must bring. They have sex with the hotwife while the life partner/husband watches, takes pictures and videos or may be allowed to play with themselves. 
 Lover 
 Lovers are also popularly brought into the game. They are handled similar to Bulls, so they serve to have sex with the Hotwife. However, Lovers are handled more anonymously than Bulls and do not have to be attractive either. They just have to be able to offer plenty of sperm. They should inseminate the Cuckoldress as much as possible everywhere and then they can leave directly. 
 BBC 
 BBC is a term that often comes up when it comes to Bulls. Because it means Big Black Cock. In German: Big black penis. Many Bulls have a dark skin color because these are simply the men with the best equipment. So BBCs are very popular when it comes to cuckolding. 
 Alpha Bull 
   The BBC men are usually the Alpha Bulls as well. Every cuckold couple has an Alpha Bull. This one is the most muscular, biggest and best looking man among the Bulls and of course has the biggest penis to offer. He calls the shots during sex and only reluctantly tolerates other Bulls. 
 Cunnilingus 
 The cunnilingus should be mastered by every cuckold. This is oral sex. The cucki should be very skillful with his tongue, be able to irritate clit and labia so that the woman comes to orgasm. For the cucki a humiliating &quot;work&quot;. 
 Creampie 
 Creampie is also again from English and means something like cake with cream filling. In the BDSM scene, a fully inseminated woman is called a creampie. In a cuckold session, that&#039;s where bulls and lovers come in. 
 They squirt the woman full of their precious juice. She is inseminated externally and also filled properly. The cuckold may clean everything afterwards. However, not with rags or sponge, but with his own tongue. 
 Cumplay 
 Instead of just licking the hotwife clean, all the cum can also be used very well for a cumplay. Cum plays are very popular, but not for beginners. Instead of swallowing the sperm directly, it is passed from mouth to mouth. It is distributed on the body, collected with plates, spoons and co. 
 Cumcubes 
 Cumcubes can be used well for cumplays, if just no current insemination took place. Cumcubes are small frozen ice cubes of sperm. These can also come in the form of popsicles or in small ziplock bags. Cumcubes can be enjoyed directly frozen or thawed first. 
 Felching 
   Felching is similar to cunnilingus. The only difference is that it&#039;s not about bringing the woman to climax by stimulating the clitoris and labia minora. Felching is really about licking clean. The semen must be licked up completely. The cucki has to use his tongue skillfully to lick out the hotwife and absorb every single sperm.   Femdom    Let&#039;s move on to femdom. This is a sex practice in which the woman takes the dominance, She is in charge. She dominates the man and shows her dominance also in her style of dress, which is made of lacquer and leather. The man is enslaved and punished with shackles, whips and co. This is also lived out in a certain way during cuckolding. 
 Sextoys 
 Sextoys are toys for adults that spice up their sex life. When it comes to cuckolding, bondage toys are used a lot as well as toys for chastity and forced emasculation. There are prostate vibrators, dilators, penis cages and much more to discover to humiliate the man. 
 Also a Strapon Dildo is brought gladly times to the employment.   Of course, the Cuckoldress also has normalotoys like vibro eggs, dildos and vibrators. Because she is sex obsessed and likes to be pampered with them. 
 Gangbang 
 Sex toys are great to satisfy the hotwife. But much more horny is a real gangbang! The original meaning of gangbang is less nice, as it means something like gang rape. The sexual abuse of a woman by numerous men should only be lived out as a fantasy! 
 So is usually also the handling of a gangbang. The woman makes herself available to numerous men, who can do whatever they want with her. In cuckolding, such sessions occur frequently. 
 The bulls and lovers take the hotwife hard. The woman seems submissive. But she is not really, because she lives out her wildest fantasies and actually uses the men and not vice versa. 
 Code word traffic light 
 To a gangbang should also always exist a codeword traffic light. For wild sex practices, safe words must be agreed upon in advance. These are handled like a kind of traffic light. So the words green, yellow, red can also be used directly as corresponding code words. Green means that everything is fine. Yellow means that the woman is no longer feeling well. If she says red, the session must be ended directly, because it is no longer acceptable for the woman. 
 Submissive 
 Submissive means to be submissive. In cuckolding, the man is submissive and submits to the woman like a little puppy dog. He puts up with everything without fighting back. He obeys and does what he is told. 
 Dominance 
 Dominance means to rule over another, to be in charge. Cuckolding consists of dominance and submissiveness. The dominant part is the woman, who determines, dominates and also punishes. 
 Tease &amp;amp; Denial 
 Tease &amp;amp; Denial is a wonderful game in the life of cuckold couples. Here the partner is made hot with words and deeds. The woman can send sexy pictures to the man during her lunch break, send horny messages and start a little sex chat without letting him do it himself. 
 He should only be turned on, but not discharged.   At home, the woman can walk around in front of him in sexy lingerie or be completely naked without letting him get it on. This game can be continued at will and reinvented over and over again. 
 Chastity 
 Chastity means that the man is not allowed to discharge his sperm. He is not allowed to have sex, he is not allowed to make it himself. In Tease &amp;amp; Denial games this is very difficult. In order for him to comply, the woman can force him to be chaste. This is where penis cages come into play, for example. 
 BDSM 
 Cuckolding is one of many BDSM sex practices. BDSM means extreme sex, hard sex, so to speak. It is a term that comes from English. Bondage &amp;amp; Discipline, Dominance &amp;amp; Submission. In German it means as much as bondage &amp;amp; discipline, dominance &amp;amp; submission, sadism &amp;amp; masochism.     There are still countless terms on the subject of BDSM in general. However, at this point you should only be familiarized with the terms around cuckolding. We wish you a lot of fun with the implementation and the living out of the practices behind the technical terms. 
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