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            <title type="text">Guide: Everything you need to know about femdom</title>
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                                            Discover the world of femdom. Learn all about power and control in relationships, different practices and safety tips for beginners and experienced couples.
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                 Femdom, short for &quot;female domination&quot;, describes a relationship or play situation in which a woman assumes the dominant role and exercises power and control over her partner. 
 This form of BDSM is a very popular practice both in the real world and in many people&#039;s fantasies. In this guide, you&#039;ll learn everything you need to know about femdom - from the basic principles and various practices to important safety aspects. 
 1. What is femdom? 
 Femdom stands for female dominance and describes a dynamic in which a woman takes control while the submissive partner submits to her leadership. This dynamic can be lived out in various forms, be it in sexual role play, in long-term dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships or even in everyday life. Importantly, femdom, like all BDSM practices, is based on mutual consent, respect and communication. 
 2. Different forms of femdom 
 Femdom can be practiced in many different ways, depending on the preferences and boundaries of those involved. Here are some of the most common forms: 
 
  Discipline and punishment:  the dominatrix sets rules and punishes her submissive partner for breaking the rules. These punishments can range from light physical punishments to psychological disciplinary measures. 
  Bondage and restriction:  Bondage games in which the submissive partner is tied up and restricted in their freedom of movement are a common practice in femdom. 
  Verbal domination:  The dominant uses verbal commands, humiliation or instructions to exert power over her partner. This can be very powerful and intimate. 
  Sensory Deprivation:  Through the use of blindfolds, headphones or other means that restrict the senses, the power relationship is intensified as the submissive partner is completely dependent on the dominant. 
  Financial Domination (Findom):  A special form of femdom in which the submissive partner is financially controlled. The dominatrix determines how and on what the money is spent. 
  Tease and Denial:  The dominatrix controls the partner&#039;s sexual arousal by teasing them but denying climax. This can intensify the feeling of power and increase the tension. 
  Crossdressing and Sissification:  The submissive partner is dressed in female clothing or made to adopt female behaviors. This can be a form of control and humiliation. 
 
 3. Safety and consensuality in femdom 
 As with all BDSM practices, safety and consensuality in femdom is of the utmost importance. Here are some important points to keep in mind: 
 
  Communication:  before each femdom session, both partners should talk openly about their desires, boundaries and any concerns. A &#039;safeword&#039; should be agreed so that the game can be stopped immediately if necessary. 
  Start slowly:  Especially for beginners, it is important to start slowly and gradually increase the intensity. This allows both partners to find out what they like and what they don&#039;t like. 
  Safety measures:  With practices such as bondage or sensory deprivation, measures for quick release and clear communication should always be ensured. Sharp scissors or other tools should be to hand. 
  Aftercare:  After an intense femdom session, it is important that both partners schedule time for aftercare. This can include talking together, cuddling or simply relaxing after play to ensure that both feel emotionally and physically comfortable. 
 
 4. Practical tips for femdom beginners 
 If you&#039;re new to the world of femdom, these tips can help you make your first experience safe and enjoyable: 
 
  Education and research:  educate yourself thoroughly about femdom practices before trying them out. There are many books, forums and online resources that can help you develop an understanding of the dynamics. 
  Slow introduction:  Start with simple forms of dominance, such as light commands or small punishments, before moving on to more complex practices. This will give you the opportunity to explore your role as a dominatrix and build confidence. 
  Self-confidence:  As a dominatrix, it&#039;s important to exude confidence. Practice your role and work on developing a clear and definite stance to control the dynamic. 
  Experimentation:  Femdom offers a variety of ways to exert power and control. Try out different techniques to find out what you and your partner enjoy the most. 
  Respect your partner&#039;s boundaries:  Even if you take on the dominant role, it&#039;s important to respect your partner&#039;s boundaries and wishes. Consensuality is the foundation of any BDSM practice. 
 
 5. Femdom in long-term relationships 
 Femdom can be practiced not only in occasional sessions, but also in long-term relationships. Here are some thoughts on how you can integrate femdom into everyday life: 
 
  Assigning roles in everyday life:  In a long-term femdom relationship, certain tasks and responsibilities can be clearly assigned, such as who is in charge of the household or who makes decisions. 
  Regular meetings:  Schedule regular sessions in which you live out the dynamic distribution of power intensively. These can be both structured and spontaneous. 
  Open communication:  In long-term relationships, it is particularly important that both partners talk regularly about their feelings and experiences to ensure that both are happy with the dynamic. 
  Change and adaptation:  Long-term femdom relationships require flexibility. What works today may require adjustments in the future to keep the relationship fresh and fulfilling. 
 
 6. Femdom accessories and toys 
 There are a variety of accessories and toys that can intensify the femdom experience. Here are some popular options: 
 
  Whips and paddles:  these classic BDSM tools are great for punishment play and can be chosen in a variety of materials and intensities. 
  Bondage equipment:  Ropes, handcuffs, spreader bars and other bondage tools are perfect tools for restraining your partner and taking control. 
  Boots and high heels:  Many dominatrices prefer to wear high boots or heels to emphasize their dominance. These shoes can also be used as fetish objects. 
  Ball gag and blindfolds:  These accessories are ideal for increasing control and restricting the partner&#039;s senses, which can intensify submission. 
 
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                            <updated>2024-09-02T09:45:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">What is CBT sex?</title>
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                                            The term CBT stands for Cock and Ball Torture, i.e. the torture of a man&#039;s penis and testicles. This type of play is clearly associated with BDSM and 
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                 What is CBT sex? - Cock &amp;amp; Ball Torture explained 
  CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)  refers to the deliberate application of pain or pressure to the penis and testicles. This BDSM game combines dominance, control and masochistic pleasure. Many men find the physical stimulation sexually satisfying and enjoy it when their partner inflicts pain in doses. 
 Important: CBT is not &quot;all or nothing&quot;. It can range from gentle techniques (e.g. gentle stretching of the testicles) to very intense sessions. The key is always  mutual consent , communication and a clear safeword framework. 
 
 
 Popular CBT toys to get you started 
 If you want to try CBT, always start with controllable tools: 
 
  CBT-Discover toys &amp;amp; accessories  
  Ballstretcher made of stainless steel &amp;amp; silicone  
  Cockring &amp;amp; cockstraps  
 
 Note: Always increase intensity and pressure slowly - risk of injury if used incorrectly. 
 
 
 What exactly is CBT? 
  Cock and ball torture  includes all actions in which the penis or testicles are deliberately stimulated, pressed, beaten, stretched or held in place. The central effect is physical pain - in BDSM, however, as  controlled play , not as injury. 
 Many submissives (subs) experience intense pleasure, arousal or psychological devotion. For dominant partners (doms/mistresses), the stimulation often comes from control and power. 
 
 light pressure on the penis or scrotum 
 Spanking (light blows) 
 Temperature games (hot/cold) 
 Testicle stretching (e.g. ball stretcher) 
 Gagging / fixation 
 Constriction or squeezing 
 
 Extreme forms such as  Ballbusting (kicks / punches)  are  only  possible with experience and caution. They are not part of the entry level and can cause serious damage. 
 CBT for beginners - tying off testicles &amp;amp; ball stretching 
 The safest way to get started is to  gently tie or stretch the testicles . This creates pressure, tightens the skin and makes the nerves more sensitive. 
 This works with e.g: 
 
 soft silicone rings 
 Fetish bands 
 Ball stretchers (e.g. stainless steel, silicone) 
 CBT-Straps 
 
 The effect: The testicles hang lower, the sensation becomes more intense and pleasure increases - often without pain. 
 CBT Pain levels 
 At CBT you slowly increase the intensity. For example: 
 
 light pressure or stretching (ball stretcher, silicone rings) 
 Spanking with hand or paddle 
 Impact tools (crop, leather whip) 
 Temperature (ice, warm wax at a safe distance) 
 
  Never go in hard straight away.  The body needs time to adapt - otherwise there is a risk of injury to blood vessels, veins or vas deferens. 
 Health &amp;amp; risks associated with CBT 
 The penis and testicles are sensitive organs. Incorrect technique can lead to serious damage, including 
 
 Bruising 
 Vascular injuries 
 Tissue bruising 
 Inflammation 
 Testicular torsion 
 
  Therefore:  communication, safeword, breaks and aftercare. 
 
  Caution, experience and empathy are mandatory at CBT Sex.  
 
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                            <updated>2024-01-20T12:30:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">The psychology of BDSM: A deeper insight</title>
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                                            Delve into the fascinating world of BDSM and discover the hidden psychological aspects that make these practices so appealing. From power games and control to trust and intimacy, learn how BDSM can contribute to self-discovery and self-affirmation. Learn why BDSM is an enrichi...
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                 BDSM, an acronym for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism, is a wide range of sexual practices or fetishes that are often misunderstood and misrepresented. 
 To truly understand BDSM, it is important to take a deeper look at the psychological aspects that drive these practices and make them so satisfying for many people. 
 Power and control 
 A central aspect of BDSM is the play of power and control. This can take the form of dominance and submission, where one person (the dominant) exerts control over another (the submissive). 
 This power play can provide profound psychological satisfaction, both for the dominant and the submissive. For the dominant, there can be a sense of power and authority, while the submissive often finds a sense of freedom and security in surrendering to another person. 
 Pain and pleasure 
 Sadism and masochism, the pleasure of inflicting or receiving pain, are other important aspects of BDSM. This can be difficult for outsiders to understand, but for many people pain is closely associated with pleasure. 
 This is because pain and pleasure are both intense physical sensations that can evoke strong emotional responses. In addition, experiencing pain in a safe, controlled environment can also be a form of catharsis, allowing people to relieve stress and release emotional tension. 
 Trust and intimacy 
 BDSM requires a high level of trust and communication between partners. This can lead to a deep emotional connection and intimacy. The need to negotiate boundaries and ensure that all activities are consensual promotes open and honest communication. 
 In addition, sharing BDSM experiences can make partners feel vulnerable and open with each other, which can strengthen the emotional bond between them. 
 Exploration and self-discovery 
  BDSM also provides a platform for individual exploration and self-discovery. It allows people to explore their sexual likes and dislikes, test their boundaries, and discover new aspects of their personality. This can lead to better self-understanding and increased self-acceptance. 
 Empowerment and self-affirmation 
 For many people, BDSM can also be a source of empowerment and self-affirmation. It allows people to take control of their sexuality, act out their fantasies, and express themselves in ways that are often not possible in more traditional sexual contexts. This  can lead to increased self-esteem and a sense of liberation. 
 Conclusion 
 The psychology of BDSM is complex and multifaceted. It is about more than sex; it is about power, control, trust, intimacy, exploration, and self-affirmation. It is important to emphasize that all BDSM activities should be based on consent, communication, and safety. Each person is unique in their preferences and boundaries, and these should always be respected.  It is also important to note that there is no &quot;right&quot; or &quot;wrong&quot; way to practice BDSM. What works for one person may not work for another. The key is to be open and honest with yourself and your partner, to know and respect your boundaries, and to ensure that all activities are consensual and safe.  Ultimately, BDSM can be an enriching and fulfilling experience that allows people to explore their sexuality in a deeper and more meaningful way. It is a world that is often misunderstood, but for those who take the time to understand and explore it, it can be a source of pleasure, satisfaction, and self-discovery. 
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                            <updated>2023-05-19T09:45:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">The Kinky Guide The guide to living out your wildest fantasies</title>
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                                            Do you want to live out your wildest fantasies and get to know yourself better? Then the Kinky Guide is just the thing for you! Discover a world of sexual preferences and learn how to live out your kinks in a safe and healthy way. Find suitable accessories and other resources ...
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                 Being kinky doesn&#039;t mean being &quot;weird&quot; - it means taking your desire seriously and curiously exploring what really excites you. Kinks can be tender, wild, playful or deeply emotional. This kinky guide will help you discover your own preferences, talk about them and live them out safely, consensually and sensually - alone or with a partner. 
 What are kinks? 
 Kinks are sexual preferences, fantasies or practices that deviate from - or extend - the social norm. They range from &quot;soft&quot; such as role-playing games, certain clothing or foot fetish to intense BDSM games, bondage, pain stimulation or power and control games. 
 A kink can refer to 
 
 certain  body parts  (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. feet, hands, bottom), 
 certain  materials or clothing  (leather, latex, stockings), 
 certain  roles  (dom/sub, teacher/student), 
 or certain  practices  (spanking, bondage, voyeurism, exhibitionism). 
 
 Important: Kinks are an individual preference, not an obligation. They are healthy if they are practiced consensually, safely and with respect. 
 Kinky - what does that mean? 
 &quot;Kinky&quot; describes sexuality that is playful, unconventional and often a bit taboo-breaking. It doesn&#039;t mean that there is &quot;something wrong&quot; with you, but that you are honest about your desires. Being kinky can mean that you: 
 
 want more than standard sex, 
 play with roles and power, 
 consciously working with stimulation, control and boundaries, 
 or simply have fun with toys, restraints &amp;amp; co. 
 
 Everything that is kinky for you may feel normal for someone else - and vice versa. There is no &quot;official norm&quot;, only what is right for you. 
  Inspiration &amp;amp; accessories for kinky play:   BDSM &amp;amp; Bondage   BDSM toys   Sex tips &amp;amp; guide  
 How do I find out what my kinks are? 
 Discovering your kinks is a process - curious, sometimes surprising, often very liberating. The following steps can help you: 
 1. Reflect on your fantasies  What do you think about when you masturbate? Which scenes, roles, gestures or images keep coming back to you? Write down keywords - without censoring yourself. 
 2. Inform yourself  Read guides about BDSM, fetishes and special kinks. The more you know, the easier it will be to recognize what appeals to you. You don&#039;t have to like anything - but you can be curious. 
 3. Use media consciously  Whether erotic stories, pictures or porn - observe which genres, roles and dynamics elicit tingling reactions from you. Take this as a hint, not as a compulsory program. 
 4. Experiment carefully  Try out small things: an eye mask, light bondage elements, gentle spanking, role play. Start low risk, low intensity - and only increase when you feel comfortable. 
 5. Listen to your gut feeling  If something feels exciting AND right, you&#039;re on the right track. If you feel restless or uncomfortable, it&#039;s okay to stop or leave it at the head cinema. 
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 How do I talk to my partner about my kinks? 
 Talking about kinks can make you nervous - and at the same time be incredibly bonding. It&#039;s easier this way: 
 
 Choose a quiet moment, not right in the middle of an argument or in the middle of the act. 
 Speak in first-person messages: &quot;I&#039;m excited by the thought that...&quot; instead of &quot;You should...&quot;. 
 Emphasize confidence: that you feel safe enough to show this side. 
 Ask about his/her fantasies - it&#039;s an exchange, not a lecture. 
 
 You can also read an article together, share a fantasy story, or say, &quot;I read about [kink] - how does the idea feel to you?&quot; This turns the conversation into a shared exploration instead of a &quot;confession.&quot; 
 How can I live out my kinks? 
 Living out your kinks doesn&#039;t mean blindly plunging into extremes - it means taking conscious, safe steps: 
 1. Find out more  Knowledge and technique are particularly important when it comes to BDSM, bondage, breath play or impact play. Guides, workshops and reputable articles can help you understand the risks and avoid accidents. 
 2. Set limits &amp;amp; safewords  Discuss hard limits (absolutely taboo) and soft limits (possible under certain circumstances). Set a safeword that stops the scene immediately if something becomes too much. 
 3. Use safe practices  Use e.g.&amp;nbsp;suitable restraints instead of cable ties, safe positions, toy cleaners and condoms if multiple partners are involved. 
 4. Respect &amp;amp; consensus  No kink is a free ride. If someone says &quot;no&quot; or uses the safeword, it&#039;s over - without discussion. Consensus is the basis, not the option. 
 5. Rules &amp;amp; agreements  Rules can be helpful for recurring games: Who leads? What is allowed? What never happens? The clearer the rules, the safer - and the more relaxed the pleasure can unfold. 
  Tip for beginners:  Choose only 1-2 kinks that you want to try out and keep the intensity low. Gain experience first, then increase.   Tip for advanced users:  Combine several elements (e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. bondage + role play + orgasm control) and use high-quality toys.   Tip for experienced users:  Develop longer-term dynamics (e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. 24/7 elements, training or discipline concepts) - always with regular check-ins and follow-up discussions. 
 Safety and kink 
 &quot;Safe, sane, consensual&quot; or &quot;RACK&quot; (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) are not just buzzwords, but protective shields for everyone involved. 
 
  Inform yourself:  Knowing the risks means being able to control them better. 
  Safewords &amp;amp; boundaries:  They make it possible to plan intensity and stop scenes in good time. 
  Avoid drugs &amp;amp; alcohol:  impaired judgment makes scenes unsafe. 
  Emergency plan:  First aid skills, scissors for bondage, cell phone handy - just in case. 
  Aftercare:  Cuddle, talk, calm down - intense scenes often need loving aftercare. 
 
   
 Tips for all levels - kinks step by step 
  Level 1 - beginners: 
 
 Incorporate small elements: Blindfold, certain outfit, light teasing or instructions. 
 Only short scenes, talk afterwards: &quot;What was nice, what was funny?&quot; 
 Write a list: &quot;I would like to test / unsure / taboo&quot;. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 More complex scenes with roles, props and a fixed sequence. 
 More intensity with spanking, bondage or domination - with safeword. 
 Regular kink evenings in which you consciously take on your roles. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Create longer dynamics (e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. training, service, controls). 
 Use consensus contracts or detailed scene planning. 
 Keep an eye on emotional effects - take or adjust breaks if necessary. 
 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
 Many kinks thrive on roles: strict dominance, submissive devotion, power imbalances, fantasy worlds. Role play helps to structure this. 
  Level 1 - Beginner: 
 
 Simple scenario (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. &quot;strict boss&quot;, &quot;cheeky schoolgirl&quot;), but no costume requirement. 
 Play briefly, &quot;stop&quot; possible at any time - even without a safeword. 
 After the scene, clearly leave the role, e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. by hugging. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Incorporate costumes, accessories and fixed rules (form of address, posture). 
 Role play with light consequences (punishments/rewards). 
 Use rituals to go in and out (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. certain phrase, music, candle). 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Longer scenarios or series of role-playing games with an ongoing story. 
 Combination with bondage, spanking, orgasm control or other kinks. 
 Deliberate psychological depth - but with clear aftercare and return to everyday life. 
 
 
 Kinks and relationships 
 Kinks can enrich relationships enormously - or put a strain on them if they are not talked about. Openness is therefore worth its weight in gold. 
 
  Shared kinks:  You can experiment more intensely, deepen your connection and grow together. 
  Different kinks:  Compromises are possible - perhaps one person lives out some kinks only in their head or alone, while others are tried out together. 
  Establish rules:  What belongs in the relationship, what remains fantasy, what can be experienced with others? Clarity prevents injuries. 
 
 Recommendations for suitable accessories and products 
 The right accessories can make your kinky journey even more exciting: 
 
  Bondage &amp;amp; restraints:  ropes, cuffs &amp;amp; co. - for safe bondage games.  Handcuffs &amp;amp; bondage  
  Spanking tools:  Paddles, brushes, soft and harder spanking instruments.  Spanking accessories  
  BDSM sets &amp;amp; masks:  Perfect for beginners who want everything they need in one package.  Masks &amp;amp; role play  
 
 Always pay attention to quality, good workmanship and easy-care materials - your body and your pleasure deserve it. 
 Conclusion 
 Kinks are not a mistake, but an invitation: to more honesty with yourself, to deeper encounters, to intense pleasure. If you explore your fantasies with curiosity, communicate clearly, respect boundaries and take safety seriously, your kinky side will become a powerful, loving part of your sexuality - instead of a secret that weighs you down. You can be wild. You can be cautious. But above all: you can be yourself. 
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            <title type="text">BDSM and psychology: How BDSM affects the brain</title>
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                                            Learn how BDSM affects the brain in this guide. We highlight the psychological aspects of BDSM, from the role of endorphins to the processing of pain and pleasure. Also discover tips on how to practice BDSM safely and healthily, and more resources to deepen your understanding.
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                 BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism) is a practice based on voluntariness and consensuality. However, it is also a practice that can affect the brain in complex ways. 
 From the influence of neurotransmitters to the psychological aspects that contribute to BDSM being such an attractive practice, there is much to discover. In this guide, we&#039;ll take a closer look at the topic of BDSM and psychology to give you a better understanding. 
 Why should you know about BDSM and psychology? 
 If you are thinking of trying BDSM or are already part of this community, it is important to be aware of how BDSM can affect the brain. 
 Understanding the effects of BDSM on the psyche and physical health can help you enjoy the practice in a safe and responsible way. In addition, knowing about the psychological aspects of BDSM can also help improve your relationships with partners and increase your sexual fulfillment. 
 In this guide, we will take a closer look at how BDSM affects the brain and what psychological aspects are involved. We will also provide tips and recommendations to ensure a safe and healthy practice. 
 How BDSM affects the brain 
 BDSM can have a powerful effect on the brain because it is a combination of physical stimulation and psychological dynamics. BDSM can release various neurotransmitters, including endorphins, adrenaline, and dopamine, which can activate the brain&#039;s reward system and trigger feelings of pleasure and satisfaction. 
 In addition, the brain&#039;s processing of pain and pleasure may be different in BDSM practices than in non-sexual activities. The psychological aspects of BDSM may also play an important role, providing a way to express or satisfy needs for power and control, as well as a way to connect with partners* at a deeper emotional level. 
 Endorphins and other neurotransmitters 
 Endorphins and other neurotransmitters play an important role in the effects of BDSM on the brain and psyche. Endorphins are the body&#039;s own opiates that are released in response to pain and stress and can induce feelings of euphoria and relaxation. 
 Other neurotransmitters such as serotonin, dopamine, and adrenaline also affect behavior and mood during BDSM play. We will show you how these neurotransmitters work and how they can be triggered by BDSM. 
  Serotonin  is a neurotransmitter responsible for regulating mood and emotions. A higher concentration of serotonin in the brain can lead to feelings of calm and contentment, while a lack of serotonin can lead to depression and anxiety. In BDSM, increased stimulation from pain or other stimuli can increase the release of serotonin in the brain and cause a feeling of relaxation and satisfaction. 
  Dopamine  is a neurotransmitter associated with the brain&#039;s reward system. It is released when we do something that makes us feel good, like eating or having sex. In BDSM, the arousal and sensation of pain or dominance can trigger a similar feeling of reward and pleasure, which is enhanced by the release of dopamine in the brain. 
  Adrenaline  is a hormone and neurotransmitter associated with the body&#039;s &quot;fight-or-flight&quot; response to stress and danger. In BDSM, the feeling of fear and arousal created by play can trigger the release of adrenaline in the body, providing a sense of strength and power. 
 These neurotransmitters and hormones can be triggered in different ways during BDSM play and can contribute to players feeling a sense of well-being and satisfaction. However, it is important to note that everyone responds differently to this stimulation and that BDSM play should never cause physical or emotional harm. 
 Pain and pleasure 
 Pain and pleasure are two basic sensations that play an important role in BDSM play. Both sensations are processed through the body in different ways and can be enjoyed in different ways by BDSM players. We will show you how pain and pleasure can be felt during BDSM play and how they are processed through the brain. 
 The influence of BDSM on the psyche 
 BDSM can have a huge impact on the psyche, as it can trigger a wide range of emotions and feelings. Some people feel liberated and relaxed by BDSM, while for others it is a way to exercise or exert power and control. BDSM can also be a way to work through trauma or anxiety. 
 However, it is important to emphasize that BDSM is not therapy and should not be used as a substitute for professional treatment for people with mental illness or trauma. If you have mental health issues, you should always seek professional help and make sure you are in a stable mental state before practicing BDSM. 
 However, there are also some positive effects of BDSM on the psyche. For example, the release of endorphins through BDSM play can lead to an elevated mood and sense of well-being. In addition, BDSM can be a way to build a closer relationship and intimacy between partners. 
 However, it is important to be mindful of your partner&#039;s needs and boundaries during play and to be aware that BDSM can trigger certain emotions and trauma. Open and honest communication with your partner is crucial in this regard to ensure that both of you remain safe and healthy during play. 
 How to practice BDSM in a safe and healthy way 
 Communication, consensuality, safety rules, and aftercare are all important aspects of practicing safe and healthy BDSM. We will explain how to put these aspects into practice and give you tips on how to have a safe and fulfilling BDSM experience. 
  Communication  Communication is an important part of BDSM and should take place before and during play. Before you meet with a partner, you should talk about your preferences, boundaries, and expectations and match them with your partner. 
 If you experience discomfort, pain, or other problems during play, you should tell your partner immediately. Open and honest communication is key to a safe and fulfilling BDSM experience. 
  Consensuality  Consensuality means that all parties involved clearly and voluntarily agree to participate in BDSM play. It is important to ensure that all parties give consent before play begins and remain open to changes in dynamics or boundaries during play. 
 Consent can also be signaled by safe words or signs to end the game immediately if either party feels uncomfortable or unsafe. 
  Safety Rules  Safety rules are an important part of BDSM and can prevent injuries and accidents. These include using safe words and signs, avoiding dangerous practices, and using safe materials and tools. 
 It is also important to familiarize yourself with your partner&#039;s physical limits and health risks to avoid injury. 
  Aftercare  
 Additional Resources on BDSM and Psychology Finally, we will give you links to additional resources that can help you deepen your knowledge and understanding of BDSM and psychology. These include books, websites, communities, and events related to BDSM. 
 Recommending appropriate accessories or products: 
 Appropriate BDSM toys and materials can make the experience safer and more fulfilling. We will give you tips on how to choose and use quality and safe BDSM toys. 
 When buying BDSM toys and materials, it is important to pay attention to quality and safety. Here are some recommendations for suitable accessories and products: 
  Handcuffs : Handcuffs are a popular BDSM toy, but it is important to make sure they do not cause nerve damage or injury. Therefore, choose handcuffs that are padded and allow for quick release. 
  Whips and floggers : when choosing whips and floggers, you should make sure that they are made of high-quality materials and that their strands are flexible and safe. It is also advisable to choose a whip or flogger with an appropriate length to avoid injuries. 
  Ropes : ropes are an important tool in the BDSM scene, but it is important to make sure that they are made of high-quality materials and that they do not cause nerve or blood circulation problems. Cotton or hemp ropes are popular and safe options, but make sure they are not tied too tightly. 
 Gags :  Gags can intensify BDSM play, but it&#039;s important to make sure they&#039;re breathable and easy to remove. Choose gags that are made of hygienic materials, such as silicone or rubber, and that won&#039;t cause injury to the mouth. 
  Bondage furniture:  Bondage furniture such as chairs, benches or couches can facilitate and intensify play. Make sure they are sturdy and safe and that they cannot cause injuries or accidents. 
  Hygiene products:  Hygiene is an important aspect of BDSM play. Use condoms to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, and make sure that the toys and materials are cleaned and disinfected regularly. There are special cleaning products for BDSM toys on the market. 
 It is also important to note that choosing BDSM toys and materials is not only about quality and safety, but also about personal preferences and limits. Everyone has different preferences and comfort levels, and it is important to respect and communicate them. 
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                            <updated>2023-03-05T12:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Sensory Deprivation - The Ultimate Kick for Your BDSM and Kink Experience</title>
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                                            Sensory deprivation is one of the most exciting practices in the field of BDSM and kink. It involves deliberately restricting or even completely eliminating a person&#039;s senses, thereby enabling an even more intense experience.
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                 Sensory deprivation is one of the most exciting practices in the field of BDSM and kink. It&#039;s about purposefully restricting or even completely eliminating a person&#039;s senses to allow for an even more intense experience. But what exactly is behind this practice and how can you safely and responsibly incorporate it into your own play? In this guide, we&#039;ll give you an overview of the world of Sensory Deprivation and tell you what to look out for. 
 What is Sensory Deprivation? 
 Sensory Deprivation basically means nothing more than restricting or even completely eliminating a person&#039;s senses. This can affect visual perception, as well as auditory perception, tactile perception, or even taste and smell perception. 
 Basically, there are two types of Sensory Deprivation: the passive and the active form. In passive sensory deprivation, the person is placed in an environment where the senses are restricted by themselves, for example, by darkness or noise. In active sensory deprivation, on the other hand, the senses are deliberately influenced, for example, by blindfolds or earplugs. 
 Why sensory deprivation plays a role in BDSM and kink 
 Sensory deprivation can help make the BDSM experience even more intense and fulfilling. By limiting the senses, the remaining senses become all the more sensitive and sensate. For example, a light touch can be incredibly arousing if you were blindfolded beforehand. 
 The power and submission aspects also play a large role in Sensory Deprivation. Whoever has control over a person&#039;s senses also has control over their perceptions, and therefore their emotions and reactions. 
 How to incorporate Sensory Deprivation into your game safely and responsibly 
 If you want to incorporate Sensory Deprivation into your BDSM and kink play, there are a few things you should be aware of. Here are a few tips: 
 
 
 Set clear boundaries: Before you begin Sensory Deprivation, be clear about your boundaries and limits. Determine which senses should be affected and how long the deprivation should last. 
 
 
 Communicate: During play, you should communicate regularly to make sure everything is okay. A simple &quot;Are you okay?&quot; is often sufficient in this regard. 
 
 
 Be careful with time: Sensory deprivation can make you perceive time in a distorted way, so you should make sure that the deprivation does not last too long. A good rule is that deprivation should not last longer than half an hour. 
 
 
 Be careful with the intensity: You should also not exceed the intensity of the deprivation. For example, if you use earplugs, you should make sure that the volume of the ambient noise is not too high. 
 
 
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 Examples of Sensory Deprivation: 
 
 
 Blindfolds: One of the most common forms of Sensory Deprivation is blindfolding. This involves covering the person&#039;s eyes with a cloth or blindfold to limit visual perception. 
 
 
 Earplugs: Using earplugs can also be a form of Sensory Deprivation. This limits auditory perception and allows the person to focus on the remaining senses. 
 
 
 Being Tied Up: Being tied up can also be considered a form of Sensory Deprivation, as it restricts movement and the person has to focus on the remaining senses. 
 
 
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                            <updated>2023-01-25T06:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Objectification in BDSM: What it is and how to practice it safely</title>
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                                            Objectification means that a person is made into an object. In BDSM, this is usually practiced in an erotic or sexual context. The dominant partner considers and treats the submissive partner as an object to be used for his pleasure or satisfaction.
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                 In BDSM there are many different practices and terms to understand. One of these terms is &quot;objectification&quot;. What exactly is objectification in BDSM and how can you practice it safely and respectfully? 
 What is objectification in BDSM? 
 Objectification means that a person is made into an object. In BDSM, this is usually practiced in an erotic or sexual context. The dominant partner views and treats the submissive partner as an object to be used for their pleasure or gratification. 
 This can manifest itself in many different ways, such as the use of instructions, names, or pronouns that describe the submissive partner as an object (e.g., &quot;my toy&quot; or &quot;my property&quot;) or the use of physical practices such as bondage or exhibitionist behavior. 
 How can you practice objectification safely and respectfully? 
 Although objectification can be a popular practice in BDSM, it is important that it is done safely and respectfully. Here are some tips that can help: 
 
 
 Communication: as with any practice in BDSM, it is important that all parties involved are open and honest about their desires and boundaries. Make sure the submissive partner is okay with objectification and that their boundaries are respected. 
 
 
 Safewords: use safewords to ensure that the submissive partner can stop the activity at any time if she feels uncomfortable or unsafe. 
 
 
 Consideration: always remember that the submissive partner is a real person, not an object. Avoid hurting or humiliating him or her and treat them with respect and dignity. 
 
 
 Consent: Remember that consensus is the foundation of any BDSM activity and that objectification should only be practiced safely and respectfully when all parties agree. 
 
 
 Role clarification: it is important that roles in BDSM are clearly defined and that all participants know what is expected and what the boundaries are. 
 
 
 Self-reflection: before engaging in the practice of objectification, it is important to question oneself and ensure that one understands the motives and implications and that one is willing to take responsibility. 
 
 
 
 Overall, objectification is a popular and fulfilling practice in BDSM as long as it is done safely and respectfully. By following the tips above and always remembering that your submissive partner is a real person, you can ensure that the experience is positive and fulfilling for everyone involved. 
 
 
 
 How to practice objectification in BDSM safely and respectfully. 
 
 
 One way to safely practice objectification in BDSM is through the use of bondage. By tying up the submissive partner, the dominant partner can take control and use him or her as an object. However, it is important that the bondage is secure and comfortable and that the submissive partner has the option to break free or use the safeword at any time. 
 
 
 Another way to safely practice objectification in BDSM is through the use of names or pronouns that describe the submissive partner as an object. For example, the dominant partner may refer to the submissive partner as &quot;my toy&quot; or &quot;my property.&quot; However, this can only be safely exercised if the submissive partner agrees and that he or she will not be offended or humiliated. 
 
 
 Another way to safely exercise objectification in BDSM is through the use of exhibitionistic behavior. For example, the dominant partner may make the submissive partner undress or present himself or herself in public while he or she is considered an object. However, it is important that the submissive partner agrees to this and that the activity takes place in a safe and secure environment. 
 
 
 A final way to safely practice objectification is through the use of role-playing. Role-playing allows the dominant partner to use the submissive partner as an object while both parties know that it is a game and that there are no negative consequences in reality. 
 
 
 It is important to emphasize that objectification is a subjective practice and that everyone has different desires and boundaries. It is important that everyone involved agrees and that the activity is done safely and respectfully. 
 
 
 
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                            <updated>2023-01-24T19:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">What is subspace and how do I reach it?</title>
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                                            You may have heard of subspace, but what exactly is it? Subspace is a state that a sub (short for submissive) is in during a BDSM session. It is a state of deep relaxation and trance where pain and humiliation are pleasurable and where the lines between pain and pleasure are b...
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                 I. What is Subspace? 
 You may have heard of subspace, but what exactly is it? Subspace is a state that a sub (short for submissive) is in during a BDSM session. It is a state of deep relaxation and trance where pain and humiliation are pleasurable and where the lines between pain and pleasure are blurred. 
 II. How to reach Subspace? 
 Each person achieves Subspace in his or her own way. For some it is the feeling of pain, for others it is humiliation, and still others need a combination of both. It is important that you feel safe and have trust in your partner, as Subspace is a very intimate and personal state. Communication is key to making sure both partners know what they want and need to enter Subspace. 
 III What happens in Subspace? 
 When you reach Subspace, you can feel very relaxed and happy. The pain and humiliation are experienced as pleasurable and the lines between pain and pleasure become blurred. Some also report a feeling of flying or weightlessness. After the session, one may feel a little light-headed or confused, but this is normal. 
 IV. What happens after the Subspace? 
 After Subspace, it is important that you rest and take care of yourself. You may feel a little dazed or confused, but this is normal. It is also important to talk to your partner about your experience and take care of your mental and emotional processing. 
 It is important to emphasize that Subspace is an individual experience and each person experiences it in their own way. It is also important to feel safe and comfortable to enter Subspace and it is important to take enough time after the session to process the experience and take care of your mental and emotional processing. 
 
 
 
 It is important to note that Subspace is not for everyone and that it is important to know your limits and needs and be able to communicate them. Also, you should always feel safe and listen to your gut when it comes to BDSM. It is also important to be aware of the risks and possible dangers and to do enough research before getting involved in BDSM. 
 Conclusion 
 In summary, subspace is a state of deep relaxation and trance that can be achieved in BDSM. It is an individual experience and it is important to feel safe and comfortable to enter Subspace. 
 It is important to take enough time to process the experience and take care of the mental and emotional processing and always know and communicate your limits and needs. 
 
 
 
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                            <updated>2023-01-24T12:15:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Chemsex and Intox Play: What You Need to Know</title>
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                                            Intox Play is a term used to describe the use of drugs such as alcohol or drugs during BDSM sessions. This can lead to lowering inhibitions and feeling braver to try certain practices.
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                 What is chemsex? 
 Chemsex is a term used to describe the use of drugs such as crystal meth, GHB/GBL, or ketamine during sex or other sexual activity. These drugs can cause sexual arousal to increase and inhibitions to decrease. They can also cause the duration of intercourse to be prolonged and make you feel less tired. 
 What is Intox Play? 
 Intox Play is a term used to describe the use of drugs such as alcohol or drugs during BDSM sessions. This can lead to lowering inhibitions and feeling braver to try certain practices. However, it can also lead to a lack of proper awareness of one&#039;s limits, putting oneself and others at risk. 
 Risks of Chemsex and Intox Play 
 Although chemsex and Intox Play can be pleasurable for some people, there are also many risks that come along with it. These include: 
 
 An increased risk for sexually transmitted diseases 
 An increased risk of injury during BDSM sessions 
 An increased risk for drug addiction and health problems 
 An increased risk of unwanted pregnancy 
 An increased risk for mental health problems such as anxiety and depression 
 
 How to safely use chemsex and Intox Play 
 If you decide to try chemsex or Intox Play, there are some steps you can take to stay safe: 
 
 Communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your desires and limits 
 Always use condoms to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted diseases 
 Know the possible risks and side effects of the drugs you plan to use, and follow the recommended dosages 
 Make sure you always have someone around you who you trust and who will look out for you 
 Avoid mixing drugs and alcohol, as this increases the risks 
 Listen to your body and your gut. If something doesn&#039;t feel right, stop and seek help if needed 
 Make sure you have enough time after the session to rest and take care of your mental and emotional processing.
 
 
 
 It is important to stress that chemsex and Intox Play are not for everyone and that it is important to know your limits and needs and be able to communicate them. It is also important to always feel safe and listen to your gut when it comes to the topic. 
 It is also important to be aware of the risks and possible dangers and to do enough research before engaging in chemsex or Intox Play. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-24T12:15:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> Edgeplay - dangerous borderline experiences</title>
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                                            Edgeplay is probably one of the most exciting types of play in BDSM. This is partly because it is very dangerous for body and soul to &quot;play&quot; in such a way. Edge means edge, boundary or also edge. So if you dare to play edgeplay, you are playing dangerous, borderline games that...
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                 Edgeplay is probably one of the most exciting types of play in BDSM. This is partly because it is very dangerous for body and soul to &quot;play&quot; in such a way. Edge means edge, boundary or also edge. So when you venture into edgeplay, you are playing dangerous, borderline games that can involve real injuries. 
 Who does edgeplay 
 Edgeplay is done by many different people. People with very different preferences and pasts. Some are just looking for that special kick. Another is simply into pain, still others love to be able to exercise power. Others look forward to playing with their lives. Everyone has to find out for themselves why this is so. 
 Edgeplay game forms 
 There are many different forms of edgeplay. Ultimately, they all involve power, fear, pain and danger. It can even lead to death, you should always be aware of this! 
 Breathplay 
 Breathplay is the game with the breath air. Here the air is robbed from the sub. Some simply hold their mouth and nose shut for a certain time, others squeeze their throat shut by choking their partner. Strangulation is also possible. Here, death by suffocation could be imminent. So always watch out for signs and release your playmate in time! 
 Bloodplay 
 Yes, blood is desired here! Everything that makes you bleed makes your playmates really hot. Knifeplay, cutting, needleplay, all this can include bloodplay. If skin areas are cut, pricked or even severed, this carries a great risk of infection. Especially with Knifeplay, the knife can slip or cut too deep. Serious injuries are imminent! 
 Waxplay 
 Waxplay is probably one of the most harmless variants of edgeplay. There is a risk of burns from wax that is too hot. As a rule, however, the injuries remain superficial. Meanwhile, there are also special massage candles, here the wax is then a hot oil, which is rather pleasant, instead of painful. A good proof that edgeplay does not always have to escalate. 
 Barebacking 
 Barebacking is a very dangerous game. Here you deliberately forego contraception and take the risk of contracting diseases. Always be aware that not all diseases are curable! 
 Rapeplay 
 Rapeplay means to act out a rape. Very appealing to many women and men, because it makes unspoken dreams come true. One can be taken hard and violently. Many men can show their power and prove their masculinity through this. But there are also physical and especially psychological dangers. 
 Physical dangers with Edgeplay 
 Physical injuries are imminent in almost every type of edgeplay. It is always related to pain. Depending on which form you choose, you should take appropriate precautions beforehand. You must always have everything you need for wound care and, if necessary, pre-dial emergency numbers. 
 Cuts or stabs that are too deep, burns, chemical burns, or even lack of oxygen due to choking for too long can occur. In the worst case, you can injure your play partner so badly that he or she dies. The risks should always be kept as low as possible. With edgeplay, however, this is a real challenge. 
 Mental dangers in edgeplay 
 It is not only physical injuries that need to be looked at. Playing with fear, for example, can cause severe psychological disorders. Edgeplay experiences of any kind always do something to our souls. 
 Therefore, the person must be well caught and cared for afterwards. Aftercare in any respect must never be neglected. The aftercare can also be drawn out over many weeks. Just until the person is well again. 
 Get professional help 
   If someone suffers psychological damage after edgeplay that does not want to heal, professional help must be sought. Seeing a psychiatrist is not out of the question. In the case of physical injuries, it is sometimes necessary to go to the doctor. Close your eyes and get through it is the motto here. 
 If you play dangerously, you must be able to stand by it. Never, but also really never!!! Should hesitate to dial the emergency number (112) if something goes wrong and the life of a person is in danger. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-22T09:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Degradee - humiliation for pleasure</title>
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                                            The degradee is the submissive part in all respects. This is a person who feels pleasure when he is humiliated or degraded. This is about humiliation for pleasure. Because exposing, insulting or similar, usually leads to sexual pleasure gain, which can be increased to the almo...
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                 The degradee is the submissive part in all respects. This is a person who feels pleasure when he is humiliated or degraded. This is about humiliation for pleasure. 
 Because exposing, insulting or similar, usually leads to sexual pleasure gain, which can be increased to the almost immeasurable. 
 Degradee Meaning 
 Degradee is a word from English and means subjugated or humiliated. It is about degrading you as a degradee, to reduce you, to dishonor you. You will never get to power in the games in this position. 
 But you don&#039;t want this either, because you are only too happy to endure all this and even enjoy it. In BDSM, degradee is a term that occurs in power games. The degradee can come along in different roles. For example as a slave, sub or brat. 
 Who is suitable for degradee 
 If you like to submit to others and at best feel sexual pleasure when you are punished, humiliated or embarrassed, then you are very well suited to be a Degradee. This is a kink that is not that rare. 
 Even in harmless role-playing games, there is usually a dominant and a submissive part. So the sex can go even with little things already in the direction of degradee and degrader. Maybe you only want to be the degrader during sex. 
 This is also perfectly fine. There is nothing against it, that you have professionally maybe even a leading position. It doesn&#039;t have to be your whole life, but may well be just a kink. 
 Possible games 
 There are many possible love games in which you can act out as a Degradee. Role-playing games of various kinds are well suited. A visit to a dominatrix can come into question, as well as bondage games or even rape play. There are gentle methods but also really hard BDSM sex games. 
 In principle, the imagination may once again be given free rein.  If you only want to be physically humiliated, shackles and gags are ideal, as well as whips and co. If you want to be humiliated in public, outdoor role-playing games in which you are put on a leash, among other things, are recommended. 
 But also laughing and insulting can lead to great joy in a degradee. Here, too, can be well acted psychologically and physically. 
 Take care of each other 
 You as the submissive part must always take good care of yourself. If something does not feel good, it must be stopped. So it is important that you talk to your degrader beforehand. You have to discuss in which direction the kink is allowed to go and what is too much. 
 Make up a safe word, additionally agree on a word, if it should be only a little bit milder. It does not always have to be completely stopped.    Just as important as the agreements in advance, is the aftercare. Physical injuries must be taken care of. Psychologically, the degradee must be absorbed. Talking a lot and showing appreciation are usually very important for the degrader after each session. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-22T09:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> Brat tamer - the game between power and rebelliousness</title>
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                                            The Brat tamer translation is easy to explain. Brat comes from English and means something like cheeky or defiant. In English, it is also referred to as bratty. The term tamer means tamer and of course also comes from English. So a brat tamer is a tamer of rebellious people. A...
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                 The Brat tamer translation is easy to explain. Brat comes from English and means something like cheeky or defiant. In English, it is also referred to as bratty. 
 The term tamer means tamer and of course also comes from English. So a brat tamer is a tamer of rebellious people. A &quot;brat tamer&quot; so to speak. So Brat tamer in BDSM means a game between power and rebelliousness. 
 The challenge 
 It is a great challenge for many to deal with a Brat. In BDSM, there are mostly clear roles when it comes to dominance and submissiveness. The dominant part calls the shots, is harsh and punishes. The submissive part submits, is cuckold and takes all the punishment. Between Brat and Brat tamer it runs then, nevertheless, a little differently. 
   The Brat is already the submissive part, but he is rebellious, cheeky and combative. In short, the subdued part fights back before submitting completely. This can be done by statements or actions. A normal bottom does not get along with such subs. A sub does not have to fight back. 
 So a newcomer in the field should be sure that he is really suitable for brat tamer. Anything else would ruin the session. It is not uncommon for a roast tamer to end up being annoyed or even really aggressive because they find the rebelliousness annoying. It is a great challenge to tame a Brat. 
 Enjoying the role as a Brat tamer 
 If you know what you are doing and are in harmony with your Brat, such a session can be really great. You can live out his role and really enjoy it. There is no better feeling than feeling the power. 
 The power that your Brat gives you. Because only you can tame it or him. Only you are in bondage to the Brat. It is a special high feeling when several dominant parts are at work, but only you reach the goal with the submissive partner. 
 Brat tamer tips 
 Often people are looking for good Brat tamer tips. Well, they don&#039;t really exist. Every Brat is different, so you have to act differently every time. It is important that you can weigh well, when you grant your Brat liberties and when it is time for punishments. 
 There must be a certain harmony between you. You as a Brat tamer must learn in advance to be patient and build strong nerves. It is a game between power and provocation, There is a great tension between you. 
 As a Brat tamer, you are responsible for keeping the fun going. The session must remain fiery and not become boring. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-22T09:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> BDSM branding - always approach the matter with great care</title>
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                                            Find out everything about BDSM branding in our guide. Whether painful devotion or jewelry for eternity, we explain! From the history of branding as body jewelry to performing branding on the sub - including instructions and aftercare. Discover the different types of branding a...
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 Branding describes the permanent or temporary marking of skin through the application of heat. A heated branding iron is placed on the skin and creates a visible, controlled burn. Historically, branding was used to mark work animals or slaves. In the BDSM context, it is exclusively a voluntary, previously clearly agreed act between consenting adults. 
 Branding is sometimes used in BDSM as a symbol of belonging or a special bond. However, its use is associated with considerable risks and requires comprehensive preparation, clear consent and responsible work. 
 Temporary or permanent? 
 Brandings can either remain visible for just a few weeks (temporary) or form permanent scars. Permanent branding leaves a lifelong mark. This should be discussed clearly and without pressure in advance. A temporary branding, on the other hand, is more superficial and can heal scar-free or almost scar-free. 
 Both options require that everyone involved is aware of the potential risks, including infection, unpredictable scarring or excessive skin reactions. 
 Preparation and practice 
 Before applying to the human body, it is advisable to practise using heated tools. Zucchinis, eggplants or pig skin are suitable for this, as they are similar to human skin in terms of texture and behavior. Practice allows you to assess how hot the iron needs to be, how quickly it cools down and how long pressure can be applied. 
 Before the actual branding, a small test on a concealed part of the sub&#039;s body is recommended to check individual skin sensitivities and reactions. 
 How is a branding created? 
 A branding usually requires disinfectant, a branding iron and a Bunsen burner. The affected skin area and the tool must be carefully disinfected. The iron is then heated over the flame. The required temperature varies depending on the desired depth and skin condition. 
   
 After heating, the iron is applied directly with controlled pressure. The duration and intensity must be clearly agreed in advance. For temporary brandings, only a short time and low pressure is used. Longer contact is required for permanent markings, but without excessive depth to avoid serious injury. 
  Important safety rules: 
 
 Only perform between adult, informed and consenting partners. 
 Make clear agreements in advance: location, duration, destination (temporary or permanent). 
 Use clean, disinfected tools. 
 Do not use on sensitive or medically critical areas of the body. 
 Strictly control the depth of the burn. 
 
 
 Aftercare 
 Like burns, burns must be cared for in the correct medical manner. This includes wound healing products, hygiene and protection against friction and dirt. If there is redness, pus, fever or persistent pain, medical treatment is necessary to avoid infection or incorrect scarring. 
 Design options 
 Brandings can be designed as simple symbols, letters or individual characters. For fine lines or detailed motifs, working with the Violent Wand is an alternative. Here, small burnt dots are created using electricity, which look as if they have been drawn and enable greater precision. 
   
  Further topics:   BDSM basics  -  Role-playing games  
 Tips for all levels - Branding step by step 
 
 Level 1 - Beginner 
 
 Only theory and practice on materials such as pig skin. 
 Intensive discussion of risks, hygiene and healing options. 
 No branding on humans yet. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced 
 
 Small, temporary test marks on concealed areas of the body. 
 Follow strict safety rules. 
 Check tools and temperatures beforehand. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced 
 
 Planned, clear permanent or temporary brandings. 
 Accurate designs, clean lines and precise handling. 
 Extended aftercare and longer-term control. 
 
 
 Step-by-step role play - depending on the level 
 
 Level 1 - Beginner 
 Branding is only theoretically integrated into scenarios. Focus on communication, planning and risk analysis. 
 Level 2 - Advanced 
 Temporary markers can be integrated into symbolic roles (e.g. affiliation rituals). Implementation remains short and controlled. 
 Level 3 - Experienced 
 Permanent brandings are used as a conscious component of complex BDSM dynamics. Clear objectives, documentation and debriefing are necessary. 
 
 Thanks to Cruel Reell 
 
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                            <updated>2023-01-10T07:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> The mistress of the keys has your cock at her disposal</title>
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                                             As the mistress of the keys, I alone have your cock at my disposal. You are a chastity! That means I lock your penis away. I can do this with a Chastity cage or a chastity belt. The key becomes my property. What will you do to make me release your best piece?
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 As a  keyholder , I hold the key to your best piece in my hand. You are my  chaste one  - your penis is safely tucked away in a Chastity cage or chastity belt, and you give up a piece of control voluntarily. This is precisely the appeal of  chastity : power games, pleasure, frustration and deep devotion. In the  chastity  category, you will find suitable BDSM toys for this special form of orgasm control. 
 To ensure that this game remains pleasurable, fair and safe for all parties, it requires clear agreements, suitable toys and a lot of trust. In this BDSM guide, you&#039;ll find out how you can  become a chastity lover , what a keyholder can expect from you and how you can make chastity together - for example in Locktober - intense and responsible. 
  More about chastity &amp;amp; BDSM: 
 
  Guide to perfect chastity  
  Chastity belt - a detailed guide  
  Cum control &amp;amp; orgasm control explained clearly  
  Bondage guide for beginners  
 
 
 What does it mean to be a chastity belt? 
 Being a chastity belt means that you hand over control of your sexuality - especially your orgasms - to another person. This is usually a dominant partner as a  keyholder , but a dominus or another significant other is also possible. The important thing is that everything  is consensual  and based on your mutual rules. 
 Typical for chastity is a  Chastity cage  or chastity belt that prevents you from stimulating yourself or having sex without consent. Your body continues to respond with desire, erections and fantasies - but you are not allowed to give in at will. It is precisely this game between desire, renunciation and reward that is the attraction for many chastity lovers. 
 How to respectfully introduce yourself to a keyholder 
 If you want to  become a chastity lover , it all starts with an honest introduction to your potential keyholder - whether in real life, online via chat or by email. She is not an anonymous service provider, but a person with her own wishes, limits and fantasies. 
 Introduce yourself politely, explain your role expectations (submissive, chaste, perhaps also a CBT fan) and describe what you would like: chastity in everyday life, only playful in the bedroom, orgasm control, Locktober challenge and the like. Be direct but respectful - without insulting or dehumanizing language. An experienced dominatrix or femdom keyholder attaches great importance to  respect, communication and trust . 
  Tip for beginners:  Before contacting a keyholder, write down your wishes and taboos in bullet points. This will help you stay clear during the conversation and not overwhelm anyone with confusing fantasies. 
 Rules, safeword &amp;amp; boundaries - the foundation of chastity 
 Before the key is officially handed over, you should establish rules together. These include 
 
  Duration of chastity:  days, weeks or open-ended - depending on your level, experience and everyday life. 
  Permitted games:  Masturbation only with permission? Kissing, petting, penetration? What is taboo? 
  Safeword:  A clear word or signal that you can use to stop the game if something is no longer medically or psychologically possible. 
  Checks:  Regular check-ins (e.g. daily by message) to talk about body sensations, pressure points or excessive demands. 
 
 Even if you are very submissive as a chastity: Your  physical integrity  is always above any fantasy. A responsible keyholder will make sure that you stay healthy and that your chastity play takes place within the framework of  Safe, Sane, Consensual  or  RACK . 
  Tip for advanced players:  Use a shared diary (analog or digital) in which you, as the chastity partner, briefly record how you feel every day. This will help the keyholder to better assess your pleasure, frustration and limits. 
 The right chastity belt or Chastity cage 
 Whether you become a chastity lover for just a few hours or for a longer period of time - the right chastity device is crucial. A cage that is too large will cause friction and slippage, one that is too small can hurt and disrupt blood flow. 
 Use the following points as a guide: 
 
  Material:  silicone or plastic are often comfortable for beginners, metal seems firmer and is interesting for experienced chastity devils. 
  Size &amp;amp; ring diameter:  Measure the penis and base of the testicles carefully before choosing. 
  Cleaning:  Chastity means frequent, thorough cleaning of the penis, testicles and cage. 
  Suitability for everyday use:  Does the cage fit discreetly under everyday clothing? Can you use it safely at work, on the subway or for sports? 
 
 A look at the detailed  chastity belt guide  and the general  guide to chastity  is particularly helpful. You can also find inspiration in the category  Chastity cages  category if you are looking for a suitable model. 
 How long should a chastity belt stay chaste? 
 The duration of chastity is a game of intensity and mind games. At the same time, it shouldn&#039;t be physically or mentally exhausting. As a rough guide: 
 
  Beginners:  a few hours to 1-2 days at a time. 
  Advanced:  several days to 1-2 weeks, with breaks for cleaning and body checks. 
  Experienced chastity:  longer periods are possible if the device fits, you communicate closely and it feels right for both of you. 
 
 Many chastity lovers experience a particularly intense orgasm after prolonged chastity when the keyholder finally opens the cage - a feeling of explosiveness, relief and deep devotion. At the same time, it is up to the keyholder to handle this power responsibly. 
  Tip for experienced players:  Talk explicitly about long-term plans (e.g. being a chastity partner for several weeks) and arrange fixed check-ups for physical checks so that play and health remain in balance. 
 Chastity in everyday life - discretion, triggers &amp;amp; aftercare 
 As a chastity lover, you often carry your BDSM secret around with you invisibly. It can be incredibly arousing to be in the office, out shopping or with friends and know that your keyholder decides on every orgasm. 
 These points will help you to avoid being overwhelmed by the constant stimulation: 
 
  Discretion:  choose clothes in which the cage is not noticeable and devices that fit comfortably. 
  Use triggers consciously:  Small messages from the keyholder, photos or instructions can fuel desire, but shouldn&#039;t take you out of your daily routine. 
  Aftercare : After intensive phases of chastity - especially after the first orgasm afterwards - attention, cuddling, conversations and emotional aftercare are important. 
 
 If you notice that frustration or shame is becoming too strong, talk openly with your keyholder. BDSM and chastity should enrich your life, not burden it permanently. For a deeper understanding of roles, dynamics and emotions, a look at the  femdom guide &amp;amp; BDSM knowledge  can be helpful. 
 Locktober - a special challenge for chastity lovers 
  Locktober  is a popular challenge in the chastity scene: the entire month of October is spent chastely - often under the strict supervision of a female keyholder. You decide together how intense you want it to be. 
 Typical agreements can be: 
 
 The Chastity cage remains locked for the entire month. 
 Cleaning phases are short and only allowed under supervision or after clear instructions. 
 Exciting tasks, messages or light CBT games increase the excitement. 
 At the end of Locktober, the reward is a particularly celebrated orgasm or another power play - depending on your fantasies. 
 
 Important: A long-term scenario like this requires even more precise  body feedback . Pressure points, pain, skin irritation or circulatory problems are warning signals. Then your health takes priority, even if the game has to be interrupted. 
 Tips for all levels - chastity step by step 
  Becoming chaste  is a process. The more conscious you are about it, the more intense and safe your BDSM experience will be. You can find additional inspiration in the overview of  chastity guides . 
 Level 1 - Curious &amp;amp; cautious (beginners) 
 
 First conversations about chastity, fantasies and taboos. 
 Short chastity phases of a few hours to 1 day, possibly without a cage (orgasm control only). 
 Collecting knowledge together, e.g. about chastity belts and chastity guides. 
 
 Level 2 - Playful in everyday life (advanced) 
 
 Regular chastity phases with Chastity cage at weekends or several days in a row. 
 Integration into your everyday life, with clear rules for self-touching, pornography and fantasies. 
 Expansion of the repertoire: light CBT elements, bondage, blindfolds or spanking as a reward or punishment. 
 
 Level 3 - Intensive power games (experienced) 
 
 Prolonged chastity over weeks, clear medical and emotional safeguards. 
 Fixed rituals: daily messages, tasks, body checks, mental submission. 
 Combination with more advanced kinks such as femdom, clinic games or complex role play - always with safeword and aftercare. 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Role play ideas for chaste &amp;amp; keyholder: 
 
  Level 1 - The silent contract:  You agree for one evening that the keyholder alone decides on your orgasm. No cage, but clear instructions and a safeword. 
  Level 2 - Everyday life under control:  You wear the Chastity cage for a weekend. The keyholder sends you small tasks (messages, photos, positions) that increase your pleasure - without approval. 
  Level 3 - Locktober scenario:  Be a chastity for a month, combined with other BDSM elements: Bondage, eye masks, role play (e.g. &quot;strict-distant&quot; in everyday life, &quot;merciless&quot; in the bedroom) and a grand finale ritual. 
 
 No matter which level you choose: Chastity thrives on respect, trust and honest communication - then being chaste becomes an intense, sensual adventure that goes far beyond simply abstaining from orgasm. 
 
 
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            <title type="text"> Blackmailing - pay or I&#039;ll show you!</title>
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 Blackmailing is an intense power game within the BDSM world. It is important to note that it is  exclusively  an agreed, voluntary role play that is fantasy-based and does not involve any real blackmail. This guide shows you how blackmailing BDSM can be done safely, legally and responsibly. 
 What does blackmailing mean as a BDSM role-playing game? 
 In blackmailing role play, one person takes on a dominant role and puts the submissive part under fictitious pressure. Typically, it involves scenarios that generate power, control and psychological tension. However, everything remains clearly agreed and takes place within safe boundaries. 
 Important:  Real blackmail is punishable by law . BDSM blackmail therefore always involves  simulated  processes that both parties agree to voluntarily beforehand. 
 What can blackmail role play be about? 
 Various &quot;tributes&quot; or tasks can play a role in blackmail role play. These are  voluntarily  agreed and simulated: 
 
  Financial role-playing games:  Fictitious payments or agreed amounts as part of the fantasy, without real coercion. 
  Object-related role-playing games:  The submissive part &quot;fulfills wishes&quot;, for example by receiving small symbolic orders. 
  Tasks and services:  Household chores, errands or other tasks can be part of the agreed scenario. 
 
 A central element is the tension between control and surrender. However, everything remains within the framework of a planned ritual without any real threats or consequences. 
 The blackmail contract - the basis for security 
 A written contract is the most important element of a safe blackmail role-playing game. It defines 
 
 which actions are allowed, 
 which are not allowed, 
 what kind of &quot;pressure&quot; may be simulated, 
 what content is taboo, 
 what form of communication is intended, 
 how it can be stopped at any time. 
 
 As blackmail remains punishable in reality, the contract serves to clearly document that this is a  voluntary, agreed BDSM role-playing game . Nothing may go beyond what has been agreed. 
  Tip for beginners:  Clearly state in the contract that all threats, information and demands are purely fictitious and have no relation to reality. 
 Knowledge and power in role-playing 
 In role-playing, blackmailing relies on the dominant party simulating a certain degree of psychological control. This can be achieved, for example, by&amp;nbsp;B: 
 
 invented scenarios, 
 symbolic &quot;embarrassing&quot; information that has no relation to reality, 
 fictitious chat histories or formulations that are pure fantasy. 
 
  Real pressure, real threats or real sensitive data are taboo.  Fantasy must always be clearly separated from real life. Even image editing or the invention of realistic-looking situations may only take place as clearly marked fiction - never in a way that could actually harm someone. 
  Tip for advanced players:  Create &quot;story elements&quot; together that serve as a basis - e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. fictional secrets or role biographies that have no connection to real life. 
 Communication &amp;amp; contact in the role-playing game 
 Depending on the game structure, communication can take place digitally or in person. Typical elements are 
 
 clearly defined forms of messaging (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. chat, email), 
 agreed response times, 
 symbolic threatening texts that are explicitly part of the game, 
 Rituals, e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. &quot;report status&quot;, &quot;task completed&quot;. 
 
 The dominant part behaves according to the role, while the submissive part reacts - always knowing that everything is consensual. 
 Setting boundaries - the traffic light system in blackmailing 
 Boundaries are also essential in blackmail role play. A three-stage traffic light system provides good guidance: 
 
  Green:  Content remains light, humorous or symbolic. No real stress. 
  Yellow:  More intensive psychological role-playing, clear agreement required. 
  Red:  Taboo area. Nothing that could create real risks, real financial damage, damage to reputation or psychological stress. 
 
  Important:  Anything that could lead to harm in reality is strictly forbidden. Red may never be played with or implied. 
 Tips for all levels - blackmailing step by step 
 
 Level 1 - Beginners 
 
 Short-term, simple scenarios. 
 Symbolic tasks instead of financial role-playing games. 
 Fictitious content without reference to reality. 
 Define safeword and termination mechanism. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced 
 
 Longer scenes with story elements. 
 Simulated pressure through agreed messages. 
 Create role profiles for both sides. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced 
 
 Complex storylines, multiple levels of power. 
 Regular game phases and reflection. 
 Psychological depth, but strict separation between game and reality. 
 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
 
 Level 1 - Beginner 
 Small scenes such as &quot;You owe me a task&quot;. All light, playful, with a clear time limit. 
 Level 2 - Advanced 
 Advanced scenarios with fictional secrets or guilt stories, developed entirely together. 
 Level 3 - Experienced 
 Longer games with fixed structures, rituals and simulated consequences - always consensual, never stressful. 
 
 Conclusion: Designing blackmailing safely as role play 
 BDSM blackmailing can be an intensely psychological power game if it is designed responsibly. Clear rules, a written contract, fictitious content, safe words and constant communication make the game safe and legal. There is no place for real blackmail or threats. Those who separate the role play properly can experience blackmailing as an exciting form of dominance and devotion - always within the framework of voluntary fantasy. 
 
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                            <updated>2023-01-03T15:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">BDSM Switcher a special role reversal</title>
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                                            Switch means to change. If you are a switcher in BDSM, it means that you like to switch roles. Short and sweetly explained, switch means to be sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive. Yes, this can actually be possible and exerts a very special charm. You don&#039;t have to com...
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                 Switch means to change. If you are a switcher in BDSM, it means that you like to switch roles. Short and sweetly explained, switch means to be sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive. Yes, this can actually be possible and exerts a very special charm. You don&#039;t have to commit yourself at all. Also in BDSM you can always be what you want. So be a BDSM Switcher full of lust and passion! 
 What is a Switcher 
 You are not quite clear what a switcher is? Then here comes a more detailed explanation. Especially in BDSM there is almost always a dominant part and a submissive part. The roles are firmly distributed, everyone remains in his element. Unless you are a BDSM switcher! Because then you are not in the same position in every session. 
 There are sessions in which you dominate, but there are also sessions in which you are submissive. As a switcher you have the possibility to let off steam and feel comfortable in all sexual areas.   Switching is also possible in one and the same session. So you can dominate first and suddenly your sub resists so much that you are then the submissive part. But here there must be a terrific harmony between the parts. Only rarely is the role exchanged within a BDSM session. 
 Switching with partner or without? 
 Now the big question is, what is the best way to switch? Can a switcher switch roles with his steady partner or does he have to have changing partners to be able to slip into new roles? It works both ways! 
 Well, sure, with a steady partner it can be more difficult to switch roles. Here it is already advantageous if both parts are switchers. In this way, you can really let off steam in a fixed partnership. If you don&#039;t have a steady partner, you can always look for the right part. 
 If he wants to offer himself as a bunny, he looks for his dominant part. But if you want to be the hard unsoft part, which maybe also inflicts pain, you have to look for a slave. There is enough of everything in the world, you just have to look in suitable kink forums and get to know the appropriate people. 
 A person with many faces 
 Switch BDSM = all possibilities! You are a switcher? Then you are a person with two faces, if not even more. Because you can be the devoted, begging part, but you can also be just as loving and devoted. 
 But then you can also be the despising, pain-bringing, torturing part. You can go from being the tied up to being the captivating person. 
 You can be Sugar Daddy or Mommy, but you can also let out a childish side. As a Switcher, you can do just about anything! 
 Knowing if you are a Switcher 
 You can easily tell if you are a Switcher. You love to submit to your partner, but you also have the urge to show him that he can be brought down? Then congratulations you are a switcher! 
 If you wear the pants at home during sex and say where it goes, you might as well dream about being the &quot;victim&quot; in a rape play. You can also tell if you are a switcher from dreams. 
 Don&#039;t hold back, because repressed desires only get stronger. Talk to your partner about your desires and try yourself out together with him/her. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-03T15:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Bdsm Mistress: The Mistress is in charge!</title>
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                                            Mistress sounds polite and nice, but the truth behind the term is a dominance that scares some and fascinates others. Learn what it means to be a dominatrix, how you can use your charms and tools and what BDSM play is all about. Find out if you are suitable as a dominatrix and...
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                 A Mistress - for many, this initially sounds elegant, mysterious and almost polite. But the term is deceptive: a Mistress is not a nice companion, but a self-confident, playfully strict leader in BDSM. She embodies dominance, control and sensual power - and leads her sub with a clear attitude, intuition and a sense of responsibility. In this guide, you&#039;ll find out what a Mistress really is, how she acts and whether you might already have your inner dominatrix. 
 What is a dominatrix? 
 The term mistress is the female form of &#039;master&#039;. In BDSM, it describes a dominant woman who takes the lead in erotic power games. The mistress determines the pace, intensity and type of play - always in consultation with her sub, who voluntarily takes on the submissive role. Some couples only live out this dynamic in the bedroom, while others integrate dominance into their everyday lives. 
 A Mistress can have many facets: strict, playful, sensual, cool, leading, demanding or lovingly dominant. She decides which side she shows - and when. 
  Matching categories:    CBT &amp;amp; Toys    Spanking accessories    Bondage &amp;amp; restraints  
 A Mistress&#039; actions 
 A Mistress does not act ruthlessly - but she is consistent. She follows her own wishes and makes her sub surrender, follow and let himself go. Under her leadership, she can 
 
 take him on a leash and present him, 
 gag him, tie him up or whip him, 
 fix him on the St. Andrew&#039;s cross, 
 control him with voices, looks and rituals, 
 or bring him into a deep submissive position with simple gestures. 
 
 Whether in the studio with a punishment rack, paddle and whip or at home with outfit, voice and presence - a mistress not only uses tools, but above all her charisma and leadership. 
 Am I suitable as a dominatrix? 
 Many women believe they are &quot;too quiet&quot; or &quot;not dominant enough&quot;. But dominance doesn&#039;t come from volume, but from attitude. The question is: do you find it easy to take the lead in bed? Do you enjoy the thought of giving your partner sweet pain or commanding them? Do you feel safe or curious in power roles? 
 If you can answer &quot;yes&quot; to these questions, you already have the potential to be a Mistress. You don&#039;t have to be dominant in everyday life - many dominatrices are reserved in private but blossom in play. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with small instructions such as &quot;kneel down&quot; or &quot;hold still&quot;. Observe how it feels for you.    Tip for advanced players:  Use tools such as a paddle, crop or eye mask and increase the intensity in a controlled manner.    Tip for experienced users:  Develop rituals, fixed rules or longer sessions with mental dominance. 
 Learn, be attentive and take responsibility 
 A Mistress doesn&#039;t have to start out perfect - but she should be willing to learn. Many dominatrices attend workshops, train in the use of whips or electrostimulation and study anatomy intensively. 
 Why? Because BDSM creates pleasure, but can be dangerous if used incorrectly. For example,&amp;nbsp;punches should never be used on the kidneys, spine or joints. Stimulation current should also only be used correctly. Knowledge protects your sub - and keeps you safe. 
 Communication &amp;amp; safeword 
 Even the most dominant Mistress follows a basic principle: consensuality. You torture because he wants it - not because you have to. That&#039;s why a conversation is part of every session: What is allowed? What is taboo? How hard can it get? And which safeword ends the game immediately? 
 A Mistress recognizes the limits of her sub - and respects them. Because power in BDSM does not mean ruthlessness, but responsibility. 
 Tips for all levels - Mistress role step by step 
  Level 1 - beginners: 
 
 Small commands, clear posture, specific gaze. 
 Light bondage or gentle spanking techniques. 
 Discover how your sub reacts - slowly increase. 
 
 Level 2 - advanced: 
 
 Longer sessions with a structured division of roles. 
 More intensive tools: paddle, crop, clamps. 
 Combination of physical and verbal dominance. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Complex scenarios, rituals or everyday elements. 
 Psychological dominance, power games, discipline. 
 Integration of CBT, bondage, impact play - always safety-oriented. 
 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - beginners: 
 
 Simple setting: you lead, he follows. 
 Roles such as &quot;strict boss&quot; or &quot;bossy teacher&quot; help you get started. 
 Agree on a safeword. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Fixed rules that he must adhere to during the session. 
 Use of bondage, eye masks or spanking to reinforce the role. 
 More voice control: deep, calm, assertive. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Ritualized sessions that extend over longer periods of time. 
 Extended power games such as control of everyday life, to-do lists or property rituals. 
 Emotional leadership: the art of balancing devotion and challenge. 
 
 
 Conclusion 
 A Mistress is more than a &quot;strict woman&quot; - she is a confident, creative, responsible leader in BDSM. Her strength lies not only in whips or commands, but in her ability to artfully interweave intensity, pleasure and trust. If you feel that dominance excites you, then you may discover this side curiously, playfully and safely - step by step. 
 Thanks to Cruel Reell 
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                            <updated>2023-01-02T15:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Bdsm punishments from bondage to chili peppers</title>
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                                            Experience the varied possibilities of BDSM punishments and immerse yourself in a world full of psychological and physical torture methods. Discover new ways to make your lovemaking more exciting and intense. Be inspired by the variety and find out which punishments suit you a...
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                 BDSM punishments are varied and almost limitless. In many D/s and BDSM relationships, punishments are part of everyday life. It is an ongoing power game between the dom and sub: if a rule is broken, a punishment follows - sometimes playful, sometimes very intense. 
 The dominant partner can always develop new punishment ideas or draw inspiration from historical and modern SM practices. Both psychological and physical BDSM punishments are possible. The psyche in particular can be strongly influenced - targeted humiliation or deprivation are often harsher than any lash with a whip. 
 
 
 Implement BDSM punishments safely - the right accessories 
 With the right BDSM toys, you can make punishments controlled, safe and very intense: 
 
  Bondage ropes  - for restraints ranging from simple fixation to decorative shibari bondage. 
  Whips &amp;amp; crops  - ideal for classic spanking punishments with variable intensity. 
  Paddles &amp;amp; spanking instruments  - for controlled pain on buttocks, thighs &amp;amp; more. 
  Chastity cages &amp;amp; chastity devices  - perfect for orgasm prohibition &amp;amp; pleasurable frustration. 
  Electro sex toys  - stimulation current for finely dosed punishment and intense sensations. 
 
  Tip:  Increase the intensity slowly, use a safeword and always pay attention to consensuality and aftercare. 
 
 
 Punishment via the psyche 
 Psychological BDSM punishments can be extremely effective. They play with attention, control and the sub&#039;s emotional attachment. 
 One possibility is targeted verbal abuse and belittling within the agreed framework. You can shout at your sub, humiliate them and &quot;belittle&quot; them with harsh words. For many, however, this is more of a short-term S&amp;amp;M punishment. 
  Ignoring  can be much more lasting: You ignore your sub, don&#039;t respond to their efforts and treat them as if they were invisible. A submissive who wants to do everything they can to please you will experience this as a painful punishment. The message is that he is not allowed to serve you - and that is exactly what affects him emotionally. 
 Physical punishment 
 Corporal punishment offers a huge playground. Online forums, fetish communities and guides provide countless ideas - but in the end it&#039;s your imagination and your mutual agreement that counts. 
  Important:  Boundaries, taboos and a safeword should be clarified before any punishment. Pain is part of the game, but should never cause real injury or damage to health. 
 Restraints 
 Shackling is one of the classic BDSM punishments. The sub&#039;s freedom of movement is restricted and he is therefore at the mercy of the dom&#039;s control. There are countless bondage methods - from simple cuffs to complex rope bondage techniques. 
 You can tie elaborate patterns with  bondage ropes , use chains or work with  gags, collars and leashes . Some bondage techniques give the sub a little freedom of movement, others are extremely restrictive and painful. 
 A long leash, for example, is exciting: The sub can move, but is always stopped short of the desired target. Tight restraints in particular can cause pain - but here you need to regularly check the blood flow and nerves (numbness, tingling). 
 Blows 
 Spankings are often the first association with BDSM punishments - and remain a classic. They can be gentle, playful or very severe. 
 Possible tools: 
 
 the flat of the hand 
 Paddle or claps 
 multi-tailed whip or crop 
 Cane or rod 
 
 Typical target areas are buttocks, thighs and back. Some also like hits on the soles of the feet - an old method of torture that can be very painful. Other areas such as the kidneys, spine, joints or head should be taboo, as they can quickly cause serious injuries. 
 Pain from electrical stimulation 
 Stimulation current is a particularly fine and easily dosed form of punishment. Depending on the intensity, the sensation varies between tingling, pressure and sharp pain. 
 There are adhesive pads that can be applied almost anywhere on the body, as well as  Nippelklemmen,    cockring or Anal plugs with an electric function . Stimulation current can be perfectly combined with restraints: The sub is restrained - and every impulse hits him completely at his mercy. 
 Make sure  you only use BDSM-appropriate e-stim devices, never apply current to the heart, head or neck and follow all the manufacturer&#039;s safety instructions. 
 Pain through natural products 
 It&#039;s not just percussion instruments or electricity that cause punishment - natural products can also &quot;burn&quot;. 
  Chili peppers:  You can let your sub eat spicy food, for example - within limits that you discuss beforehand, of course. Extreme varieties or medical problems (stomach, intestines) should be a clear no-no. 
  Ginger (&quot;figging&quot;):  Peeled ginger can be cut and inserted in the form of an &quot;anal plug&quot;. The essential oils produce an intense burning sensation in the anal area, which many find very punishing. 
  Safety:  No experiments with unknown spiciness, no use on open wounds or sensitive mucous membranes without experience, always clarify allergies and state of health beforehand. 
 Compulsion to act 
 BDSM punishments don&#039;t always have to be physical - &quot;forcing the sub to act&quot; can also be very effective. The sub has to do things that make them uncomfortable, humiliate them or stretch their comfort zone - within the scope of your agreement, of course. 
 Historically, &quot;ass licking&quot; was part of humiliating punishments; today, a  rimjob  can be used as a deliberate humiliation in a BDSM context. It is important that such practices are clearly discussed beforehand and are desired by both parties. 
 No matter which SM punishment you choose: Always make sure that your sub remains physically and mentally stable. It&#039;s a game with clear rules, not real violence. 
 After each session:  aftercare, closeness, cuddling, talking - this allows the sub to process what they have experienced and your trust grows. 
 SM punishments - let the games begin 
 There are countless ways to practise punishment in the field of SM. Many practices are not only &quot;punishment&quot;, but also pleasurable play. Initial stalling or withdrawal games can later be combined with harsher means - for example with essential oils, chastity or tasks. 
 The orgasm ban 
 Playing with male pleasure is particularly exciting for keyholders, mistresses and dominatrices. An  orgasm ban  can be one of the most intense punishments for many subs. 
 Popular aids are Chastity cages and chastity belts. The sub is kept chaste for days or weeks, is allowed to be aroused, but does not have an orgasm. Your body, your show - but the climax remains forbidden. 
 Women can also be involved with chastity belts or clear rules (no orgasm without release). The game thrives on tease &amp;amp; denial: tease, build up, withdraw. 
 Held like a pet 
  Pet play  is a mixture of role play and punishment. The sub is treated like a pet - as a dog, cat or other animal. He wears a collar, lead and possibly a muzzle or animal mask. 
 Anal plugs the role is reinforced with an animal tail. They are fed from the floor, from a bowl, not from the table. For many submissives, this is an intense experience of humiliation, surrender and pleasurable loss of control. 
 Playing with essential oils 
 Essential oils can make punishments particularly treacherous: At first, everything seems like a sensual massage - but little by little, the oil unfolds its effects. 
 Some oils cool, others warm the skin, while others produce a noticeable burning sensation. Anyone working with hot ingredients (e.g. chili extract) should only do so in diluted form, very carefully and never on mucous membranes. 
 It can be exciting to make the sub believe they are receiving a reward - only to then put on the Chastity cage as soon as the desire increases. Or a seemingly soothing massage that suddenly turns into a burning sensation. 
 Giving tasks 
 Tasks can also be SM punishments - sometimes erotic, sometimes quite mundane. The Dom can order household chores, care tasks or services as a duty. 
 The sub cleans, cooks, shops while the mistress relaxes in the bathtub. He may later have to wash her, apply cream, massage her - slowly, thoroughly, without being allowed to come himself. 
 Countless methods can be used to educate a sub - and they don&#039;t always have to be explicitly sexual. SM punishments can be imaginative, erotic, painful, tender or simply practical. The decisive factors are:  Consensuality, clear rules, safewords and good aftercare.  
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            <title type="text">Ruined orgasm - coming without satisfaction</title>
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                                            Discover the special kick of the ruined orgasm in the BDSM scene. Find out how it is achieved and what happens during it. Despite the orgasm, the pleasure remains, but the satisfaction is missing. Be creative and try out different methods to experience this special orgasm.
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                 The  ruined orgasm  is a fascinating yet challenging BDSM game of pleasure, control and withdrawal. It makes the body come - but without the liberating wave of relief. What remains is a burning hunger, pulsating tension and the sweet feeling of surrendered longing. Meaning, purpose and stimulation lie in precisely this unfinished climax - a deliberate act of dominant control and intense psychological stimulation. 
 What happens during a ruined orgasm? 
 The body climbs the staircase of pleasure: rapid breathing, arousal, desire, twitching of the muscles - everything is aimed at the familiar climax. But before the liberating release sets in, the dominant person intervenes. The stimulation stops abruptly or is overridden by pain, a shift in pressure or a distracting technique. 
 The sub can still ejaculate or experience an orgasm, but the  liberating release  does  not  materialize. The tension sinks in hard and remains trapped in the body at the same time. A mixture of pleasure, frustration and desire arises - an intense psychological state that deepens the game. 
 The muscles in the intimate area can tense up and the desire remains awake, hot and unfulfilled. This is exactly what creates the special dynamic between dominance and devotion. 
 How can a ruined orgasm be achieved? 
 There are numerous ways - playful, dominant, creative. The important thing is always:  communication, consensuality and clear signs of excessive demands . 
 1. Erotic stimulation  Dance around him or her, use eye contact, touching, sensual stripping. Small, casual caresses increase the tension. Break off just before the point of no return - and let the lust run out of steam. 
 2. Hand play  The point of no return is particularly noticeable during a handjob. If you pull your hand away at this exact moment or abruptly change the rhythm, the orgasm is ruined. 
 3. Painful impulses  Light pinching of the testicles, a quick impulse on the vagina or a gentle slap can override and prevent the climax. 
 4. Toys &amp;amp; additional stimuli  Prostate stimulation, Anal plugs or  stimulation current  can lead to the decisive point very quickly - ideal for experienced couples who consciously play with pleasure and tension. Pay attention to breathing, body language and clear stop signals. 
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 Does the ruined orgasm work for both sexes? 
  Yes, absolutely.  Both men and women can experience a ruined orgasm. In women, the moment is often more subtle to recognize - muscular tension, breathing rhythm and vocalizations provide clues. In men, pre-ejaculation, muscle twitching and accelerated breathing are clearer signs. 
 If the orgasm is ruined several times, it can even lead to a &quot;dry&quot; orgasm - intense, sometimes painful, but extremely stimulating for some submissives. It is always important to be careful and take breaks when the body seems overstimulated. 
 Tips in three levels of experience 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with gentle Edging. Slowly bring the sub close to climax and stop slightly before the point of no return. Lots of communication! 
  Tip for advanced users:  Experiment with pain impulses, toys or abrupt changes in rhythm. Observe body language closely. 
  Tip for experienced users:  Combine ruined orgasms with bondage, breathing control or stimulation current. Watch out for overstimulation and plan conscious breaks. 
 Tips for all levels - ruined orgasm step by step 
 Level 1 - Beginner 
 Slowly lead the body to high arousal. Stop just before climax. Use words to convey safety and consciously perceive the state. 
 Level 2 - Advanced 
 Uses variations: visual stimuli, hand changes, short pain points. Builds up a dramaturgical tension curve. 
 Level 3 - Experienced 
 Intensifies the game: several ruined orgasms in succession, use of toys or dominant ritualization, e.g. commands, positions or fixations. 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
 Level 1 - Beginner 
 Simple scenario: Dominant directs, sub follows. Clear rules, safeword, calm atmosphere. Goal: Build trust and understand the situation. 
 Level 2 - Advanced 
 Dom determines tempo, position and interruptions. Light bondage, increased erotic staging or verbal control can be incorporated. 
 Level 3 - Experienced 
 Psychological depth: power games, repeated withdrawals, fixed rituals, commands or combinations with anal training, spanking or stimulation current. Consciously dose the intensity. 
 Conclusion 
 The ruined orgasm is a powerful tool in BDSM - a game with expectation, withdrawal, power and inner tension. If you handle it sensitively and responsibly, you open up a space for intense psychological and physical experiences. Communication, trust and attentive reading of the partner always remain the most important foundation. 
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                            <updated>2023-01-02T11:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">How does needle play work in BDSM? - safe, consensual, conscious</title>
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                                            Are you curious about the world of BDSM needle play? Find out what it feels like and what there is to consider. Discover why some BDSM lovers find this type of play so arousing and how you can prepare yourself for aftercare. But be careful: the risk of injury is high and the a...
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 Needles and BDSM - how do they go together? For some, very well: it&#039;s an intense form of top-and-bottom play that focuses on pain, control and body sensations. At the same time, needling is one of the  more dangerous kink cards  and is clearly part of  edge play . There is a real risk of injury and infection - which is why knowledge, experience and medically clean work are essential. 
 Real needles are actually used for needle play. Important:  Only sterile, disposable medical products may be used  - anything else is an irresponsible risk. And even with professional equipment, needle play remains a practice that is only suitable for well-informed, experienced BDSM practitioners. 
 
  More on suitable BDSM topics:   BDSM guide &amp;amp; inspiration   Clinic games &amp;amp; medical play   BDSM toys &amp;amp; accessories  
 
 How do BDSM needles work? 
 BDSM needles usually use  medical cannulas  like those used by doctors. They are available in different thicknesses (gauge) - the smaller the gauge number, the thicker the needle. This diameter in particular has an influence on pain sensation, puncture behavior and risk of injury. 
 Basic principle: The needle is guided so that it passes  through a limited layer of skin  and exits again. Depending on the body part and technique, this can range from a slight prick to clearly noticeable pain. Some types of play remain very superficial, others go deeper and can deliberately involve blood - which significantly increases the risk of complications and infections. 
 Some BDSM practitioners use needles to place  temporary &quot;piercings&quot; , for example in the nipple area or - with a great deal of experience - at a greater distance in the genital or upper body area. The following applies here in particular: you should  not get  involved without sound anatomical and hygiene knowledge. 
 Why do some people like needle games? 
 The fascination behind needle games varies greatly - and is often a combination of several factors: 
 
  Body awareness:  mild to intense pain can help you become very aware of your own body. 
  Pain pleasure &amp;amp; endorphins:  For masochistically inclined bottoms, the pain of needling can trigger a particularly intense kick. 
  Art &amp;amp; aesthetics : The body becomes a &quot;living work of art&quot; when needles are placed in an orderly, symmetrical or decorative manner. 
  Trust &amp;amp; devotion : Having needles inserted is an enormous sign of trust - the emotional aspect is often just as strong as the physical one. 
 
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 For some, needle play is primarily  a medial or clinical head cinema , for others an intensive tool for exploring themselves and their own pain. It remains important: The appeal should never obscure how risky this form of play can be. 
 Don&#039;t just get started - why needle play is edge play 
 Even if curiosity is great: BDSM needles are  not a playground for spontaneous experiments . It involves real, deliberately induced injuries to the skin - with all the associated risks. 
 Typical dangers are, for example: 
 
 Infections of the skin or deeper tissue layers 
 Nerve, vascular or tissue damage 
 increased bleeding or secondary bleeding 
 Scarring and pigment changes 
 Dizziness, circulatory problems, fainting 
 strong emotional reactions or flashbacks 
 
 There are also individual risks: Blood clotting disorders, medication (e.g. blood thinners), diabetes, immune deficiencies, cardiovascular diseases or previous mental illnesses can make needle play  even more dangerous . If you are unsure about your health, you should avoid this form of edge play or seek medical advice beforehand. 
 Material &amp;amp; hygiene - only medical disposable material 
 When talking about BDSM needle play, one thing is essential:  only sterile, disposable medical material may be used.  
 
 No craft solutions, no sewing needles, safety pins or decorative pins. 
 Needles from pharmacies or specialist shops, sterile packaging, used only once. 
 After the session, needles must be disposed of in a suitable container - not simply thrown loose in the household waste. 
 
 The environment should also be as clean as possible: disinfected hands, clean surfaces, disinfected skin. In professional contexts,  disposable gloves, skin disinfection and sterile wipes  are often also used - these are all sensible standards. 
 Important: The  anatomy of the human body  should not be a mystery. Anyone playing with needles needs to know where important nerve tracts, vessels and organs run - and which areas should be avoided at all costs. This knowledge is no substitute for medical training, but it is a minimum requirement to be able to assess the risk at all. 
 Consent &amp;amp; psychological framework 
 As with any BDSM game,  nothing works without consent, trust and clear communication.  This is particularly important with needle play because you are deliberately entering an area with a higher risk. 
 
 Talk in detail about fantasies, boundaries and taboos before the game. 
 Make sure that everyone involved is emotionally stable and in their right mind (no alcohol, no drugs). 
 Agree a safeword or clear stop signal - and respect it without discussion in an emergency. 
 Only go as deep into edge play as both parties really want to and can handle. 
 
 Some people experience needle play as  very emotional : feelings of being at the mercy of others, fear, relief, pride or intense closeness can alternate. This is all the more reason to only explore this kink with people you really trust. 
 
  Related topics at Steeltoyz:   Clinic Games &amp;amp; Medical Play   BDSM toys &amp;amp; accessories   Spanking &amp;amp; chastisement  
 
 Aftercare for needle play 
 Even with great care, minor injuries can occur with needle play. Therefore,  aftercare (physical and emotional)  should always be part of the planning - not just a &quot;nice to have&quot;. 
 
 Prepare wound disinfectant wipes or suitable skin disinfectant. 
 Clean swabs or plasters in case a puncture site bleeds a little. 
 Depending on the extent: mildly nourishing wound or healing ointment to support regeneration. 
 Observe play areas at rest - if there is unusual redness, pain, swelling or fever, it is better to get medical help too early than too late. 
 
  Emotional aftercare  is just as important: Cuddling, talking, having a drink, possibly eating something sweet, reflecting on the session together. Needle play can trigger intense &quot;drops&quot; - which is why no one should be left alone immediately afterwards. 
 Gentle introduction: Nerve wheel &amp;amp; clinic games light 
 If you&#039;re curious about the &quot;medical&quot; or tingling stimulation, you don&#039;t have to start with real needles straight away. There are  much less invasive ways  to immerse yourself in a similar atmosphere. 
 A classic is the Wartenberg  wheel : a small metal wheel with fine teeth that is rolled over the skin. The skin is not punctured, but merely stimulated - an alternation of tickling, pricking and goose bumps. 
 Typical effects: 
 
 pleasant tingling and light prickling 
 stimulated blood circulation and increased sensitivity 
 clear BDSM feeling without perforating the skin 
 
 The nerve wheel is ideal for  &quot;clinic games light&quot;  or as part of medical role play. It can also be used as foreplay before you consider serious needling at some point in the future (if at all). For many, however, they deliberately stick to these gentle variations - which is completely legitimate and often much safer. 
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 When you should avoid needling 
 Even if the appeal is great, there are situations in which needle games are not a good idea. For example, when.. 
 
 you have an acute or unexplained illness, especially in the cardiovascular or blood clotting area 
 you are taking blood-thinning medication 
 your immune system is weakened 
 you are prone to scarring or poor wound healing 
 you have anxiety disorders, panic attacks or trauma backgrounds that could be triggered by injuries 
 
 In all these cases, even small punctures can be disproportionately risky. It&#039;s perfectly okay to  rule out  this form of edgeplay  for yourself  and work with less dangerous kinks instead. 
 Conclusion: Consciously decide whether needle play suits you 
 Needle play in BDSM is an  intense, risky and physically real  way to experience pain, control and trust. They can be deeply moving and pleasurable for some people - for others they are too intense or simply not an option. 
 The important thing is to be aware: 
 
 Needle play is part of edge play and is never &quot;harmless&quot;. 
 Disposable medical equipment, knowledge and hygiene are an absolute must. 
 Consent, communication and aftercare are non-negotiable. 
 There are always alternatives such as the nerve wheel, spanking or other clinical games that are less invasive. 
 
 If you just find needle play exciting out of curiosity, it may be enough to inform yourself theoretically or experiment with gentle tools such as a nerve wheel. If you want to go deeper,  workshops, experienced mentors and lots of preparation  are the only responsible way to go. That way, BDSM remains what it should be: intense, but as safe and consensual as possible. 
 
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            <title type="text">CNC Kink - a special fetish</title>
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                                            The CNC kink is already one of the most extreme preferences that can be found in the BDSM field. The meaning of CNC is not so easy to explain. Pronounced / written out it means &quot;consensual non consent&quot;. This means as much as agree to something that you do not agree
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                 The CNC kink is already one of the most extreme preferences that can be found in the BDSM field. The meaning of CNC is not so easy to explain. Pronounced / written out it means &quot;consensual non consent&quot;. 
 This means as much as agree to something that you do not agree to. Sounds very confusing at first, it is for people who have not really had to do with the CNC fetish. But in the end it is quite simple. You agree to unpredictable actions. 
 That is, you let everything come to you, even if they are things that you do not want. But for this to work really well, you have to talk a lot beforehand. 
 From spontaneous action to rapeplay 
   CNC can mean a whole lot of things. First and foremost, you give your consent to things you don&#039;t want. Example: You agreed to have spontaneous sex whenever and wherever the top wants. So if he suddenly takes you through in the middle of a long-distance train or something, you can&#039;t just say no, because you have agreed to such actions. 
 The CNC fetish can refer to spontaneous sex whenever and wherever the bottom wants. However, it can even be a little mini kink with vanillas, which simply refers to the fact that the clothes may be torn from the body. However, most people relate the CNC fetish more to the well known rapeplay. With rapeplay you agree to a rape, so to speak. Of course nobody wants to be raped voluntarily. 
 But in this case it is a preference for a certain sex act. For the certain brutality, the slight pain and violence. The bottom loves to experience the unexpected.   However, CNC by no means has the meaning that the Top is allowed to do everything. 
 It is not a free pass to take whatever you want. The CNC Kink needs a clear consent of all involved! 
 CNC is not a blanket consent! 
   CNC is not to be confused with metaconsensus. With metaconsent, you give blanket consent. Say the consent is valid until revoked for all sessions. With CNC Kink it is different. Here you give your consent for the discussed session. After that it loses its validity until something else is agreed. 
 So if you have agreed to rapeplay, you have done this only for one time. Your consent for spontaneous sex is valid until it is fulfilled. All further sessions must be rediscussed and renegotiated. 
 No one must feel really uncomfortable 
 Even if it is a really aggravated sex, especially if we assume rapeplay here, nobody must feel really uncomfortable! Therefore, first and foremost, trust is important! That is, you must know each other and be able to trust blindly. Such a thing can be caused only if you talk. Talk about your inclination and plan what you are going to do. 
 In rapeplay, of course, no individual actions are agreed upon, as this would take out the stimulating appeal. But both of you have to be clear that it is just a played rape, with unpredictable acts. So that all this doesn&#039;t go too far, a safe word is indispensable. 
 Sentences like &quot;Stop it, I don&#039;t want to do it&quot; are often used in such a role-play. They give the incentive not to stop. Therefore, it is best to define a completely inappropriate safe word. If this falls, the game is immediately terminated!    Also afterwards you should take care of each other. Look at each other, talk, ask each other if everything is okay. The experience wants to be processed with a confidant. This is called aftercare and is important for body and soul. 
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                            <updated>2022-12-28T12:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">This is how you become a toilet slave?</title>
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                                            What is a slave in the BDSM field, knows everyone who has a little idea about this scene. It is a submissive part that goes through a lot to please his Dom. But not all slaves are the same. There are differences
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                 The toilet slave 
 What is a slave in the BDSM area, everyone knows who has a little idea about this scene. It is a submissive part that goes through a lot to please his Dom. But not all slaves are the same. 
 There are differences. So the toilet slave is in a very special area. He enjoys champagne and caviar. No not the food, but urine and feces are meant in this case. 
 Training to become a toilet slave 
 In fact, you should already have a little inclination to want to taste urine and feces. You must not be disgusted by it. Only then it is possible to train you as a toilet slave. The training runs in small steps, which have only one goal. The highlight of the training is that you will lick the mistress clean after her toilet visits.    First, you will be familiarized with the scent and warmth of urine. In short, you let yourself pee. However, this can happen during sex without any sexual activity at all. Feces can also quickly come into play. The mistress will defecate on your body.     The next step is to taste the urine. First, it will be handed to you in a cup. Once you have that down, a hose with or without a mask will come into play. This way, the urine is fed directly into your mouth via the tube. 
   Without hose it goes then but still better. When the mistress squats over your face and you can catch the fresh golden shower directly. Very warm and fresh. If this point is reached, you have almost done the training. But a little further it can go there already.    Lick it clean! This is almost the supreme discipline in toilet slavery. As a toilet slave you have to lick her clean all around. It doesn&#039;t matter if she has only peed or if she has done the big business. By now you should be really happy to be able to enjoy both of her body openings.     The crowning glory is the use of a portable toilet seat. You can think of this somewhat like a nursing toilet seat. Your face is positioned underneath and the mistress does her business directly in your face! Either you manage to swallow directly or you suck yourself in. No matter how, you will simply find it horny. 
 Who can become a toilet slave? 
 Ultimately, anyone can become a toilet slave who is not disgusted by urine or feces. He must not be shy to smell or taste it. The last inhibitions fall during training. The sex of the toilet slave does not matter in itself. 
 It can be a man but also a woman who loves golden shower and caviar. If you are undecided, you can approach slowly and maybe just let yourself be peed on in the shower. Already there you will find out whether it is your thing or rather not. 
 Trust and health simply have to be there 
   The most important thing when living out such an inclination is trust. There must be a very deep trust to the dominant part, which gives you golden showers and caviar. There are almost no secrets between the two parts. And health also plays a very important role. 
 Both people must be healthy and must not have any immune deficiency. Even a cold should help to let the power play of the special kind, simply times out. 
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                            <updated>2022-12-15T12:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Impact Play - a quick-witted BDSM game</title>
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                                            Impact Play is a very quick-witted game from the BDSM world. The word &quot;impactful&quot; is meant literally here. Impact means impact or effect. Play means game in German. In this case, impact stands for the impact on the human body with the hand or striking tools. You could also use...
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 Impact play is the art of consciously playing with blows, pressure and rhythmic impulses - always consensual, safe and with a clear balance of power. For many BDSM lovers, it is one of the most intense games of all because it challenges both body and mind. 
  More BDSM knowledge &amp;amp; inspiration: 
 
  7 important tips for BDSM beginners  
  BDSM - what is it anyway?  
  Caning: pleasure with the cane  
  Bondage guide: practices &amp;amp; safety  
 
 
 What is impact play in BDSM? 
 Impact play focuses on the conscious exercise of power: one person (top, dom, dominatrix) hits, the other (bottom, sub) receives. Gender plays no role here - trust, pleasure in pain and a shared fantasy are decisive. 
 Typical spanking areas are buttocks, thighs and back (without spine). The spanking is done by hand or with toys such as floggers, paddles, crops, whips or canes. Impact play can take place as a stand-alone session or as part of larger BDSM scenarios, such as spanking rituals or role play. 
 Top and bottom - roles, power &amp;amp; responsibility 
 The top enjoys control, decides on intensity and tempo - and is responsible for safety. Many find it pleasurable to leave marks or to lead the sub into a frenzy of pain and pleasure. 
 The bottom is in a powerful state of surrender: pain, stress, endorphins and arousal all mix together. Some subs experience a state of deep trance during impact play - often called &quot;subspace&quot;. Important: Only an emotionally stable, physically healthy bottom should engage in intense impact play. 
 Whether you crave dominance or surrender, communication, safewords and honest feedback are at the heart of every good impact play session. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with a short, clear agreement: Which body parts are okay? Approximately how many strokes? Which safeword do you use? It&#039;s better to start too carefully than too hard - you can always improve. 
 Body and mind: why impact play is so intense 
 Impact play is more than &quot;just a few slaps&quot;. Every blow creates pressure, heat and noise - and therefore a mixture of stress and pleasure. The body reacts with adrenaline and endorphins, the psyche fluctuates between tension and release. 
 Pain, pleasure &amp;amp; endorphin rush 
 For masochists, the appeal often lies in consciously pushing boundaries: your bottom burns, your skin tingles, your pulse races - and yet it still feels right. For many, this tension between &quot;ouch&quot; and &quot;more!&quot; creates the special magic of impact play. 
 Just as important as the thrill: the emotional connection. A sub can feel deeply seen and held when the top pays close attention to breathing, body language and reactions. Dominance and devotion become a very intimate dialog. 
 Tools for impact play: from hand slaps to whips 
 Impact play doesn&#039;t have to start with a heavy whip. A deliberate increase in intensity helps to slowly accustom the body to stimuli and discover your own preferences. 
 The hand - the perfect introduction 
 The flat hand is ideal for trying out impact play. You can directly feel how hard you are hitting and can react immediately if your opponent reacts differently than expected. 
 
  Warm-up:  gentle, rhythmic slaps on the bottom and thighs, stroking in between. 
  Increase:  gradually become more vigorous, incorporate breaks in which you massage or kiss the area. 
  Mix:  alternate quick, light strokes with a few, very deliberate, harder slaps. 
 
 Even with bare hands, impact play can be incredibly intense - especially if you add voice, eye contact and clear commands. 
 Floggers &amp;amp; paddles: a soft introduction to playing with toys 
  Floggers  with lots of soft welts spread the impact over a larger area. The pain is often dull and warm, more like a heavy throbbing than a sharp sting. Ideal for preparing the body for more intense stimuli. 
  Paddles  produce a powerful, flat blow. Depending on the material (leather, wood, rubber), it may feel dull or burning. Paddled paddles are also safe for beginners to experiment with. 
 If you want to delve deeper into the world of floggers, paddles and the like, it&#039;s worth taking a look at special  spanking and striking game guides , which explain materials, striking techniques and combinations in detail. 
  Tip for advanced players:  Test new percussion instruments on yourself first - thigh or palm - before using them on your sub. This will give you a feel for intensity, sound and control. 
 Crop, whip &amp;amp; cane: sharp stimuli for experienced users 
  Crops , narrow  whips  and  canes  deliver a completely different kind of pain: sharp, stinging, often with clearly visible welts. These tools only belong in experienced hands - and on well-padded parts of the body. 
 
 Before each strike, take a few &quot;air strikes&quot; to check accuracy and momentum. 
 Never hit joints, spine, kidneys, head, neck or hip bones directly. 
 Build up the session slowly, do not start directly with maximum intensity. 
 
 If you want to combine impact play with strict discipline, guides such as the  BDSM punishment book  can provide additional inspiration - always provided that everything has been clearly negotiated beforehand. 
 Safety during impact play: taboo zones, safeword &amp;amp; aftercare 
 Intense impact play can clearly mark the body and have a deep emotional impact. That&#039;s why safety, consensuality and aftercare always come before pleasure. 
 Taboo zones that you need to know 
 You should avoid these areas during impact play or only play in them with extreme caution and a lot of experience: 
 
  Head, face, neck:  high risk of injury, danger to eyes, teeth, airways. 
  Spine &amp;amp; coccyx:  Hits here can cause long-term damage. 
  Kidney area &amp;amp; lower back laterally:  sensitive organs, risk of internal injuries. 
  Joints (knees, elbows, shoulders, wrists):  never hit directly. 
  Breasts &amp;amp; genitals:  only with a great deal of experience, extremely carefully and after clear consultation. 
 
 Get your limits together: What is absolutely taboo? What is only allowed lightly and what is allowed harder? Ideally in writing or in the chat before the session so that nobody forgets anything. 
 Safeword &amp;amp; traffic light system 
 A safeword is the safety net in impact play. It breaks the scene immediately or changes it significantly - without discussion. The traffic light system has proven its worth: 
 
  Green:  all good, you can even get more intense. 
  Yellow:  approaching the limit - reduce speed, switch to other parts of the body, take a break. 
  Red:  stop immediately, ask, comfort, switch to aftercare. 
 
 Important: A sub can sometimes no longer speak clearly when intoxicated. Therefore, the top should also pay attention to non-verbal signals: altered breathing, frozen body, tears, unusual silence. 
 Aftercare: landing softly after hard blows 
 After intensive impact play, the body and mind often come back &quot;from far away&quot;. Aftercare helps to lovingly accompany this transition. 
 
 Provide a blanket, water and possibly something sweet. 
 Cuddle, hold hands, talk soothingly. 
 Debriefing: What was nice, what was too much, what would you like next time? 
 
 Tops can also have feelings of guilt or emptiness after a hard session (&quot;dom drop&quot;). Talk about it openly and give each other support. 
  Tip for experienced players:  Agree on a fixed aftercare framework after each session - for example, at least 20 minutes of cuddling time and a short check-in the next day by message or phone. 
 Tips for all levels - impact play step by step 
 Whether curious, advanced or experienced: Impact Play can be wonderfully built up in stages. This allows you to discover your limits and favorite stimuli without overtaxing yourself. 
 
  Level 1 - curious beginners: 
 
 Hand only and perhaps a very soft flogger. 
 Max. 10-15 minutes of impact, with lots of stroking and touching in between. 
 Clear agreement: no visible marks in places that are conspicuous in everyday life. 
 Perfect in combination with gentle power play or simple  BDSM beginner scenarios . 
 
 
  Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Use of floggers, paddles and light whips. 
 Longer sessions with clear phases: Warm-up, climax, cool-down. 
 Perhaps the first tracks when both feel comfortable with them. 
 Combination with bondage, blindfolds or  simple bondage games . 
 
 
  Level 3 - Experienced &amp;amp; masochism fans: 
 
 Intense sessions with crop, whip and cane. 
 Planned rituals, punishment catalogs, longer &quot;service sessions&quot;. 
 Conscious handling of strong marks and longer recovery time. 
 Deepening the D/s dynamic, e.g. in long-term FLR or femdom constellations, as described in the  femdom guide . 
 
 
 
  Role play step by step - depending on the level 
 
  Level 1 - playful flirting:  &quot;Cheeky slap game&quot; on the sofa: You give light slaps if the other person breaks a small &quot;rule&quot; (too cheeky answers, too long on the cell phone). Everything remains short, humorous and soft. 
  Level 2 - strict teaching scenario:  You play the teacher, your sub the student. &quot;Mistakes&quot; are followed by set spankings with a flogger or paddle - always with a safeword and clear boundaries. 
  Level 3 - Ritual session:  Fixed procedure, e.g. certain number of spankings per week, recorded in a punishment book. Recording rituals, dress codes and titles such as &quot;Mistress/Master&quot; can intensify the power fantasy. 
 
 
 When impact play is not (yet) the right thing to do 
 As tempting as impact play can be, it is not suitable for every life situation. Refrain or be extremely careful if: 
 
 there are acute injuries, blood clotting disorders or other serious physical illnesses, 
 you have an unstable mental condition (e.g. severe depression, unresolved trauma), 
 your counterpart is only taking part &quot;for your sake&quot;, without any desire for impact play. 
 
 When in doubt: safety first. It is best to clarify medical issues with a specialist. BDSM is never a substitute for professional medical or psychological help. 
 Conclusion: Enjoy impact play consciously, safely and with pleasure 
 Impact play can be an incredibly powerful game: Between pain and pleasure, control and surrender, discipline and deep intimacy. If you respect boundaries, know taboo zones, take safewords seriously and practice loving aftercare, this BDSM game can bring you closer together than many words. 
 Whether you are just trying out your first hesitant slaps or have been practising masochism for a long time: curiosity, respect and trust are your best companions - then Impact Play will be an intense but safe adventure that will linger for a long time. 
 
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            <title type="text">Kinkster - live it up!</title>
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                                            As a kinkster, you are someone who wants to live out their sexuality and does not necessarily prefer socially accepted sex. Kinky / kinky sex stands for kinky sex, for the unusual. This doesn&#039;t have to be a particularly pronounced BDSM fetish. If you like soft role play alone,...
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 Do you feel that you want more than classic vanilla sex? Do you fantasize about bondage games, role-playing games or power games and wonder if you are a  kinkster ? Then you&#039;ve come to the right place. In this BDSM guide, you&#039;ll find out what makes a kinkster, how to live your kinks safely and how relationships with kinky tendencies can work harmoniously. 
  More BDSM knowledge for kinksters: 
 
  Vanilla sex - that&#039;s perfectly okay too  
  BDSM switcher - understanding role reversal  
  FLR, TPE &amp;amp; female dominance  
 
 
 What does kinkster mean in a BDSM context? 
 A  kinkster  is someone who consciously lives sexuality outside of the social norm. &quot;Kinky&quot; or &quot;kinky sex&quot; stands for unusual preferences that go beyond classic vanilla sex. This can start very softly - with light role play, for example - and develop into intense BDSM practices, fetishes and rituals. 
 Important:  Kink  is an umbrella term for special preferences. It doesn&#039;t have to be a hard fetish or a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle. Perhaps you are attracted to playing with dominance and submission, a little spanking, bondage or the fantasy of taking on a certain role - all of these can be part of your kinky side. 
 That&#039;s what makes a kinkster 
 Being a bit kinky doesn&#039;t automatically make you a kinkster. Many people occasionally try something &quot;kinky&quot; in bed. A kinkster, on the other hand, sees kink and BDSM as an integral part of their sexual expression. 
 
  Variety instead of routine:  Pure vanilla sex is rare - or feels unsatisfying in the long run. 
  Openness to new things:  You love experimenting, testing new practices and consciously exploring your limits. 
  Role diversity:  You can be dominant, submissive or switch - and enjoy changing roles. 
  Confident behavior:  You make no secret of your unusual preferences in the long term - at least not in front of people you trust. 
 
 Many kinksters see themselves as curious, imaginative and empathetic. They feel that pain and pleasure, control and devotion, discipline and affection belong together in a special way. 
  Tip for beginners:  Write down your fantasies in bullet points - without self-censorship. Then mark what you can really imagine trying out in reality. This will help you separate fantasy kinks from your first realistic experiments. 
 Kinksters and relationships - be true to your kinks 
 If you want a steady relationship or even a family, it&#039;s important to take your kinky side seriously. If you&#039;re not a classic vanilla type, the need for kink, fetish or BDSM will resurface sooner or later. It&#039;s fairer for you and your partner if you know and accept this from the start. 
 This doesn&#039;t mean that you can&#039;t have a stable relationship - on the contrary. Many kinksters live fulfilled partnerships or marriages, some with children, others in open models or polyamory. It is crucial that your partner knows your needs and that you agree on boundaries, wishes and framework conditions. You can find more detailed information on open constellations in the guide to  polyamory &amp;amp; open relationships , for example. 
 Kink relationships can look very different: from monogamous D/s couples to FLR relationships to cuckold constellations or daddy kink. This may seem unusual to outsiders - for real kinksters, such dynamics are often particularly honest, loving and harmonious. 
  Advanced tip:  Talk openly with your partner about your most important priority: are you more interested in emotional closeness, the kink experience or both? This makes it easier to define suitable relationship models and boundaries, such as monogamy plus occasional sessions with a dominatrix or play partner. 
 It has to fit: Kink compatibility &amp;amp; communication 
  Not all kinksters are the same.  While you may dream of pet play or intense power play, your partner may be more attracted to soft role play, a little bondage or light spanking sessions. The decisive factor is whether your preferences overlap enough to make you both feel comfortable. 
 Clear agreements will help you with this: 
 
  Share preferences:  What turns you on? Which kinks are must-haves, which are just fantasy? 
  Set boundaries:  What is taboo? Which body zones or topics are absolutely off limits? 
  Install a safety net:  Establish a safeword that can be used to stop any situation immediately - especially important for harder practices, such as rape play fantasies or pain play. 
  Debrief:  A brief conversation after the session (aftercare) helps to sort out emotions, build closeness and strengthen trust. 
 
 Especially if you find different roles appealing, a look at the topic of switches can be helpful. In the  BDSM Switcher  guide, you can find out more about how to live changing roles in a healthy way. 
 Kinksters &amp;amp; everyday life: space for pleasure, responsibility &amp;amp; family 
 Many kinksters wonder how BDSM, fetishes and a kinky lifestyle can be reconciled with everyday life, a job and children. The good news is that this is possible if you consciously organize your needs. 
 
  Clear separation:  Everyday life remains everyday life - kinks have their protected playtime. 
  Discretion : Toys, outfits and BDSM furniture are stored safely and childproof. 
  Rituals:  Small D/s rituals, command and obedience elements or bondage games can be consciously integrated into your couple time. 
 
 For example, you can find inspiration in  daily BDSM rituals for couples  or the guide to  BDSM for couples with children . 
  Tip for the experienced:  If you live several dynamics at the same time (e.g. permanent partnership plus play partner), document boundaries, rules and safewords with each person separately. This will help you avoid misunderstandings, emotional overload and keep respect at the highest level. 
 Tips for all levels - Kinkster step by step 
 Level 1 - curious &amp;amp; first steps 
 Do you feel that you are kinky but have little experience? Deliberately start slowly: 
 
 Talk about fantasies first - without pressure to act on them immediately. 
 Start with soft role play, blindfolds, light bondage or gentle spanking strokes. 
 Use a clear safeword and a &quot;traffic light system&quot; (green = all good, yellow = more cautious, red = stop). 
 Inform yourself in BDSM knowledge articles before trying out new practices. 
 
 Level 2 - Kinkster in a committed relationship 
 This is where kink slowly becomes part of your everyday life: 
 
 Define whether you want to live a fixed D/s dynamic (e.g. FLR or TPE) - or keep kink more playful. 
 Plan fixed times for sessions so that kink doesn&#039;t &quot;accidentally&quot; go down. 
 Experiment with bondage, spanking, wetlook, role play or light CBT elements - always safe, clean and consensual. 
 Reflect regularly: Do you both feel seen, respected and emotionally safe? 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced kinksters &amp;amp; complex dynamics 
 If BDSM, power games and kinks are a stable part of your life, the challenges shift: 
 
 You consciously pay attention to  balance  between kink, emotion and everyday life. 
 You know your triggers and ensure psychological safety - even in intense scenarios. 
 You critically reflect on power imbalances and ensure that consensus is always maintained. 
 You take time for aftercare, breaks, mental hygiene and, if necessary, professional advice. 
 
 Role-playing step by step - depending on the level 
  Role play step by step - from soft play to an intense scene 
 
  Beginners:  Start with simple scenarios such as &quot;Strict teacher &amp;amp; naughty student&quot; or &quot;Controlled check-in&quot; (e.g. the dominant part asks about the day and gives small tasks). Use simple props such as eye masks or a soft crop. 
  Advanced:  Integrates clear roles (dom/sub), small rules and consequences. Combines role play with bondage, spanking or light control rituals - such as certain forms of address or dress codes at home. 
  Experienced:  Complex scenarios such as clinic games, pet play or cuckold dynamics require a lot of trust and preparation. Safewords, clear boundaries and debriefing are absolutely essential here. Physical and psychological safety always take priority over the &quot;perfect&quot; scene. 
 
 
 Self-acceptance: you can be a kinkster 
 The most important thing: your kinky side is not a flaw, but a part of you. Whether you swing back and forth between vanilla and kink or dive deep into BDSM - you have the right to live your sexuality in a self-determined way. At the same time, you are responsible: for your boundaries, for the boundaries of others and for consensual, safe encounters. 
 Take your time to find your own pace. With knowledge, clear communication and trust, as a  kinkster  you can live exactly what really fulfills you - intensely, sensually, respectfully and safely. 
 
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            <title type="text">FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy: Female dominance in the relationship</title>
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                                            There are a whole range of abbreviations in the BDSM field that can confuse beginners in this area. Especially when it comes to topics that are often only marginally related to a BDSM session itself. Some of these abbreviations are FLR and TPE. However, the role of Female Supr...
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                 When it comes to BDSM, you will quickly come across many abbreviations that can confuse beginners in particular. FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy sound like complex concepts - and in fact they describe forms of female dominance that can go far beyond a single session. This BDSM guide shows you how FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy can be practiced in a consensual, safe and fulfilling way. 
 It is always important to remember that all power games are based on consensus, trust and clear communication. Whether you just want to experiment curiously or live a permanent female-led relationship - you decide together how intensively FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy should become part of your everyday life. 
  More BDSM knowledge &amp;amp; inspiration: 
 
  7 important and helpful tips for BDSM beginners  
  Intimate BDSM relationships - dominance and submission in everyday life  
  The safeword in a BDSM setting  
  Daily BDSM rituals for couples  
 
 
 What is FLR? 
  FLR is the abbreviation for Female Led Relationship . The woman takes on the active leadership role - both partners negotiate the extent of this leadership individually. Couples often choose FLR when the male partner has a lot of responsibility at work and wants to let go in private. 
 An FLR can create a feeling of deep security for the sub: He is allowed to relinquish responsibility while his dominant partner makes decisions, defines rules and sets the framework.  The woman rewards her partner for their performance , sets tasks and can discipline them if necessary - for example through agreed BDSM elements such as spanking, bondage or orgasm control. 
 Many couples integrate other BDSM variations into a female led relationship. Feminization, chastity or bondage games can become part of the dynamic, but they don&#039;t have to. The decisive factor is that the woman sets the rules as a dominatrix or femdom and the man follows as a sub - always within the framework of what has been openly discussed and agreed beforehand. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start your FLR with a few clear rules, such as small everyday tasks or polite rituals. After a few days, talk openly about how the new distribution of roles feels for you - a safeword or stop signal also helps in everyday life if something suddenly becomes too much. 
 FLR in everyday life - from small gestures to fixed rituals 
 A female-led relationship doesn&#039;t have to be radical straight away. Many FLR couples start with symbolic gestures: for example, the woman determines who plans activities, which household tasks are taken on or how joint finances are organized. Over time, fixed rituals can develop from this - such as morning greeting rituals, reporting obligations or regular check-ins in which the sub talks about their tasks. 
 Some couples keep their FLR exclusively private, while others also live a visible dominance of the woman in public, for example through dress codes or certain forms of address. How visible your FLR can be is a very personal decision. You can find inspiration for your first power games in  Mistress and Slave - The Game of Dominance , for example. 
 What is TPE? 
 The abbreviation  TPE stands for Total Power Exchange . Unlike a more casual FLR, TPE describes a type of BDSM in which the power differential is largely or completely transferred to everyday life. The female dominance does not end with the safeword in the bedroom, but rather characterizes the entire relationship. 
 How a TPE actually takes shape can vary greatly. Some couples continue to play out classic BDSM scenes, while others live out their dominance and submission almost exclusively through everyday structures, rules and rituals. Elements such as chastity, orgasm control, household chores or keeping a chore or punishment book are frequently found. If you would like to find out more, you can find further suggestions in  D/s dynamics for couples . 
  Tip for advanced users:  If you want to try out TPE, start by defining &quot;islands of normality&quot; - times without power imbalances when you meet as equals. This way, you can test how intensively FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy do you good in your everyday life without putting you under constant pressure. 
 Female-led relationship in TPE 
 In many TPE relationships, the dominant woman makes important decisions in almost all areas of life.  She determines spending, manages the money, sets rules and assigns tasks . The submissive partner mainly takes on less popular tasks, organizes the household and makes sure that his mistress feels completely comfortable. 
 For the sub, this actively practiced power imbalance can mean deep emotional satisfaction - regardless of whether it is erotically charged at the time or not. At the same time, TPE demands a great sense of responsibility from the dominant partner: She not only holds the reins and power, but also keeps an eye on her sub&#039;s well-being and boundaries. 
 If both parties find fulfillment in a Total Power Exchange and can imagine a long-term life in this role model,  nothing stands in the way of a happy, stable relationship . Some couples combine TPE with cuckold or femdom fantasies - for example, by the man taking a back seat sexually and gaining pleasure primarily through servitude, chastity or observation. The important thing remains: Everything is based on consent and can be renegotiated at any time. 
 What is female supremacy? 
  Female Supremacy  - or female domination -  reverses the classic structures of patriarchy in fantasy  and places women radically at the center of relationships, sexuality and power. In its consistent form, it would be a counter-design to a male-dominated society - as a permanent social order, however, it is neither practicable nor truly equal. 
 In the context of BDSM and relationships, female supremacy is less a political subversion and more an  emotionally charged battle term and fantasy . Many FLR and TPE couples use it to describe their female-led relationship: The partner is at the center, her desires take priority, the sub subordinates himself devotedly and finds his pleasure precisely in this. 
 It is important to understand female supremacy as a consciously chosen role - not as the &quot;natural superiority&quot; of one gender. In FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy dynamics, both partners remain equal people with needs, boundaries and rights. You decide together when you are in the femdom mindset and when you meet at eye level in a completely &quot;vanilla&quot; way. 
 Limits and dangers of FLR, TPE and female supremacy 
 A female-led relationship is not dangerous in itself - but it can become problematic if power and responsibility are exercised unilaterally and without reflection. Especially with an extensive total power exchange, there is a risk that emotional, financial or physical boundaries will be crossed without the sub daring to address this. 
 This is why it is crucial to always consciously see the submissive partner as an independent person - with feelings, needs and a right to co-determination. Regular conversations in which you talk openly about overload, insecurities or new desires are essential. A safeword or clear stop signal should also be respected outside of the actual BDSM session. 
 Not every Dom or Femdom wants to take permanent responsibility for all areas. It is perfectly legitimate to consciously limit leadership roles, take breaks or relax the rules. The safety tips from  The individual safety in BDSM  help to maintain a balance, especially in the case of intense power imbalances. 
  Tip for experienced  BDSM practitioners: If you have been practising FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy for a long time, plan regular &quot;review meetings&quot; - about once a month. This is where you consciously review rules, taboos and obligations: What strengthens you, what feels too hard or too lax by now, what new fantasies may be added? 
 Tips for all levels - FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy step by step 
 Whether you are taking your first steps into a female led relationship or are already living in an intense TPE: This overview will help you find the right depth for your relationship. 
 Level 1 - curious beginners 
 
 Introduce small gestures: He brings coffee to the bed by default or checks in with his mistress at certain times. 
 Agree on clear, simple rules (e.g.&amp;nbsp;etiquette, clothing details, polite form of address) and evaluate them together after one to two weeks. 
 Start with light BDSM elements - such as gentle bondage games or rituals - and at the same time familiarize yourselves with the basics from a  BDSM guide for beginners . 
 
 Level 2 - experienced couples 
 
 Structure everyday tasks: The mistress assigns tasks and responsibilities, the sub reports regularly on progress. 
 Develop rituals around chastity, orgasm control or servitude - always with clearly defined taboos and stop options. 
 Keep a small rule or punishment book together in which rewards and consequences are lovingly but bindingly recorded. 
 
 Level 3 - 24/7 lifestyle &amp;amp; intensive D/s dynamics 
 
 Put financial, organizational and sexual decisions more in the hands of the mistress - only if both are really comfortable with it. 
 Formulate long-term goals: What form of FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy do you want to be living in a year&#039;s time? What steps do you need to take until then? 
 Schedule regular breaks and &quot;vanilla days&quot; to ground your relationship and prevent excessive demands. 
 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - gentle femdom date night:  The mistress chooses clothes, music and menu, the sub serves, gives and follows simple instructions. After the game, you talk about feelings and boundaries. 
  Level 2 - Household rituals &amp;amp; rewards:  The sub receives a weekly list of tasks and rituals (e.g.&amp;nbsp;foot massage, massage evening). If he fulfills them, there are rewards - if he violates them, you agree on loving and strict consequences. 
  Level 3 - structured 24/7 role life:  You define fixed daily rituals (morning report, evening report, duty times), combine them with selected BDSM elements and record everything in writing. After each intensive phase, there is a detailed debriefing and emotional aftercare. 
 
 Conclusion: Living female dominance consciously and lovingly 
 FLR, TPE and Female Supremacy offer you the opportunity to explore female dominance in all its facets - from playful moments of power to permanently practiced role models. The decisive factor is not how &quot;consistent&quot; you are, but how respectfully you treat each other. If you communicate openly, pay attention to each other and regularly reflect on your BDSM dynamics, a female-led relationship can deepen your partnership, strengthen your trust and ignite your shared lust in a whole new way. 
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            <title type="text">Sadism as part of sadomasochism: Understand the dynamics.</title>
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                                            Slut is by no means always a negative thing. Yes, it can be an insult. But it can also be meant in a positive way when it comes to sexual matters. In this short blog post, we would like to enlighten you about the term slut in BDSM.
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                 Sadism is a term that has many facets - from everyday meanness to consciously experienced sexual pleasure. In the BDSM context, however, sadism does not mean violence without control, but  consensual play with pain, power and intensity . The focus is on pleasure, arousal, trust and a dynamic that only works if both parties are safe, informed and emotionally stable. 
 Sadism is multi-layered: some feel pleasure in inflicting pain, others in receiving it. The important thing is:  In BDSM, pleasure only arises when all participants take part voluntarily and consent boundaries are strictly adhered to.  
 What is sadism? 
 Sadism describes the  desire to be subjected to pain or intense stimuli  - physically or emotionally. The term was coined in the 19th century, derived from the writer Marquis de Sade. Today, modern psychology makes a clear distinction between pathological sadism and  consensual, playful sadism in BDSM . 
 Sexual sadism within BDSM is  not an illness . It is based on consensuality, rules and the search for intense pleasure. The &quot;sadist&quot; does not follow a destructive impulse, but consciously moves within a framework that protects the other person and increases mutual arousal. 
 What is a sadist? 
 A sadist in the BDSM context feels arousal, satisfaction or emotional uplift when they are allowed to inflict controlled pain, dominance or psychological stimulation on the submissive partner. A sadist in a  consensual context  is by no means a &quot;bad person&quot; - he takes responsibility, leads safely, knows boundaries and pays close attention to the physical and emotional reactions of his counterpart. 
 Sadists may prefer physical or psychological stimuli: 
 
  Physical sadism:  hitting, restraints, scratching, needle play, pressure, heat/cold. 
  Psychological sadism:  power games, verbal provocation, humiliation (only consensual!). 
 
 What all forms have in common is that  pleasure is never gained against the will of the other person . 
 Different forms of sadism 
 Sadism is not a single fetish, but a spectrum: 
 
  Sexual sadism:  part of BDSM, associated with arousal, rituals, roles and technical safety. 
  Psychological sadism:  dominance through words and mental games - never uncontrolled or hurtful in everyday life. 
  Compensatory sadism:  not a BDSM practice, but a substitute for a non-existent sex life - this is not considered healthy SM, but problematic. 
 
 Only  sexual sadism in the context of BDSM  is a playful, controlled experience. The other two forms can be dangerous or destructive. 
 Sadist in the BDSM field - sexual sadism 
 Sexual sadism can be very intense. It thrives on tension, pain, power and deep connection. Typical practices can include 
 
 Restraints, percussive instruments, whip, paddles 
 electrical stimuli 
 Choking (only  with caution and experience ) 
 dominant postures and fixations 
 Role-playing games such as power games or delimited rape play fantasies 
 
 Such practices require  specific knowledge of anatomy, psyche and boundaries . The sadist assumes the leadership role and is responsible for safety and emotional stability. 
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  Tip for beginners:  Start with mild stimuli: gentle blows, light restraints, clearly defined taboo zones and a safeword.  Tip for advanced users:  Combine techniques such as restraints and impact. Talk about intensity scales in advance and consciously plan for aftercare.  Tip for experienced users:  Work with complex role-playing games, controlled pain rituals and emotional power games - but always with check-ins and deep trust. 
 Non-sexual sadism 
 Psychological sadism without a sexual context  does not  belong in the BDSM area. It takes place in everyday life and has nothing to do with consensual play. Such a person humiliates, hurts or controls others in order to feel better about themselves - this can create dangerous and abusive dynamics. 
 Examples: 
 
 Bullying 
 exposing 
 emotional blackmail 
 systematic oppression 
 
 This is  not BDSM , but destructive behavior. There is no consensus here. 
 Compensatory sadism 
 Here, sadism replaces the actual sex life - it is not consensual BDSM, but a  pathological displacement . In such cases, professional help is urgently recommended. BDSM always has a shared relationship to pleasure - compensatory sadism, on the other hand, is an expression of deeper disorders. 
 Causes of sadism 
 Why someone develops sadistic tendencies is not fully understood. Possible factors include 
 
 biographical experiences or traumas 
 Processing insecurities 
 Curiosity about power and control 
 psychological structures or imprints 
 
 With BDSM-oriented sadists, however, this is not relevant in the medical sense - it is less about the cause and more about the  conscious, mature shaping of consensual sexuality . 
 When sadism becomes a danger 
 Sadism ends where control, consensus or safety are lost. A sadist bears responsibility for the masochist - both physically and emotionally. If this role is disregarded, it can lead to serious injuries or psychological overload. 
   
 Therefore: 
 
  Traffic light/safeword system  is mandatory. 
 Stop means immediate termination. 
 Sadists must have basic anatomical knowledge. 
 Masochists need a stable psyche and clear boundaries. 
 
 Anyone who notices that their sadism is &quot;slipping away&quot; or tipping over into violent behavior should definitely seek professional help. BDSM is a game - real violence is a punishable offense and an expression of a disorder that requires treatment. 
  Tips for all levels - experiencing sadism safely    Level 1 - Beginners:  - Define pain scales (1-10). - Define physical &quot;green zones&quot; (thighs, bottom), mark taboo areas. - Use light tools (paddle, flogger) and always ask questions.   Level 2 - Advanced:  - Increase intensity, integrate electric toys and restraints. - Establish rituals to clearly define roles. - Ritualize aftercare: Physical contact, water, aftercare talk.   Level 3 - Experienced:  - Combine complex role play, controlled excessive demands and psychological stimuli. - Conscious power play, but with clear out options. - Regular check-ins to ensure emotional stability. 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginners:  - Dominant voice, light commands, mild impact play. - Scenes not too long, write down boundaries and taboos beforehand.   Level 2 - Advanced:  - Scenarios with tools (restraints, floggers, clamps). - Sadist decides &quot;how much&quot; - sub decides &quot;how long&quot; using a safe signal.   Level 3 - Experienced:  - Incorporate psychological games (e.g. expectations, delay, language). - More intense pain games only with absolute trust. - An emotional reset follows each play phase. 
  Discover suitable categories:   Spanking &amp;amp; impact toys  -  Restraints &amp;amp; fixations  -  Clinic &amp;amp; pain play  
  Conclusion:  Sadism in BDSM is a game between lust, power and trust - never an invitation to real violence. Anyone who understands the dynamics, respects boundaries and takes responsibility can experience sadomasochism as intense, fulfilling and emotionally profound eroticism. 
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                            <updated>2022-01-27T13:30:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Slut as a symbol of sexual freedom and self-determination</title>
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                                            Slut is by no means always a negative thing. Yes, it can be an insult. But it can also be meant in a positive way when it comes to sexual matters. In this short blog post, we would like to enlighten you about the term slut in BDSM.
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                 &quot;Slut&quot; is by no means always something negative. Yes, the term can be used as an insult - but in the BDSM context, it has a completely different, self-determined meaning for many people. In this guide, we shed light on what &quot;slut&quot; really means in BDSM and why the term can stand for pleasure, freedom and conscious surrender. 
 What is a slut? 
 In BDSM, &quot;slut&quot; describes a person who lives their sexuality openly, actively and without social shame. A slut enjoys being desired, surrendering and living out erotic fantasies - voluntarily, consciously and with clear boundaries. The decisive factor is not excess, but self-determination. 
 The term is not gender-specific: women, men and non-binary people can identify as a slut. It is not a fixed role, but a sexual attitude that can take on both dominant and submissive facets. 
  Tip for beginners:  Define for yourself what &quot;slut&quot; means. It&#039;s about your pleasure - not the expectations of others. Communication protects against misunderstandings. 
 Slut - meaning &amp;amp; translation 
 &quot;Slut&quot; is an English word and is often translated as &quot;bitch&quot;. Historically, this was meant to be derogatory. In the BDSM and sex-positive context, however, the term is deliberately used in a new way - as an act of self-empowerment. 
 From an erotic point of view, being a slut does not mean a loss of morals, but a conscious decision to place pleasure above social norms. Many sluts enjoy kinky sex, role play and power shifts - always consensual and respectful. 
 More about roles &amp;amp; self-definition:  Discover BDSM knowledge  
 Slut as a symbol of sexual freedom 
 In BDSM, &quot;slut&quot; often stands for sexual freedom and self-determination. Describing yourself in this way can be liberating: a conscious &quot;yes&quot; to your own lust, your own body and your individual fantasies. Boundaries are not removed - they become clearer. 
 Many people experience intense closeness, emotional openness and a strong feeling of acceptance in the slut role. Shame gives way to pride, insecurity becomes pleasure. 
  Tip for advanced users:  work with rituals or trigger words. They help you to consciously switch between everyday life and the slut role. 
 What is a sissy slut? 
 &quot;Sissy&quot; is a BDSM term that often stands for deliberate effeminacy or feminized devotion. A sissy slut combines this role with pronounced devotion, a desire to serve and erotic submission. 
 Sissy sluts are often found in role-playing games such as pet play, cuckolding, femdom or rope play. Important: Absolute consensuality, clear rules and respectful communication also apply here. 
  Tip for experienced players:  Use fixed rules, clothing rituals or names to deepen the sissy-slut dynamic emotionally. 
 Tips for all levels - Slut step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginners:  First role play, clear safewords, short sessions, focus on trust.  Level 2 - Advanced:  Longer scenes, humiliation or praise elements, fixed rules.  Level 3 - Experienced:  Deep role identity, psychological dynamics, rituals and intensive aftercare. 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginners:  Name the role, clarify expectations, define safeword, gentle introduction.  Level 2 - Advanced:  Integrate clothing, language and tasks, longer duration.  Level 3 - Experienced:  Psychological depth, emotional control, recurring rituals. 
 &quot;Slut&quot; in BDSM is not a stigma, but can be a powerful symbol of sexual freedom. Respect, consensuality and the courage to define your own pleasure are crucial. 
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                            <updated>2022-01-27T08:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">From beginner to masochism expert: tips and tricks</title>
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                                            Masochism belongs to the BDSM category. It is a preference that not everyone can understand. Everything is different with this preference. Not even the word comes from English or Latin, as usual. It is a derivation of the author&#039;s name Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. He achieved gr...
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                 Masochism is a fascinating, often misunderstood part of the BDSM world. For some it remains mysterious, for others it is a deeply felt source of pleasure, devotion and inner peace. Unlike many terms in the erotic scene, the word goes back to the writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. 
 In his work &quot;Venus in Fur&quot;, he described the devoted submission of a man to a dominant woman - aesthetic, intense and emotionally charged. Pain, power and devotion do not appear raw, but as consciously experienced longing. This is precisely where the core of masochism lies today: in the pleasurable experience of pain, control and deep trust. 
 What does masochism mean in BDSM? 
 Masochism describes the tendency to experience physical or emotional pain as pleasurable, liberating or arousing. It is not about suffering in the classic sense, but about consciously chosen stimuli within a safe, consensual framework. Pain becomes a tool - for pleasure, release and emotional depth. 
 For a long time, masochism was considered pathological. This view is outdated. Since 2013, masochism has no longer been classified as a mental disorder, but recognized as a sexual preference, provided it is lived out consensually, responsibly and without self-harm. 
  Tip for beginners:  masochism doesn&#039;t start with pain, but with trust. Clarify desires, fears, boundaries and safewords before intensity arises. 
 More basics &amp;amp; inspiration:  discover BDSM knowledge  
 The masochist - devotion, control and pleasure 
 A masochist is not weak - on the contrary. The conscious decision to relinquish control and allow pain requires courage, self-knowledge and communication. Some experience strong sexual arousal, others a meditative state, intense closeness or emotional cleansing. 
 Masochism can be physical - for example through beatings, pressure or electrical stimulation - but also psychological, through words, humiliation or strict rules. The decisive factor is always that everything is voluntary, consensual and respectful. 
  Tip for advanced users:  Reflect on each session in the aftertalk. This deepens trust and raises awareness of needs and boundaries. 
 Self-experienced pain - solo masochism 
 Masochistic sensations can also be explored alone. Controlled stimuli using clamps, weights or intense sensory stimuli allow you to consciously feel your own body. Breaks, body awareness and self-care are essential. 
  Tip for the experienced:  Combine stimuli with breathing techniques or fixed rituals - this creates depth instead of mere intensity. 
 Causes of masochism - myths and reality 
 There is no clear cause. Earlier theories sought triggers in childhood or trauma - these assumptions have not been scientifically proven. Today, masochism is considered to be an individual predisposition with many forms of expression. 
 Self-awareness is crucial: if the addiction enriches your life and everything is consensual, it is healthy. Support can be helpful if you are suffering. 
 The sadist - responsibility in dominance 
 In BDSM, the masochist often encounters a sadist - the active, dominant part. Sadism here means responsible control. The dominant part reads body language, respects boundaries and is responsible for safety and well-being. 
 Tools are a means to an end - mindfulness, presence and control are crucial. 
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 Deepening on power &amp;amp; roles:  BDSM &amp;amp; Bondage  
 Sadomasochism - when opposites complement each other 
 Sadomasochism (SM) describes the consensual interplay between the pleasure of inflicting pain and the pleasure of receiving it. Clear agreements, safewords and aftercare are essential. True intensity is not created by crossing boundaries, but by consciously playing at the boundaries. 
  Tips for all levels - Masochism step by step:   Level 1 - Beginners:  Gentle stimuli, short sessions, lots of communication.  Level 2 - Advanced:  Longer sessions, rituals, combining physical &amp;amp; mental play.  Level 3 - Experienced:  Deep power structures, psychological dynamics, intensive aftercare. 
  Role play step by step - depending on the level:   Level 1 - Beginners:  Clear roles, simple scenario, set safeword.  Level 2 - Advanced:  Rules, rituals, tools and longer dynamics.  Level 3 - Experienced:  Psychological depth, emotional control, recurring rituals. 
 Masochism in BDSM is not an end in itself. It is a path to intense closeness, self-knowledge and consciously lived pleasure - supported by respect, responsibility and trust. 
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                            <updated>2022-01-25T08:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Edging - Experience mega orgasms: how it works</title>
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                                            Edging Games can take place in many different ways. It is integrated into other sex practices. For example, this sex technique is often used in cuckolding or other domination games.
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  Edging  comes from the English and means edge - in a figurative sense, it is about the  edge  just before orgasm. With this technique, the climax is deliberately delayed, postponed or even &quot;ruined&quot;. Playing with this limit is intense: pleasure builds up, is lowered again, rises again - until the final orgasm discharges through the body like a small explosion. Or - if ruined - not. 
 Edging can be used solo, with a partner or as part of  BDSM and domination games . The decisive factors are:  consent, safety, communication  and a loving relationship with yourself. 
 A little Edging guide 
  Edging Games  can be played in many ways. The technique is often incorporated into other practices - such as cuckolding, femdom scenarios or dominance and control games in general. However, you can also use the technique as a solo ritual to get to know your body better and experience more intense orgasms. 
 A little Edging guide: 
 
 You or your partner stimulates you - hand, mouth, toys, fantasies, porn. 
 You consciously approach the &quot;point of no return&quot; - the point at which you normally come. 
 Shortly before this, the stimulation is  stopped or greatly reduced . 
 You breathe, come down a little without getting completely &quot;cold&quot;. 
 Then everything starts all over again - for several rounds. 
 
 If you like it more intense, you can take part in  challenges  such as the well-known &quot;Locktober&quot; (a month without orgasm). But be careful: such long-term challenges are more suitable for  very experienced  and mentally stable people. A few minutes or hours of orgasm control is enough to get you started. 
  Edging is a great technique for experiencing mega intense orgasms  - as long as you are respectful of your limits. 
  Tip for beginners:  Start with short sessions of 15-20 minutes. Bring yourself close to orgasm 2-3 times and then stop. Only let go during the last session. Do Edging every 2-3 days at most so that your body and mind get used to it. 
 Start-stop method 
 The  start-stop method  is a classic at Edging. It works with your hand, mouth, toys or even during sex. Idea: You always consciously go back from &quot;almost too much&quot; to &quot;just aroused&quot;. 
 
 Start: Build up arousal - e.g. through rhythmic stimulation. 
 Stop: As soon as you realize &quot;now it&#039;s getting critical&quot;, the stimulation is stopped or greatly reduced. 
 Pause: Breathe deeply, possibly change position, think about something else. 
 Then start again - until you decide it&#039;s time for the final orgasm. 
 
 The same technique can also be used to provoke  ruined orgasms : You are deliberately taken past the point of no return, but &quot;slowed down&quot; so hard that the orgasm comes, but can feel empty, incomplete or frustrated. In a BDSM context, this can be an exciting game of power and control - but should only be practiced with a  clear agreement and good mental stability . 
  Tip for advanced users:  Try Edging with a partner as a &#039;tease &amp;amp; denial&#039; ritual: the dominant person decides when to stimulate, when to stop and whether to allow orgasm at all. Set a safeword and also a &quot;stop point&quot; at which you end the game if it becomes too much emotionally. 
 Chastity cage - Edging with chastity 
 You can also delay your orgasm in other ways - in particular by using  chastity with Chastity cage . This shifts some of the control from your &#039;will&#039; to your body itself. 
 You don&#039;t necessarily need a partner for this -  solo chastity  is also possible. However, a controlling key person can make the experience much more intense. 
  A gentle introduction:  
 
 You carry on with your everyday life as normal. 
 If you notice that your lust, fantasies or desire for porn are particularly strong,  put the cage on . 
 Your penis can now not fully erect and is protected from spontaneous masturbation. 
 If you have the key yourself, it is a game with your discipline - if you give it away, there is a clear power imbalance. 
 
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 Important:  Safety rules  also apply to penis cages. Pay attention to hygiene, a good fit, pressure points and blood circulation. If something hurts, becomes numb or is very dark in color, take the cage off and give your body a break. 
  Popular toys for Edging &amp;amp; orgasm control:   Chastity cages &amp;amp; chastity   cockring &amp;amp; cock rings   CBT &amp;amp; Cock &amp;amp; Ball Toys   Masturbators for soloEdging  
 Orgasm control &amp;amp; chastity 
 When you are finally allowed to &quot;release&quot; yourself after days or even weeks, the orgasm can be incredibly intense: Your body has built up tension, fantasies have been stoked, your head may have been constantly circling around pleasure - and now everything is allowed to flow freely. 
  Chastity and Edging often feel like erotic torture : a mixture of agony, longing and inner expansion. Many people who consciously experience this quickly realize that a simple, quick orgasm feels almost &quot;flat&quot; in comparison. 
 Nice at Edging: You can experience it  alone or with a partner  - and gradually build up to it: 
 
 Solo: self-control, distraction, breathing techniques, possibly a Chastity cage. 
 With a partner: tease &amp;amp; denial, anticipating orgasms, playing with power and asking for &quot;release&quot;. 
 Increase from individual sessions over several hours to days or (for the very experienced) weeks of chastity. 
 
 Good for the soul - but not without danger 
 Chastity and intensive Edging can have  strong psychological effects . Many people experience phases of calm, meditative states, a &quot;pleasure rush&quot; without orgasm, but also moments of frustration, anger, fear or excitement. 
 You can get to know yourself anew: your pleasure, your limits, your relationship to control and surrender. Many people realize that sexuality is much more than a brief climax - and that building up tension, closeness and emotional processes have their very own appeal. 
 Possible dangers - physical &amp;amp; psychological 
 Despite all the fascination:  Edging and chastity are not harmless . Playing with intoxication can turn into a low point. Sometimes so-called &quot;drops&quot; occur - emotional crashes that can leave you feeling sad, empty or irritable. These can also occur  days later . 
 Therefore: 
 
 Only practice intensive Edging alone if you are in a stable mental state. 
 In a BDSM context, the dominant person must know that  aftercare  is  mandatory : catch you, hold you, talk to you, encourage you. 
 If you notice that you are permanently sad, listless or depressed,  take a break , talk to your partner - and get professional support if in doubt. 
 
 Physically, you should look out for warning signs: severe pain, numbness, tingling, discoloration or problems urinating are always a reason to stop and seek medical advice if in doubt. 
 Tips for all levels - Edging step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginners:  - 1-2 Edging sessions per week, max. 20-30 minutes. - Push yourself to the limit 2-3 times, then come normally. - No long orgasmic abstinence, but focus on getting to know your &quot;point of no return&quot;. 
  Level 2 - Advanced:  - Longer sessions, possibly several hours with breaks. - Incorporate 1-3 days without orgasm. - Tease &amp;amp; denial with partner: release only on command, plan safeword and follow-up talk. 
  Level 3 - Experienced:  - Several days or several weeks of chastity with Chastity cage. - Integrate rituals (e.g. daily checks, messages, instructions). - Challenge formats such as Locktober only with a stable psyche, clear rules, aftercare and the option to stop at any time. 
 Conclusion: Edging - intensive play with the boundaries 
  Edgingorgasm control and chastity  can open up completely new aspects of your pleasure: Mega orgasms, deep inner processes, an intense experience of surrender and control. At the same time, they require awareness, responsibility and respect for your body and soul. 
 If you pay careful attention to your signals, communicate openly and give yourself enough space for aftercare and breaks, Edging can become a powerful, pleasurable and amazingly emotional part of your sexuality - alone or with someone you trust. 
 
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            <title type="text">What is golden shower? We explain you the golden shower</title>
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                                            Golden shower is an alternative name for urine. This term is mainly used by the people who like to get aroused by this body fluid during sexual games. The number of these people
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                 Golden shower is an alternative term for urine. This term is mainly used by people who like to be aroused by this body fluid during sexual games. The  preference for  this    Sexual practice    is also called  urophilia . The number of these people, if you believe the general observations and data of the porn scene, is increasing significantly. 
  Let you taste the golden shower  
 However, there are again clear differences in the respective orientation. While some people are already aroused when they watch other people urinate, others want to come into contact with the urine. These people like to be urinated on directly by their partner or even drink the golden shower. 
   
  Golden Shower - A shower of golden shower   
 Golden shower games come in many variations. You can play it out as a couple or even as a real group. It is a great feeling to be peed on by your partner. But enjoy also a real shower. 
 In such games, good protection and the right environment is enormously important. Since many couples want to enjoy the golden shower games also in the bedroom, they have special bed sheets made of rubber or latex for these games, which protect the bed, for example. Thus, these games can be lived out without any problems.     Basically, the games with golden shower fall under the concept of sexual fetish, since neither the activity of urination nor the urine itself have sexual components. The satisfaction is thus drawn from the fetish itself and has no direct reference to the sexual organs, even if these are used in this fetish quite and clearly.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; 
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  Do not simply pee  
 Please do not just pee. It always requires the permission of your partner. Find out beforehand if he shares your fetish. If you&#039;re both unsure, get in the shower and simply mix your urine stream with the one from the shower. 
  If it is not for you, the urine is quickly washed away.  If you both like it, the shower can stay off next time. Please practice the Golden Shower fetish only if you are healthy. Many diseases can be transmitted by urine. 
 FAQ 
 What is to be considered with the Golden Shower? 
 If you want to give a Golden Shower, i.e. pee on your partner, you should make sure that your partner really wants it. In addition, you have to prepare well, drink plenty of water so that your urine is not too concentrated and you can pee sufficiently. 
 In addition, concentrated urine often smells unpleasant. Unpleasant urine smells can quickly ruin lovemaking. You also need to pay attention to what you eat. Foods such as asparagus are excreted through urine. 
 Golden shower asparagus 
 Anyone who has eaten asparagus will have noticed that the urine smells like a freshly cooked asparagus soup. Some people might like this, but it rarely happens with this sexual practice.   Last but not least, make sure you only hit the body parts with your urine that have been identified in advance.     If you are the one who receives the golden shower, then you just need to make sure to position yourself accordingly to enjoy the great shower. You can also catch it with a cup or drink the urine directly. 
 It is important that you protect your eyes. Urine stings the eyes and must be rinsed out with an appropriate amount of water.   You can practice at your leisure which positions you are most confident with. For some, porn is also a good aid. 
 Can I drink urine? 
 Yes, there is nothing against drinking golden shower. It is even said to be good for the skin. In the past, it was part of medicine to drink your own urine. Meanwhile, however, this is somewhat controversial and there is no proven effect. 
 However, you should rather refrain from drinking golden shower if you are currently taking medication or have a weakened immune system. In addition, the woman or man who donates the great sparkling wine should be absolutely healthy. 
 Is golden shower dangerous 
 Golden shower is loved by many fetishists and sparks pure lust. In and of itself, the urine is not dangerous, as long as all participants are perfectly healthy. It is only necessary to make sure that there are no open sores, as it burns and can lead to inflammation. In addition, the eyes should be well protected. Here, too, the urine burns and can lead to severe pain and inflammation. 
 How do I get it to go on command? 
 It is not easy for everyone to urinate on command. Whether you are a woman or a man, your bladder should be full. Only a full bladder can empty powerfully in a high arc. You should not be sexually aroused, because the desire blocks the bladder and prevents the Lospullern. When aroused, urination can be painful.   In women, urine can be easily elicited by vaginal fingering and applying appropriate pressure to the bladder from the inside. 
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                            <updated>2022-01-19T12:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text"> Locktober - on into a chaste month!</title>
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                                            Locktober sounds a little like a sale or something similar. But it is rather a renunciation, something like Lent, but somehow also quite different. You can still eat and drink anything you want. There is only one thing you are not allowed to do during Locktober: have sex, jerk...
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                 Locktober sounds a little like a sale or something similar. But it is rather a renunciation, something like Lent, but somehow also quite different. You can still eat and drink anything you want. 
 There is only one thing you are not allowed to do during Locktober: have sex, jerk off, or find sexual climax in any other way. In short, your thing will be locked away! 
 Chastity in October 
 Some people go on physical detox cures for a month, others go on a diet or they abstain from TV, internet and co. Then there are people who are a bit kinky and participate in BDSM challenges. Schwupps, they get into the Locktober and are brought to the gasp attitude. 
 For the complete month of October, it&#039;s now have no sex, find no release. Excitement moments will be plentiful in the month, but that does the man no good if he has no way to experience orgasm. The 4-week chastity brings a lot to the man and also to the eventual partner. 
 Permanent chastity 
 Permanent chastity eventually sends the man into a real frenzy. He is full of sperm and wants to discharge. Sex becomes enthusiastic, special and really wild! The body of the partner is perceived more intensely than ever before.     Chastity men is one thing, chastity women, however, is not excluded. Often, the ladies suffer even more than the men. 
 Methods of chastisement and their challenges 
 Depending on how well it goes in the 31 days, different methods of chastity maintenance can be tried. In the beginning, mental chastisement should work well. At some point, however, the month seems to drag on endlessly and the urge to touch increases. This is when chastity belts and penis cages take hold perfectly. 
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 Locktober Challenge 
 Now, in addition, there are also different challenge methods. The online chastity can be defined differently. Thus, the Locktober can prohibit only the orgasm, or the complete sexual arousal. The latter is particularly difficult, because sooner or later everyone has sex in the head and this is then also directly noticeable in the whole body. Here the fasting part has to show extra strength. 
 Tease &amp;amp; Denial 
 In addition, various challenges can also be set. So the partner could use some tease &amp;amp; denial to really corner the part to be kept chaste, and make it more difficult to keep up.   In some BDSM Locktober Challenges, however, the man may even have an orgasm. 
 However, this may not be accompanied by sexual pleasure and must be forced by the partner. A so-called Ruin Orgasm. The sperm can be milked, with the help of prostate massage. For this purpose, appropriate vibrators could be taken to help.   [Emotion emotion_id=&quot;394&quot; ]  Apart from chastity, the game in the challenge period can be made even more encouraging. Thus, more complex fetish practices can be brought in. The chastity games can be extended with the chaste part experiencing humiliation, punishment and lots of domination. 
 It would be the perfect time to make the man a cuckold. This way, the wife gets to act out completely, in front of the eyes of the submissive man, who is probably almost begging for redemption. 
 Experience redemption and pride 
 The Locktober offers a set schedule for chastity. The Orgasm Locktober Challenge lasts for 31 days. During this time, each man will live out one of his toughest battles with himself. After a few days, you will feel a permanent desire in the relationship. You will have an almost compulsive urge to have sex, to be allowed to come. However, you are not allowed to! At the latest in this phase a penis cage makes sense! 
 The permanent desire 
 But the permanent lust will pass. You will find your inner center, feel a whole new depth of body and mind. You might even get into a kind of meditation that brings you and your soul into harmony, You will find that the orgasm becomes secondary. But don&#039;t worry, once the month is over, your best friend will be standing like one and can&#039;t wait to get going. 
 Challenge 
 Redemption is an absolute highlight for you. You have now been allowed to experience your soul and body in a whole new way for a long time. This is also transferred to your orgasm, which you will now perceive intensified and with a special intensity. Last but not least, you will find release and feel a lot of pride because you have overcome difficult moments and held out for so long. 
 Internet makes it possible 
 Challenges like these are made possible by the Internet. Thanks to various online platforms, such orgasm challenges are already very widespread. At least on the corresponding BDSM forums. 
 Research leads back to 2015, where this Locktober Challenge started gaining popularity. Also on everyday platforms like Twitter, Youtube or Instagram #Locktober- can be found. There is also one or the other Locktober Challenge blog to be found on the net. 
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            <title type="text">Brat BDSM - Snot brat who needs education</title>
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                                            Brat is a very obscure word, at least for laymen. In the BDSM scene, however, it is an everyday word, a very popular sex practice. It is a term that comes from the English language. The Brat translation is naughty or spoiled. It is also known as bratty.
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                 Brat is often a puzzling term for outsiders - in the BDSM scene, however, it stands for a very lively, naughty game with power, resistance and devotion. A Brat is submissive, but not &quot;well-behaved&quot;. She provokes, teases and tests boundaries in order to feel the leadership of her counterpart - the Brat Tamer. In this guide, you&#039;ll find out what makes a Brat, how Brat Taming works and how you can make this dynamic safe, respectful and pleasurable. 
 What is a brat? 
 Basically, a Brat is a submissive personality. She is a sub - but not one who obeys quietly and without talking back. A Brat is cheeky, playful, defiant and rebellious. She questions instructions, teases her Dom or Domme, contradicts, tests boundaries - not to destroy the relationship, but to consciously feel the power imbalance. 
 so being &quot;Bratty&quot; means: submitting in the end anyway, but spicing up the way there with rebelliousness, humor and provocative cheekiness. A good Brat knows exactly how far she can go - and how she can then subordinate herself again with relish. 
 Brat Tamer - who tames the cheeky one? 
 The perfect counterpart to the Brat is the Brat Tamer. This is usually a dominant partner who can deal with cheeky rebelliousness without losing control. A Brat Tamer remains calm, consistent and creative - he doesn&#039;t let himself be thrown off course, but uses the Brat&#039;s behavior to make the game more exciting. 
 His task is to set clear boundaries, enforce rules and catch the Brat again with appropriate consequences, &quot;punishments&quot; or tasks - always amicably, always within the previously discussed limits. 
  Suitable categories for Brat &amp;amp; Brat Tamer:   Spanking &amp;amp; percussion instruments   Handcuffs &amp;amp; Bondage   Masks &amp;amp; role play  
 Creative, consistent - but always safe 
 You can be incredibly creative with a Brat. Cheekiness, minor disrespect and provocative gestures are all part of the game. The important thing is that everything happens deliberately, planned and within clear boundaries. 
 Instead of real aggression, it&#039;s about staged resistance. A Brat Tamer can react with bondage, spanking, control games or tasks, for example&amp;nbsp;. Sometimes it is a firm grip, sometimes a certain look, sometimes a playful, agreed &quot;punishment&quot; such as kneeling, counting, writing or performing certain services. If you want to use harsher methods such as whips or electric toys, you need experience, knowledge and very clear agreements. 
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  Tip for beginners:  Start with verbal consequences and easy tasks (e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. &quot;You count 20 strokes out loud for me now&quot;) before resorting to physical means.   Tip for advanced players:  Use targeted spanking, bondage or control games as a reaction to naughtiness - always with a safeword and clear agreement on intensity.   Tip for experienced players:  Develop complex scenarios with rules, &quot;point systems&quot; or rituals in which naughtiness and punishment are part of a larger dynamic. 
 What you need to watch out for as a Brat 
 If you want to be a brat, you need a sure instinct. A good Brat creates a balance between devotion and rebelliousness. If you are only submissive, you lack that special appeal. If you are only defensive, you will create stress instead of pleasure. 
 It is helpful to define together what &quot;naughty&quot; means in the game: teasing, countering, pushing boundaries slightly - yes. Personal insults, really hurtful words or uncontrolled aggression - no. You want to challenge your tamer, not really hurt them. 
 As a beginner, it can help to agree on a specific word or gesture that makes it clear: now is the point at which you consciously submit. That way, you won&#039;t miss the moment when the game changes from &quot;cheeky&quot; to &quot;led&quot;. 
 Traffic light words / safe words are essential for your own safety. &quot;Green&quot; - all good, &quot;yellow&quot; - slow down, less, &quot;red&quot; - stop immediately. This way, even a loud, cheeky Brat can clearly signal what is still game and where the end is. 
 What you need to watch out for as a Brat Tamer 
 As a Brat Tamer, you need calm, clarity and a stable inner attitude. Your Brat is testing you - but not to destroy you, but to feel your strength and leadership. If you get loud, lose your temper or react personally offended, trust will suffer. 
 Your most important tasks are 
 
 formulate clear rules, 
 Discuss consequences in advance, 
 Take safety and taboos seriously, 
 Monitor your brat&#039;s emotions carefully, 
 and respect the safeword immediately. 
 
 Consequences can be intense, strict and sometimes painful - but never uncontrolled or arbitrary. A Brat loves it when you have the upper hand without ever compromising their dignity or safety. 
  Further inspiration:   CBT &amp;amp; controlled stimuli   Paddles &amp;amp; percussion instruments  
 Little games even with &quot;normal couples&quot; 
 Brat dynamics don&#039;t just have to take place in the hardcore BDSM scene. Couples without a deep fetish background can also experiment with naughty power games. A partner who teases her partner, deliberately teases him and giggles to escape can playfully become a brat. The partner reacts with a firm grip, a swing on the bed or a &quot;That&#039;s enough - you listen to my command&quot;. 
 As long as everything is consensual, you laugh, feel comfortable and have clear stop signals, a touch of &quot;Brat &amp;amp; Tamer&quot; can make your sexuality more lively and playful. A little kink doesn&#039;t hurt - it can even deepen closeness, intimacy and trust. 
 Tips for all levels - Brat Taming step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginner: 
 
 Light naughtiness (countering, teasing) and simple, clear commands. 
 Small consequences such as kneeling, counting, repeating certain phrases. 
 Establish a safeword or traffic light system right from the start. 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Spanking, restraints or eye masks in response to rebelliousness. 
 Define rules (e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. forms of address, rules of conduct in the game). 
 Introduce rituals: e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. a certain position in which the brat has to &quot;apologize&quot;. 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Complex scenarios (e.g.&amp;nbsp;B. lessons, penalty booklet, points system). 
 Longer sessions with phases of rebellion, taming and aftercare. 
 Deliberate psychological depth: humiliation only in a safe setting, followed by stabilization and lots of aftercare. 
 
 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginner: 
 
 Short scenes: The Brat resists simple instructions (&quot;undress&quot;, &quot;kneel down&quot;), the Tamer reacts with a stern tone. 
 Agree on a safeword and a clear &quot;get out of the role&quot; signal. 
 Talk briefly after the game: What was good, what was too much? 
 
 Level 2 - Advanced: 
 
 Try out roles such as teacher/student, boss/employee or mistress/cheeky servant. 
 Incorporate tasks, small tests or deliberately provocative &quot;missteps&quot;. 
 Clearly define punishments and rewards (e.g.&amp;nbsp;e.g. orgasm control, extra strokes). 
 
 Level 3 - Experienced: 
 
 Longer storylines with recurring rules, diary, to-do lists. 
 Deliberate use of language, gestures and setting (clothing, furniture, toys) to intensify the dynamic. 
 Intensive aftercare to reinforce emotional depth and trust. 
 
 
 Conclusion: cheeky but safe 
 Brat &amp;amp; Brat Tamer is a tingling game between rebelliousness and devotion. It combines humor, power and lust in a way that can enliven many relationships - provided you pay attention to communication, clear boundaries and mutual respect. A Brat can be loud, cheeky and rebellious as long as the Brat Tamer remains calm, consistent and lovingly dominant. This creates a space in which you challenge, guide and catch each other - intense, playful and deeply trusting. 
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                            <updated>2022-01-16T11:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Lick slave - let your tongue dance</title>
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                                            As a lick slave or lick slave you let your tongue dance and prove how agile and receptive it is. There are different types of lick slaves, which are also called lick servants. The word servant evokes less bad memories than the word slave. So if you talk about this fetish in pu...
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                 As a lick slave or lick slave you let your tongue dance and prove how agile and receptive it is. There are different types of lick slaves, which are also called lick servants. 
 The word servant evokes less bad memories than the word slave. So if you talk about this fetish in public, you are more salon-able if you title your sub as a lick servant. 
 The object-bound lick slave 
 The object-bound lick slave has little to do with the body of his counterpart.  He is trained to  lick objects clean. These can be high heels, nylon stockings or even used sex toys. 
 Sometimes this form of fetish does not even have a sexual aspect. The licking slave or slave is out to feel the different textures of the objects and make his dominatrix happy. 
 The body bound licking slave 
 As a body bound licking slave you prefer to clean various parts of your Domina&#039;s body, with your tongue. Usually, a lick slave starts by licking the feet of his master. If he has this perfectly on it, he may wander further up and lick out the vagina or also explore the anus region and give rimjobs. 
 What makes you a good lick slave 
 Of course, you should be submissive. As a femdom lick slave you are subject to the dominance of your mistress. But of course it also works the other way around, the woman is the lick slave and the man is the dominant part. So it doesn&#039;t matter if you are a man or a woman. 
 The only important thing is that you have a flexible tongue and are ready for the training as a lick slave. In the training you will first be an object bound servant before you are allowed to ascend to the human body. 
 The Toilet Slave 
   A particularly fancy fetish is acting out the toilet slave. In this case, you clean the toilet with your tongue after your Mistress uses it. There is also the possibility of licking it clean from urine and feces remains. 
 BDSM area 
 Licking service is incorporated in many fetish areas. Thus, it often occurs in the BDSM area, cuckolding, gangbang and rapeplays. It is a perfect way to act out if vanilla sex is not for you. By the way, vanilla sex and licking can also be combined. So it is then just a little bit kinky. 
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                            <updated>2022-01-16T11:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Vanilla sex - that&#039;s totally okay too!</title>
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                                            Vanilla or also vanilla sex are terms for normal sexual intercourse. Often vanilla is brought to word in the BDSM area to show a clear demarcation. There are vanillas, kinkys, BDSMers and so on.
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                 Vanilla or also vanilla sex are terms for normal sexual intercourse. Often vanilla is brought to word in the BDSM area to show a clear demarcation. There are Vanillas, Kinkys, BDSMler and so on.    Instead of vanilla, the term stino is also often used. In plain language this word means &quot;stinknormal&quot;. A badly chosen word, which hides a lot of devaluation.    Vanilla, on the other hand, is a somewhat more benevolent description of stinky. It derives from the ever-popular vanilla ice cream. Somehow it tastes good to most, but some still find it boring. 
 Who is Vanilla? 
 Vanilla is anyone who does not dare to engage in fancy sex practices. This doesn&#039;t have to have a specific reason, some just don&#039;t need to act out in fancy ways. What is vanilla, however, is not firmly established anywhere.  You are vanilla if, for example, you only like simple sex in the missionary position.  
 Maybe you even refuse to lick or suck. If that&#039;s the case, you&#039;re definitely a fan of vanilla sex. It&#039;s perfectly fine! But you can also count as vanilla if you like different sex positions or also like to be licked / get a blowjob. This is also still vanilla sex. 
 You will only become a Kinky if you like role-playing games or if you like to be fucked harder. BDSMler, on the other hand, you become only if you go for real hardcore sex. Whether dominant or submissive does not matter. 
 What do I have to keep in mind? 
 There is not too much to consider when having vanilla sex. It is part of life for most people. If you are in a long-term relationship, you will have vanilla sex at best several times a week without getting bored. As with all sex practices, it is important that there is always mutual consent.    The word vanilla sex should never be used amusingly or pejoratively. Everyone should accept the preferences of others. Those who are into S&amp;amp;M or the like are welcome to do so, but the &quot;normalos&quot; should not be devalued in any way. Loving normal sex can also be beautiful. 
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                            <updated>2021-10-12T15:15:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Breathplay - Breath reduction the dangerous game in BDSM</title>
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                                            In many books and films on the subject of BDSM, you can also find the breath reduction. Many people wish to experience this for themselves once. But this practice is definitely associated with dangers.
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                 In many books and films on the subject of BDSM, you can also find the breath reduction. Many people wish to experience this for themselves once.  But this    sexual practice    is definitely associated with dangers. 
 We will show you how breath  play  works, what dangers lurk and what you should pay attention to in this type of play. 
 Breathing and the breathing reflex 
 Although we can control our breathing voluntarily, our breathing is still controlled by reflexes. This is the only way we can survive periods of sleep or even unconsciousness without suffocating. 
  We humans can train and thus suppress our breathing reflex for a long period of time , as this article &amp;nbsp;among others impressively illustrates, but without our breathing survival is impossible. 
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 The breath reduction -    Breath Control    have about life 
 The practice of breath reduction in BDSM is so particularly appealing to active and passive players alike for this reason. Because with the reduction of the ability to breathe, survival is controlled at the same time. For example, if the passive partner is tied up, the active partner literally has his life and survival in his hands during breath reduction. 
    Breath control    
 On the other hand, this means that breath reduction gives the active part, i.e. the top, the highest feeling of control  possible in the context of BDSM. On the other hand, the Bottom feels completely dominated and controlled during breath reduction. Thus, it is not surprising that so many people appreciate and love breath reduction as a special type of play. 
 The dangers of Breathplay 
   The problem, however, is that few players are really familiar with the biological, as well as the psychological, components of breath and oxygenation.  The pleasure often comes from the onset of an adrenaline rush and is thus enormously strong and powerful. 
 But the dangers are just as great. Not even the dangers to the body, as no responsible top would risk danger here. It is rather the psychological dangers that make breath reduction so dangerous. 
 Panic and panic reactions occur, which can no longer be controlled and can hardly be restricted. In the worst case, bottoms injure themselves during breath reduction or make it almost impossible for the active partner to reduce the reduction. 
 Here is what to watch out for 
 If you want to try Breathplay yourself, then always only with an experienced partner in this area. It is important that in the best case no aids are used. If a panic occurs, these aids often cannot be removed quickly and safely enough. 
  The hand over the mouth and nose of the bottom can be more than sufficient and accordingly removed quickly.  It is always necessary to act cautiously, to always observe the partner completely and to react correctly. A thoroughly delightful, but also dangerous game for active and passive participants alike. 
  However, we strongly advise against this type of game!  
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                            <updated>2021-03-25T13:00:00+01:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">BDSM terms at a glance</title>
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                                            The term sadomasochism is mainly used by the media and is hardly represented in the BDSM scene. This is partly due to the rather negative connotation of the word, but also because sadism and masochism are only a small variation of BDSM.
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 BDSM has its very own language - full of terms, abbreviations and symbols that often seem puzzling to outsiders. This glossary will help you understand the most important  BDSM terms , categorize them and fill them with life. This will enable you to move more confidently in the scene, better name your desires and explore the world of dominance, devotion, pain and pleasure even more consciously. 
 All terms are explained in such a way that both curious beginners and experienced kinksters can relate to them. The focus is always on  respect, consent, safety and trust . 
 Sadomaso 
 The term  sadomaso  is mainly used by the media and is rather rare in the BDSM scene. This is partly because it is often associated with clichés and negative images, and partly because sadism and masochism are only  part of BDSM . 
 Those who want to express themselves more precisely therefore usually speak of  BDSM  or  sadomasochism . The abbreviation  SM  is also widespread in the scene and is used as an abbreviation for the sadomasochistic area. 
   
 SSC and RACK 
 Two important abbreviations have become established in the BDSM scene that stand for  safe and responsible behavior : 
 
  SSC  - &quot;safe, sane &amp;amp; consensual&quot;: safe, sensible and consensual 
  RACK  - &quot;risk-aware consensual kink&quot;: risk-conscious, consensual kink 
 
 Both concepts make it clear how important it is that everyone involved knows what they are doing, understands the risks and consciously agrees to play together. BDSM is not a loss of control into a bottomless pit, but a  conscious decision  for intense but responsible spaces of experience. 
 Only when  voluntariness, self-determination and trust  are present can we speak of a real BDSM session - and not of violence. 
  More about safety &amp;amp; getting started:   7 helpful tips for BDSM beginners   A dom reports - BDSM in everyday life  
 Top, Dom, Dominant, Domme 
 All of these terms describe the  active, leading part  in a BDSM session or relationship. 
 
  Top  literally means &quot;on top&quot; - the active part in the game. 
  Dom  is a short form of &quot;Dominus&quot;, Latin for &quot;master&quot;. 
  Dominant  generally describes the person who leads, decides and is responsible for the framework of the game. 
  Domme / Dommse  are common terms for  female dominant  persons in the scene. 
 
 The term  dominatrix , on the other hand, is rarely used in the BDSM context - more on this in a moment. 
   
 Dominatrix 
 The term  dominatrix  originates less from the BDSM scene itself, but mainly from the media and the  red-light district . The term dominatrix is generally used to describe women from the professional, commercial sector who offer  SM services  for a fee. 
 Whether these women themselves have real BDSM inclinations or see their activity more as a service varies greatly from person to person. In the private scene, female dominants are therefore usually referred to as  domme  or  mistress . 
 Switcher 
  Switchers  are people who can feel pleasure in both dominant and submissive or active and passive roles. They enjoy changing positions - depending on their partner, mood or setting. 
 While some BDSMers are clearly defined (e.g. permanently sub or dom), switchers draw pleasure, power and devotion from  both sides of the game . 
 Vanilla 
  Vanilla  is an affectionately ironic term from the BDSM scene for people or sexuality without BDSM, fetish or pronounced kinks. The term is humorously based on surveys according to which vanilla is the most popular ice cream flavor - in other words,  &quot;the normal&quot;.  
 Vanilla sex is nothing bad or boring - it simply describes  classic, widespread sexuality  without bondage, spanking etc. In the scene, people who have nothing to do with BDSM are sometimes referred to as &quot;vanillas&quot; with a wink. 
  An exciting addition:   Vanilla sex - that&#039;s perfectly okay too  
 Fetish 
 Put simply, a  fetish  is the transfer of sexual desire to a specific object, material or body part. The number of possible fetishes is practically infinite. 
  Shoe or foot fetishes , for example, are particularly well known, but latex, leather, nylons, rubber gloves or certain smells can also be fetishized. The BDSM scene is a safe space for many fetishists: individual preferences can be  openly, respectfully and creatively  incorporated into sessions here. 
  More about fetish:   Fetish Blog   Foot fetish - fascination &amp;amp; backgrounds  
 Kink 
  Kink  is an English term for a person&#039;s  sexual preferences  - especially those that deviate from the social norm. A kink can include, for example, bondage, spanking, clinic games or role play, without necessarily being a full-blown fetish. 
 Example: Someone may find it arousing to be tied up (kink) without developing a fetish for ropes or handcuffs. Kink and fetish often complement each other wonderfully - for example when a rubber glove fetish is combined with a kink for clinic games. 
 CBT 
  CBT  stands for  Cock &amp;amp; Ball Torture . The focus here is on  targeted, consensual pain and stimulation of the penis and testicles . Many submissive men find this intensity, when used in a controlled and responsible manner, extremely arousing. 
 Important: CBT is only for  experienced, very well-informed players , as the genitals are sensitive and injury-prone areas of the body. A slow introduction, comprehensive knowledge of anatomy, safety rules and clear agreements are mandatory. 
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  In-depth CBT knowledge:   What is CBT?  
 Coming Out 
 The term  coming out  is known from the queer scene and describes two central steps that can be easily transferred to BDSM: 
 
  Inner coming out:  discovering, reflecting on and accepting your own inclinations. 
  External coming out:  telling other people (partner, circle of friends, possibly family) about your own BDSM inclinations. 
 
 While coming out internally is relatively easy for many BDSM practitioners, public disclosure can be more difficult. BDSM is not yet socially accepted everywhere, and there is sometimes a fear of  social or professional disadvantages . Many therefore choose very carefully who they confide in. 
   
 Bondage 
  Bondage  is much more than &quot;just tying up&quot;. It describes the  artful tying up of  the passive partner with ropes, straps or other restraining devices to restrict freedom of movement and intensify devotion. 
 In classic  Japanese Shibari  or Kinbaku, this often results in real works of art made from knots and ropes. A bondage session can last for hours and range from a gentle hold to complex suspensions (hanging restraints) - always depending on skill, experience and safety knowledge. 
  More about bondage:   Bondage guide - captivating pleasure   Bondage for beginners - practices &amp;amp; safety  
 Spanking 
  Spanking  comes from &quot;to spank&quot; - to spank someone. In the BDSM context, spanking refers to the targeted  hitting of buttocks, thighs or other parts of the body , usually with the hand or special toys. 
 It ranges from playful, slapping blows to intense, painful blows with paddles, brushes, crops or whips. Many subs not only experience physical stimulation during spanking, but also an intense emotional component - from shame to letting go to deep trust. 
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 Spanking can also be very fulfilling for tops, as they see, hear and feel the sub&#039;s reactions immediately. 
  Deepen spanking:   Spanking instructions for beginners   Flogger - a gentle introduction to the world of whips  
 Ring of O 
 The  Ring of O  is a well-known symbol in the BDSM scene and goes back to the novel  &quot;Story of O&quot;  by Pauline Réage. Originally it was a ring with a small eyelet through which a rope or hook could be passed. 
 Today, the symbol is often worn in a modified form: a ring with a small eyelet, a ring on a ring or a piercing can serve as a discreet sign of BDSM inclination. The way it is worn on the hand is also interesting: tops often wear their ring on the left, subs on the right - a silent code among insiders. 
 Play, session, play 
  Game ,  session  or  play  basically mean the same thing: a  time-limited BDSM encounter  in which a specific setting, role play or fantasy is played out together. 
 For the duration of the session, the balance of power is deliberately altered. Afterwards, the participants return to their &quot;normal&quot; everyday role. This clear separation helps to categorize the experience and to deal safely with intense feelings and dynamics. 
   
 Safeword 
 The  safeword  or  stop word  is a central safety measure in BDSM. In many role and pain scenarios, begging, pleading and &quot;please stop&quot; are part of the game - how is the top supposed to recognize when it&#039;s really too much? 
 A previously agreed safeword is the  clear boundary between play and seriousness : if it is used, the top must  stop immediately  or at least check the situation. 
 The word  &quot;Mayday&quot; , for example, is used internationally. It is easy to remember, hardly ever occurs in normal dirty talk and is therefore not used inadvertently. Important: The safeword must be easy to remember, especially in stressful situations. 
 Slowwords 
 In addition to the safeword, there are also so-called  slow words  that the sub can use to control the  intensity  without stopping the entire session. The  traffic light system  is popular: 
 
  Green:  all good, preferably more intense. 
  Orange/yellow:  close to the limit, slow down or lighten up. 
  Red:  limit exceeded, pause or stop immediately. 
 
 This allows the sub to actively protect their body and help shape the game without falling out of the setting, despite being submissive in the role. The better the partners know each other, the more subtle the non-verbal signals usually become; however, a safeword is always a good safeguard. 
 This glossary can only give you an introduction - but it should help you to  better understand BDSM , recognize your own desires and find a common language with your partners. What you make of it is your own personal, consensual journey. 
 
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                            <updated>2020-09-01T09:45:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Tunnel games - the appealing danger</title>
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                                            Tunnel games are exciting, but also dangerous. Anyone who gets involved in this type of BDSM game should be able to go beyond their own limits. If you are still new to the BDSM scene, don&#039;t start with tunnel games straight away. They could scare you off.
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                  Tunnel play  is one of the most intense and risky BDSM practices. It requires mental strength, trust and a deep understanding of your own limits. The special attraction arises from the fact that the game - once started -  cannot be stopped prematurely . The path only leads forward, never back. This feeling of being at the mercy of others can be incredibly exciting, but requires responsible preparation. 
 The following applies to beginners in particular: feel your way slowly. Tunnel play is not a practice for a first BDSM adventure, but for people who already have experience with pain, power imbalances and psychological stress. 
 Not even a safeword can save you 
 In almost all BDSM sessions, a  safeword  serves as the foundation for safety and trust. It is the tool that immediately stops any action when boundaries are reached or crossed. Tunnel games are different:  there is deliberately no safeword . 
 This renunciation changes everything. Anyone who starts a tunnel game commits to sticking with it for the entire duration. That&#039;s why it&#039;s essential to precisely define in advance  what kind of tunnel game  you want to play, how intense it can be and what physical and mental strain is expected. 
  Tip for beginners:  Don&#039;t play tunnel games at all. First practice with normal sessions in which a safeword applies.  Tip for advanced players:  Establish &quot;soft tunnel games&quot;, e.g. figging or short control rituals with clearly defined time periods.  Tip for experienced players:  Work with secondary safety mechanisms (sight control, silent signals), but never without follow-up. 
 The popular Figging 
  Figging  is one of the mildest forms of tunnel play - and yet it is anything but harmless. Here, controlled, burning pain is produced by natural products: ginger, chili or nettles. 
   
 Stinging nettles can cover the body or be applied specifically to sensitive areas. The intense pain and itching creates a powerful, inescapable sensation - you cannot remove it until the effect subsides on its own. 
  Ginger  can be inserted anal or vaginally. The heat develops slowly, creates a deep burning sensation and lasts for a long time without causing lasting damage.  Chili  produces an even stronger heat and should only be used by very experienced partners. 
  Explore matching categories:   BDSM &amp;amp; Bondage  -  Fetish &amp;amp; Special Practices  -  SM Tools  
 Shackles that cannot be released 
 One of the hardest variants of tunnel play is  long-term bondage . Being tied up for six to eight hours - often in uncomfortable positions - can be extremely challenging, both physically and mentally. 
 Not only pain, but also loss of control, restlessness, cold, tingling or the urge to go to the toilet can intensify the experience or put a lot of strain on you. 
 The active part must not open the lock - no matter how much you  whimper, moan or plead . This is what makes the situation so exciting, but also so dangerous. 
 A  time lock  that only opens when the timer runs out offers more security. A creative but equally relentless alternative:  frozen locks . The restraint only ends when the block of ice melts. 
 This requires strong communication from both participants in advance, precise planning and trust - because tunnel games always involve psychological stress. 
 Tips for all levels - tunnel games step by step 
  Level 1 - Beginners:  - No real tunnel play: instead, mini-challenges without safeword waiver. - Get to know types of pain, reactions and your own limits. - Observe psychological effects in short sessions.   Level 2 - Advanced:  - Figging or light immobilization with clear time windows (10-20 minutes). - Use time locks, but maintain visual contact and communicate intensively beforehand. - Set clear rules for aftercare, water, room temperature and breaks afterwards.   Level 3 - Experienced:  - Longer restraint times, strong stimulants or psychological tunnels (series of commands). - No safeword - but silent safety mechanisms (agreements in advance). - Always medically safe positions, no risk to breathing or circulation. 
 Role play step by step - depending on the level 
  Level 1 - Beginner:  1. &quot;You will hold this stimulus to the end.&quot; - Clear but easy tasks. 2. Stimuli with a short duration, e.g. slight heat or pressure. 3. Debriefing for processing.   Level 2 - advanced:  1. Scenario: &quot;You are entering the tunnel now, there is no turning back.&quot; 2. Time lock or figging to start. 3active observes reactions and only increases within the agreed framework.   Level 3 - Experienced:  1. Intensive mental guidance: ritual, countdown, fixed rules. 2. Stimuli that become stronger over time (long burn, positions). 3. Emotional aftercare as an obligation, not an option. 
 Why tunnel games are so appealing - and so dangerous 
 The fascination arises from the combination of powerlessness, surrender and inevitability. Those who practice tunnel play are not just looking for physical stimulation, but a deep psychological experience. 
 But this is precisely why safety must be the top priority: Anatomy, risks, circulation, breathing, temperature, psychological stability - all of these must be considered and taken seriously. Tunnel play is only erotic if it is carried out responsibly. 
 You are allowed to be creative - but never forget:  nothing and no one will release you prematurely . 
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                            <updated>2019-06-21T13:00:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Scrotal infusion - a game for experts</title>
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                                            Many men are particularly sensitive on their testicles and enjoy the stimulation of this area very strongly. With the scrotum infusion is a game type of BDSM available, which makes use of exactly these feelings and includes a whole new form of stimulation
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                 Many men are particularly sensitive on their testicles and enjoy the stimulation of this area very strongly. With the scrotum  infusion is a game type of BDSM  available, which makes use of exactly these feelings and includes a whole new form of stimulation. 
 In the case of  scrotum inf  usion, fluid is introduced into the scrotum via a syringe, which stretches in the process. This practice is also known as  ballooning  or  saline . 
 This is how scrotal infusion works 
 Scrotal infusion is usually  performed with real medical supplies, which means a sterile syringe.  In most cases, this involves slowly and carefully injecting isotonic saline into the scrotum so that it swells and enlarges. 
  More recently, some users also rely on glucose solution , which leads to an even greater enlargement of the scrotum. Men describe the feeling as particularly interesting and intense, as the testicle becomes larger, heavier and can be stimulated enormously. It is  important to  note that the fluid in the testicle is gradually broken down by the body in a natural way. 
 However, the body needs a lot of time for this, so the strongly swollen scrotum  remains  with the men for  several days after the actual scrotum infusion . Those who like the feeling of stretching their own scrotum can thus enjoy this feeling much longer by injecting saline or glucose. 
 Different types of BDSM games where the scrotum infusion can be considered 
   Although the scrotum infusion can theoretically be integrated into the different types of play, it mainly takes place in the field of white eroticism.  Here, saline infusion can be integrated into role play in a particularly simple and straightforward manner. 
 In addition, such factors as  disinfection of the puncture site  and handling of the medical device are particularly intense for the patient in this play environment.    In other situations, scrotal infusion can also be incorporated into the game, but then requires better preparation and, above all, clean and sterile equipment. 
 Risks and dangers of scrotal infusion 
 Basically, an infusion into the scrotum should only ever be performed if the person treating the patient is sure how the action should be performed. This is because there are several points that must be given special attention during this practice.  First, the infusion should be given into the scrotum and not into the actual testicles.  
 Otherwise, problems with sperm production may occur in the testicles. Second, the  injection  must be  given slowly and with low pressure . The testicle and the skin of the testicle must be allowed to expand slowly during the scrotal infusion.      Of course, sterility of the instruments and the treatment site is particularly important . Absolute hygiene must be emphasized here. Unfortunately, despite optimal hygiene, infections cannot always be avoided. Since this is a very sensitive area, which is often exposed to sweat and darkness for a long time, infections can still occur after the treatment. 
  So if you have a scrotal infusion performed on you , check your testicles thoroughly on the following days. Infections or pain should immediately lead you to report to your family doctor.    If such infections are not treated correctly and as quickly as possible, they can lead to serious complications. These can have a massive impact not only on your health, but also on your ability to conceive.  In any case, caution is advisable here.  A visit to the doctor can prevent damage. 
 You should pay attention to the following 
   There are a few points that you should always keep in mind when infusing the scrotum:   - Only use absolutely sterile syringes  - Only use saline or glucose solution from a medical supply store  - Only inject the fluid slowly into the scrotum  - Thoroughly disinfect the scrotum before the infusion  - Inform your patient about the risk beforehand and remind him or her to constantly check the testicles 
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                            <updated>2019-05-31T14:00:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">BDSM Switcher - exciting, but somehow alienating</title>
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                                            In the BDSM scene, everyone has their place. There is the dominant part and the submissive part. Or not? No! There is also the switcher! This can slip into both roles.
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                 In the BDSM scene, everyone has their place.  There is the dominant part and the submissive part.  Or not? No! There is also the  switcher ! This can slip into both roles.     In a role-playing game, the roles are usually fixed. One dominates, the other submits. But the situation is different when you meet a BDSM Switcher. This person does not exchange the role play for another, but simply changes the part.    From dominated he suddenly becomes a sub. The role change can also happen in the middle of a role play. The switcher doesn&#039;t have to wait until the next roleplay to reverse his part. A bit strange, but quite feasible. 
 It does not depend on the gender 
 Well, the changeable woman, you might think.  But no, a switcher can be female or male.  This special preference is not only subject to one gender. For men it is very exciting when they are first put down and then suddenly fight back and punish and suppress the woman. 
 As a woman, it is special to rise from the oppressed sweetheart to the punishing dominatrix. She loosens her bonds, frees herself from the predicament and takes revenge on the man. 
 A small BDSM Switcher example 
 Let&#039;s take a BDSM role play in a doctor&#039;s clinic as an example. The doctor examines the lovely lady. He examines her very closely, starts touching her, fingering her and getting horny on her. She is clearly the sub in this role play and has to put up with everything. 
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 Finally, the doctor has dangerous instruments at hand. So she lies on the couch, lets everything happen over her. If she starts to resist a bit, he ties her to the doctor&#039;s couch. But watch out, now comes the switcher. In this case the switcher is the woman. Because she can free herself from her bonds and overpower the man. 
 Now he is lying on the couch. On his back, tied up, defenseless. She can play with him and decide where he goes. She can torture him, make him horny, let him fall or simply take him.     For many such switcher games are a bit confusing, because simply the fixed roles are enjoyed. Every now and then, however, a game with a switcher can offer completely new erotic stimuli. 
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                            <updated>2019-05-30T13:15:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">Top and bottom in ageplay - a field with many dangers</title>
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                                            Ageplay is a term from the field of BDSM, in which one or both partners assume different ages in fantasy and act them out in play.
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 Ageplay is a term from the field of BDSM, in which one or both partners assume different ages in fantasy and live them out in play. It is very often the case that the bottom or the sub are made younger in order to create a greater power differential to the top. 
  This is the rule, but not always and everywhere valid.  There are also games in which the top is made much older to achieve a similar effect. 
 Top and Bottom - what do the terms actually mean? 
 The terms top and bottom or dom and sub are almost commonplace in the BDSM scene and are used a lot and frequently. As you can see in this information video, the different roles in the various sexual games are meant. 
 &amp;nbsp; Top or Dom are  always the determining and controlling role models in the power structure of BDSM , while Sub or Bottom are controlled and subjected to psychological or physical punishment and appropriate treatment. 
  How pronounced the whole thing is depends not least on the type of play and its individual expression.  
 Ageplay in its various forms 
  In ageplay, players thus change their age in the game , for example, in order to more easily empathize with or re-enact certain situations.  Common forms  are, for example, the rejuvenation to men or women who have just reached the age of majority and who, for example, are subjected to a comprehensive examination during muster or who are reprimanded by the instructor. 
   
 The more extreme forms of ageplay go even further and select age groups of child or baby age. Often, these preferences are located in the area of diaper fetish or adult baby.  However, such games are frowned upon in parts of the scene , so many people tend to live out their preferences in the dark and in secret. 
 No wonder, these games seem to be clearly too much in the realm of pedophilia. Even though most of the people concerned would disagree here, research currently assumes a kind of autopaedophilia. Adherents of Adult Baby Play rarely come out for this reason and are therefore rarely found.   [Emotion emotion_id=&quot;397&quot; ] 
 Bottom and Top in Ageplay - different angles of observation 
 Often, the bottom in ageplay is already relieved of the responsibility because of the age. Whether just at muster or at a job interview, the power imbalance is very noticeable. In addition, the new age helps the bottom to empathize more easily with the role and to be disciplined and reprimanded. 
 As a top in ageplay, on the other hand, roleplay is also much simplified. If in one&#039;s own mind the bottom is much younger and thus less knowledgeable, it is easier to appear dominant and knowledgeable. 
 It is therefore of crucial importance that in the run-up to ageplay an appropriate age and a certain level of knowledge is agreed upon. This way, both partners benefit immensely. 
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                            <updated>2019-05-26T18:30:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">A Dom reports: BDSM is more than fulfilling your desires</title>
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                                            I am dominant and like to live that out in sexual games. But I am not a sadist. I do not inflict pain to intoxicate myself with it, but I experience my sexual pleasure through the submission of the sub to my commands.
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                 To familiarize you with the topic of BDSM, we have asked an experienced Dom to describe his view and his experiences in the field of BDSM.  Of course there is not &quot;the Dom&quot; , but always only personalities. Nevertheless, through this report you can see what is important to many Doms in the fulfillment of their sexual desire. 
 As a Dom you don&#039;t have to be a sadist 
 I am dominant and I like to live it out in sexual games. But I am not a sadist. I do not inflict pain in order to get intoxicated by it, but I experience my sexual pleasure through the subjugation of the sub to my commands. 
 How we arrange the joint sessions depends not only on me and my wishes, but also on the preferences of the sub. After all, we should both be able to live out our pleasure. 
 Pain should always have a purpose 
 As mentioned, pain is part of the game for many subs. However, that doesn&#039;t mean that pain should just be inflicted. Pain, whether by hand, whip, or even brush is used either as a reward or as a punishment.    
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 It is important that the dose is right. Here it needs experience. Because neither too light, nor too strong punishment keeps the mood up. It is always necessary to find the right dosage. 
 BDSM is a common waltz to the beat of the melody 
 BDSM does not mean fulfilling only my desires at all costs and focusing only on my pleasure. Much more it is like a dance, where the man leads, but without the movements of the partner would still not advance. I pay attention to the lust and desires of my subs and try to satisfy them. 
  Because the pleasure of the subs comes from the submission , from the pains and from the pleasure of serving. It is a sexual inclination that I do not share, but I can combine perfectly with my inclination. A constant give and take on a wavelength. 
 For this reason, by the way, the BDSM relationship gets better and better the longer it lasts. Because the knowledge of the limits and desires of the other and the increasing trust allow much more intense games and sessions. 
   
 Sub or partner - there are clear differences 
 As a Dom, I&#039;ve had quite a few female partners as well as many subs in shorter or longer affairs. And there are huge differences. For example, I am not obligated to be faithful to a sub. 
 I can even purposefully sleep with other women to humiliate the sub and thus give her a feeling of pleasure. With my partners it looks different. Without the explicit permission of my partner, I would never touch another woman, let alone sleep with her. 
 This is also true in cases where my partner shared my preferences and enjoyed the joint sexual games as a sub. 
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                            <updated>2019-05-15T15:00:00+02:00</updated>
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            <title type="text">BDSM relationships: Dominant men are rarely monogamous</title>
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                                            Whoever takes the dominant part in a BDSM relationship automatically and by definition has more rights, but also more duties. Because it is up to the Dom both to provide for the safety of the sub
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 The novel 50 Shades of grey gave millions of readers a glimpse into the world of lust and submission, of power and sexual liberation. But how realistic is the novel anyway? 
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 The main protagonist as a dominant man falls in love with a young woman and monogamously lives out his own lust for dominance with her. The reality is often different. 
 The difference between relationship and BDSM relationship 
 First of all, there is a clear distinction to be made here. Because many dominant men distinguish very clearly between a normal partnership and a BDSM relationship. In a normal partnership, love and the encounter at eye level play an important role.   
 Here also dominant men usually live monogamously and would not dream of cheating on their own partner. Of course, they want the same from their female partners. In BDSM relationships, however, this looks quite different. 
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 The dominant part and his rights and duties 
 Whoever takes the dominant part in a BDSM relationship automatically and by definition has more rights, but also more duties. This is because it is up to the Dom to both provide for the safety of the sub and to ensure her integrity during the sessions. 
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 In return, however, the Dom is also granted more rights. While a sub has to serve only one Dom and is often exclusively available to him,  a Dom in such a relationship does not have to be monogamous . He can play with other subs - even in the presence of his own sub - or have fun with her alone. This is the power which he can exercise and which is also exercised by most Doms. 
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 BDSM and love - here it gets complicated 
 
 It gets complicated when a love relationship is also a BDSM relationship. If in a normal partnership in the areas of joint play BDSM plays a major role, it can be quite difficult, but also very fulfilling. 
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 On the one hand, it is important to  maintain the balance between play and normal life . In normal life, both partners are usually equal and at eye level, while this is completely negated in the game. Here, too, a Dom would definitely have the right to live non-monogamously and, for example, to include another sub in the game. 
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 However, in consideration of normal life and the feelings of the partner, most Doms do without this possibility or exercise it only in direct coordination with their own partner. 
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 Life as a Dom - complicated and fulfilling at the same time 
 As a flexible Dom in simple BDSM relationships, life is simple and straightforward. There are only a few limits which are set on a sexual basis. In a real relationship based on one&#039;s own feelings, on the other hand, many Doms automatically limit themselves and take a lot of consideration for the feelings of their own partner. 
  Important  for a fulfilling life together with the same sexual interests. 
 
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                            <updated>2019-05-14T10:00:00+02:00</updated>
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